Dd, 19 months, previously a good sleeper has been having problems over the last few weeks. I've posted about it before and won't bore anyone with details again but basically we've decided after 3 nights of awful sleep for all of us that we're going to have to try controlled crying seriously. The thing that's confusing me is about whether or not to pick them up when you go in. I've looked at Ferber and Christopher Green. Ferber says not to pick up but to spend 2-3 minutes talking gently to them and then leave. Green says pick up and cuddle until they've quietened down and then put them down and leave. What's been happening with dd is that she stands in the cot calling for me and only goes back to sleep when I go in and lay her down which she does quite quickly in the night and I wouldn't mind if she wasn't doing it 3-4 times a night! She doesn't seem to want to lie down on her own. Should I try not picking her up and see if she'll eventually lie down? (We did try this once in the middle of the night and she stood calling for me for 2 hours, whereas she goes straight back to sleep if I do pick her up and lie her down). We're at our wits end, fighting with each other we're so tired now and really don't know what to do. If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it, otherwise I think we're going to have to try a sleep clinic but they're so bloody expensive.