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13 month old - will not sleep! Help!

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babyiwantabump · 26/01/2015 02:37

Anyone have any ideas? It's currently 2.34 am and my 13 month old is still awake.

Granted the screaming has stopped but he is now stood up in his cot staring and yawning and saying maaaamaaaaaa maaaamaaaaaa with a sad face .
If I bring him in with me he just messes about .
Tried controlled crying . He is in our room so can't do gradual retreat( well can but just to the bed)

Help!
Am still breastfeeding if it makes a difference .

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babyiwantabump · 26/01/2015 02:53

Well we've given up and he's back in our bed messing around .

Don't know what to do Sad

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Babytalkobsession · 26/01/2015 04:38

My 14 month DS has just gone quiet now finally after 2.5hours of crying, chatting & shouting all whilst running eyes & yawning!

I just don't get it. Alarm for work will go off in 2 hours so better get some sleep myself now.

No advice for you OP but you're not alone. No one EVER said it would be this hard Sad

ThisIsntFunnyDean · 26/01/2015 07:18

Almost 14 month old DS here. Last few weeks sleep has been dreadful. Last few nights, it's every hour waking as if in pain but nothing eases it and I don't want to keep dosing him. Goes to sleep in cot at half 7 but will wake a few hours later and flat out will not get back in. It's our bed or nothing. Last night I tried to tackle it but he just screamed and was nearly making himself sick. Gave up, which I know just sends him the wrong message but I just can't listen to the crying. He's still in our room too.
We are broken. im off today but it'd be bloody easier to go to work.
Sorry, I'm no help but you're definitely not alone!

Solasum · 26/01/2015 08:11

Me too.
DS 13mo has never gone through the night, but the last few weeks has been waking up 4 or 5 times. I am working FT so on my knees :(

I assumed it was teeth so started with Calpol which seemed to help a bit, then thought he might be cold, but actually I think he is just sad when he wakes up.

Flowers to all

I recently started using the sleep cycle app, so can now see exactly how much he wakes up, it is not just a bad dream...

LimesMum · 26/01/2015 08:59

I feel your pain we have recently been through this with our DD.. Controlled crying was she only way in the end. Is there anyway at all you could put LO in own room? Is this a new thing? What are naps like?

ThisIsntFunnyDean · 26/01/2015 10:07

Must download that app... Just so I can see how bad it really is!

He was in his own room till a few months ago but moved him back thinking it might help! Ha!!

Has never slept through but wasn't ever this bad so hoping it a phase! Again.. Ha!

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babyiwantabump · 26/01/2015 12:45

Will have to download that app too!

I just don't know what to do - have not long started back at work - Luckily only working part time nights at the minute so can get that bit of extra sleep. But DP is exhausted as the fussing and fighting of sleep is obviously keeping him up too!

Can't put DS in his own room just yet - have temporarily moved DD in there so can decorate her room astrying to get the house ready to put up for sale later in the year.

He has molars coming through but I really don't think that is the issue as he just wants to play in our bed! Hoping it's just a phase and will pass.
We are really going to be trying to get on with some sleep training this week though I think .

Zzzzzzzzzzz

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Solasum · 26/01/2015 12:50

We are in a one bed flat, so nowhere else for DS to go, plus I think my neighbours would kill me if I left him crying long at night. Plus, much to my surprise, I find I just, can't. I keep thinking he will grow out of it..,

Solasum · 26/01/2015 12:51

Limes, how long did it take?

freelancegirl · 26/01/2015 12:55

Get a sleep consultant! They re the only ones that can authoritatively advise and come up with a plan - having trained 1000s. We had one when DS1 was 13 months and it took about 3 nights and involved very little trauma for all. It cost us £250 and was worth every penny.£?

SweetsForMySweet · 26/01/2015 13:32

Had a similar problem here but dd is 2. Tried the cio method (recommended by the experts), it made it much worse. Eventually we bought her cot bed into our room and put it beside me with the side bar off, (our rule was that dd was allowed on our room but not allowed in our bed so I maintained a strong resistance when she tried to push/roll onto our bed). I stayed in for naps and until dd fell asleep at night (and used to sneak out when asleep). We moved back in to dd's room after about 2 weeks when she started to settle better, I stayed in spare bed next to cot, started to gradually put the bar back up and move cot and bed apart. Eventually, I would reassure her I wouldn't be gone away for long and let her lie in cot with teddy (after bedtime routine) while I left the room to get ready for bed. Leaving the bedroom door open until she fell asleep helped too. It was hard and it took a month but we're back to 'normal' finally. I also cut down/cut out nap time because of several night time wakings(but your dc might be a little young for that yet). We gave calpol/neurofen for teething. I breastfed until recently, fully weaned now but she did try to attempt to get a feed a few times recently so it could be a developmental stage. Could your ds be going through a wwonder week or teething?

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babyiwantabump · 27/01/2015 03:48

He has teeth coming through but they don't seem to be bothering him that much.

We decided to properly try controlled crying method again tonight . So bath, story , bottle then into cot . It took an hour just like most of the books and info say but he finally put himself off to sleep . It was horrible. But will keep at it.

Decided to introduce the bottle so that DH can do bedtime as I work nights so will not be around for some bed times - also if I tried to do the bedtime he would automatically want the boob to help him sleep and we really need to get him to stop relying on the boob so much!

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babyiwantabump · 27/01/2015 04:14

Oh and he's been fast asleep ever since but I'm randomly wide awake! Sod's law and all that!

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LimesMum · 27/01/2015 05:48

Sounds promising!! Fingers crossed.

It took 3-4 days to see improvements and a week or so for sleeping through, although we had and still do have early waking issues but can't have it all! She is much better and now sleeps 7pm to anywhere between 5 and 6 (if we get 6 it's like the biggest lie in!!!) but normally closer to 5.

We also cut back the naps to one in middle of the day which was painful initially. And try putting her to bed a little earlier than we used to.

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babyiwantabump · 07/02/2015 15:09

Still won't dleep!! Gone back to co sleeping as couldn't handle the controlled crying .

Zzzzzz

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