Q for co-sleepers out there

[MioNome]

DS2 is 8.5mo and we've been co-sleeping for some of the night since birth. First months DP slept in spare bed when I brought DS2 in. A couple of months ago we bought a bed guard so DS2 sleeps on one side by bed guard, I'm in middle of bed then DP on my other side.

However DS2 has started rolling and shifting loads in his sleep, often ending up perpendicular to me. He's also started pulling himself up and has learnt to crawl (still on his tummy but he's getting stronger on his knees)

I don't feel he's safe by the bed guard any more as we have a thick mattress so it's not all that high. I have visions of him pulling himself up and tipping over, or otherwise getting stuck/wedged somehow. There's a rolled up towel between guard mesh and mattress so there's no gap at least. Every time he shifts I wake, but this isn't a fail safe method!

Would he be ok at almost 9mo if we move him to between us? We have a very big bed, super king.

I know older kids can cosleep in the middle and we did a bit of this with DS1 but not sure about babies.

We co slept occasionally when dd was about this age. Just moved our pillows apart and put her head in the (big) gap with her grobagged body on top of our duvet. Worked fine for us.....

I started putting DS in the middle once he was as thrashy as this - I figured it's the thrashing that would keep him safe from DH rolling.... I do always keep a arm around him too (we are only occasional co-sleepers too) and DH doesn't use a duvet in the summer so there's no worry with the duvet. I think the official advice would be to sleep on a mattress on the floor?

I use a mattress on the floor, but for holidays he just sleeps in the middle. He moves a lot at well but doesn't get close enough to the edge to fall out. We put pillows on the floor at the end of the bed just incase. Mine is slightly older at 10 months and it did make me a bit nervous when he kept rolling towards DH but they have such good movement & control as this age that I think they're safe. I do prefer a mattress on the floor though.

Ooh just thought, when I stay at my in laws without dh, if ds ends up in bed with me I turn sideways so he's between the headboard and me - might work in your superking if you and dh are short enough?

Not quite the same as my dh is in the spare room, but I got so worried about the movement that I stopped sleeping so well. I've since put the bed in the attic and have the mattress on the floor and things are much better (apart from hourly wake ups but that's a different story). Sorry not really what you asked, but anyway it might be helpful.

I have the same situation with a bed guard and active baby. We've pushed the bed against the wall and plan to swap so DS is between me and wall.

DD is 22 months, and has co slept since 8 weeks. At about 7m she went between us (possibly at 6m?), and has been fine since then. We never used a bed guard.

As he can move and shift about he will be fine between the two of you. If my DH has been out, he sleeps on the sofa.

We have a king size but will buy a bigger bed once DC2 arrives (in 7 weeks!)