What percentage of uk babies sleep through from 3 months? ???

[Nancy54]

Obvs I know no one can give me a precise answer, but are there lots of British babies that sleep through (and continue to do so) at three months??? Did yours? Did all your friends' ?

I ask because I live in France, am British with a french partner. Our children were not good sleepers and we are seen as freaks of nature amongst our french friends here. All the french babies we know all apparently start sleeping through around the 3 month mark, there's no mention of 4 month sleep regression or whatever and most of them apparently sleep from 830 til 830!

I find this odd as I would say at least half of my British friends have bad sleeper! My dp doesn't believe it when I say British kids doing sleep like this and things it's just the people I'm friends with!

DS started sleeping through 7.30-7 with 10.30 dreamfeed at 12 weeks.He's mix fed-not sure it makes a difference. I think he's just a good sleeper.

EBF DS did from about 8-12w.

Universally accepted to be a freak of nature by NCT group & friends.

DD1- slept through from 12 weeks, 7pm to 7am.
DD2- slept through from 9 weeks, 6-7pm to 7-8am.

Both EBF. I thought mine were freaks of nature too, now pg with #3 and hoping it's genetic!

Oh and can I just say neither of mine have been left to cry. Dd2 has had a couple of periods of a week or so where she has woken at night maybe once with teething pain but is generally easy and quick to settle back down. Usually just give her quick cuddle, sometimes calpol, and she lies back down to sleep happily.

Dd1 didn't sleep through until 18 months when we moved out of my parents' and she went into her own room. From then she would only wake at night if she was ill, had a nightmare, fell out of bed, etc, so roughly once a week on average

Dd2 first slept through the night at 6 weeks old (from 10pm-7am), I thought she was wonderful. I bragged about how being much more chilled out this time meant she was a better sleeper . At 16 weeks it all went out the window and she was back to being up 2 or 3 times a night for bf, that went on til I night-weaned at 14 months. She's 4 now and still comes into our bed a lot, we're trying a sticker chart which she loves but it's still hit and miss, so roughly half the time she climbs in with us at some point during the night.

Dd1 slept through from 9 weeks.

At 16 weeks she broke and didn't do it again until 6mo

Dd2 just skipped the sleeping through stage and didn't until 6mo.

Both ebf

Saying that, they're both fabulous sleepers now

And they're half French if that affects your sample

(Dh not me)

DD from 8.5 mo

DS from 20 mo

Luck of the draw in my opinion!

Both mine slept through 7-7 from 3 months...

...to 4 months. So far dd still a crappy sleeper at 2.5yrs and too early to tell for ds (nearly 5months).

Ds did 5 hours at 3 months but from 6.30-7pm. He'd then have 2 night feeds.

I'd imagine that French parents tend to ff, to a strict 4hr routine and teach the babies to self settle early (probably leaving to cry). If babies aren't responded to at night they probably learn.

They also survive. I wish I'd have followed it!

I am going to go back and read through as this is very interesting but here are out vital stats!

Dd slept 8 hours from 5 weeks. She was ff but had been a reliable 3 hour sleeper when on pumped BM - it was formula that messed that up initially.

I know of no one else whose baby slept so long so early but yet old ladies often used to nod approvingly when they asked and I told them. Sleep is an obsession!

We are uk btw.

Both mine did from 3ish months. Although I classify sleeping through as from 11pm-7am ish

Bf on demand 7am-11pm. From 12 weeks didn't feed if they woke between 11pm-7am. With 16 hrs on demand feeding in the day, I think they were perfectly able to go 8hrs at night without.

My first 2 dc slept through the night (approx 11 -7) from 6 weeks exactly then from about 3 mo 12 hours. I genuinely thought I was some kind of superior mum

However ....Dc3 is coming up for 2mo and she hasn't got that memo and wakes 3 x a night approx 1am 4am and 7am so clearly it's sod all to so with my brilliant parenting

I don't cope at all well with tiredness and broken sleep. I look and feel utterly shit. In fact, I am broken by it

Literally praying it gets better soon as struggling. God only knows how people cope when it goes on for months / years

And my sister's dd slept 8pm-6am from 10 weeks and is ebf.

Ours is half French (DH) though we live in the uk. dd 'slept through' 11-7ish with a dream feed 4-6 months then hasn't since (she's 1). Evenings were another story though. Most of the time she wakes 1-2 times and only feeds one of them, though the last few days she has been bouncing about at 5am (hoping this will stop tonight!)

I read French Chikdren don't throw food and it and my experience DH's friends suggest to me that on average the French train their children much more ruthlessly. They also don't have a culture of sharing the pain it's much more about putting on a front. The PILs are obsessed with sleep, and could not get their heads around breast feeding. They thought we might want to leave dd with them when we visited she was 8 weeks old!

Friends of DH (so our generation) were all straight on the bottle and regularly leave their v small babies (3 months or so) with their parents / in laws while they take a weeks holiday without them.

Personally, I'm happy to be there for DD while she is little, they idea of 'training' her would be wrong for us. the more I get to know French culture the more I see how their parenting style both shapes and reflects in their generally quite conservative, repressed adult culture.

And I find the priorities quite shocking: a French girl in our NCT was delighted her little one was sleeping through at 2 months and ignored the health visitors advice to feed him in the night due to his low birth weight and v slow weight gain .

Can I also say that dd has never been left to cry. Quite thre opposite actually. I have often disturbed her by interfering. Some babies just love sleep.

I do remember feeling a bit judged for having a sleeping baby actually as though I must be drugging her or something. We just can't win!!

My ds1 and dd1 both slept through (as in 7pm-7am ish) from about 8 weeks and are still heavy sleepers now.

My ds2 did sleep through from around 12/14 weeks but he would sleep from 7pm to around 5.30am at first, although he even stopped doing that, and slept till about 7am, at about a year old so we have been very lucky I think.

I felt judged to passme ! I never used to tell anyone !

All mine was sleeping through by 2 months I have three children in total, 2 boys and 1 girl. Hope this baby does the same.

Thanks Nancy , yes I am very grateful especially as my little boy is only 21 months so has only been sleeping through for a month.

Oh ours never left to cry either. If they woke 11pm-7am they were simply rocking/ soothed in any way apart from feeding. Meant that within a few days of not feeding during night thy simply didn't wake. I suppose they knew they would be woken/ needs met when needed

My DS slept through (11-7/8) at 3 months. For six weeks. Eight weeks of sleep regression hell followed. Now at nearly 9 months he still wakes once in the night, any time between 11 and 2.30, for a feed. It currently takes flippin' ages to get him back to sleep

DS is currently sleeping 5 hours 11-4am in one go.
A feed and hen back to sleep for another 4 hours. He's 16 weeks old.

Both dcs slept 10 to 7 from about 12 weeks

Ds slept from 7 to about 2/3am was fed then back to sleep till 7, from about 12 weeks, stopped waking up to be fed at about 4/5 months. You think I would remember he's only 10 months.
He has never been left to cry and I haven't done any sleep training, just lucky.
Since I don't have a non sleeper, what do the older kids do/want if they wake up at night?