What percentage of uk babies sleep through from 3 months? ???

[Nancy54]

Obvs I know no one can give me a precise answer, but are there lots of British babies that sleep through (and continue to do so) at three months??? Did yours? Did all your friends' ?

I ask because I live in France, am British with a french partner. Our children were not good sleepers and we are seen as freaks of nature amongst our french friends here. All the french babies we know all apparently start sleeping through around the 3 month mark, there's no mention of 4 month sleep regression or whatever and most of them apparently sleep from 830 til 830!

I find this odd as I would say at least half of my British friends have bad sleeper! My dp doesn't believe it when I say British kids doing sleep like this and things it's just the people I'm friends with!

[shimmymummy]

Have you read 'Why French Children Don't Throw Food". It by a British woman who has a baby whilst living in France and compares children are raised and develop. Its hilarious and there is a whole chapter on this very phenomenon. She also interviews experts and refers to published research and popular child development books. Sounds like its a must read for you!

[Feelinghungry]

My ebf ds started to do 7/8 hour stretches around 2 months. Then regressed for a few weeks around 3/4 months waking several times a night. This then got better to waking twice a night then once, then at about at about 5.5 months he started to consistently sleep between 10-12 hours without waking. Now 7 months and is sleeping 7pm -6/7am . Just to put a bit of perspective on things as a few of the posts here may slightly support the case that a bottle fed baby is more likely to sttn.

[MagicDucky]

Maybe the sleeping coincides with when they move to bottle? Apparently that's quite common.

[fish88]

My little boy slept through the night (10 til 7) from 8 weeks old and he is ebf. However, he has never really napped during the day so I think he just liked sleeping at night. Never done controlled crying or anything like it and fed on demand throughout the night, he just didn't want it. He is considered an oddity at my breastfeeding group though.

[PetiteRaleuse]

BF is encouraged lightly but not considered a big deal. Most women here stop by 12 weeks.

[MagicDucky]

Do they push BF as much in France? A friend of mine noticed that when she moved from breast to bottle her DD slept through when she hadn't before. Maybe it's got something to do with that. My DD has slept through since 5 weeks and she's bottle fed (lactose intolerance)

[slightlyconfused85]

Mine slept through (11-12 hours) from 3 months and also a lot during the day but she was just a sleepy little girl. I would say about half of my friends had babies sleeping through at 3-5 months, and the rest settled into sleeping through between 6 months and a year ish. I have one friend with a 21 month old who is not yet sleeping through.

[KLou1105]

I have a 7 week old and she has been sleeping from 10:30/11pm untill 6:30/7am since 4weeks, I think I'm just very lucky. But she did only wake once during the night from birth anyway. All babies are different another mum I meet the other day has a 3 month old and still wakes every 2.5 hours :-( x

[yellowsnownoteatwillyou]

Ds slept from 7 to about 2/3am was fed then back to sleep till 7, from about 12 weeks, stopped waking up to be fed at about 4/5 months. You think I would remember he's only 10 months.
He has never been left to cry and I haven't done any sleep training, just lucky.
Since I don't have a non sleeper, what do the older kids do/want if they wake up at night?

[bruffin]

Both dcs slept 10 to 7 from about 12 weeks

[Doodle1983]

DS is currently sleeping 5 hours 11-4am in one go.
A feed and hen back to sleep for another 4 hours. He's 16 weeks old.

[NoisyBrain]

My DS slept through (11-7/8) at 3 months. For six weeks. Eight weeks of sleep regression hell followed. Now at nearly 9 months he still wakes once in the night, any time between 11 and 2.30, for a feed. It currently takes flippin' ages to get him back to sleep

[Artandco]

Oh ours never left to cry either. If they woke 11pm-7am they were simply rocking/ soothed in any way apart from feeding. Meant that within a few days of not feeding during night thy simply didn't wake. I suppose they knew they would be woken/ needs met when needed

[SoonToBeSix]

Thanks Nancy , yes I am very grateful especially as my little boy is only 21 months so has only been sleeping through for a month.

[CarCiKoTab]

All mine was sleeping through by 2 months I have three children in total, 2 boys and 1 girl. Hope this baby does the same.

[ZacEfronsLeftBicep]

I felt judged to passme ! I never used to tell anyone !

[ZacEfronsLeftBicep]

My ds1 and dd1 both slept through (as in 7pm-7am ish) from about 8 weeks and are still heavy sleepers now.

My ds2 did sleep through from around 12/14 weeks but he would sleep from 7pm to around 5.30am at first, although he even stopped doing that, and slept till about 7am, at about a year old so we have been very lucky I think.

[Passmethecrisps]

Can I also say that dd has never been left to cry. Quite thre opposite actually. I have often disturbed her by interfering. Some babies just love sleep.

I do remember feeling a bit judged for having a sleeping baby actually as though I must be drugging her or something. We just can't win!!

[DougalTheCheshireCat]

Ours is half French (DH) though we live in the uk. dd 'slept through' 11-7ish with a dream feed 4-6 months then hasn't since (she's 1). Evenings were another story though. Most of the time she wakes 1-2 times and only feeds one of them, though the last few days she has been bouncing about at 5am (hoping this will stop tonight!)

I read French Chikdren don't throw food and it and my experience DH's friends suggest to me that on average the French train their children much more ruthlessly. They also don't have a culture of sharing the pain it's much more about putting on a front. The PILs are obsessed with sleep, and could not get their heads around breast feeding. They thought we might want to leave dd with them when we visited she was 8 weeks old!

Friends of DH (so our generation) were all straight on the bottle and regularly leave their v small babies (3 months or so) with their parents / in laws while they take a weeks holiday without them.

Personally, I'm happy to be there for DD while she is little, they idea of 'training' her would be wrong for us. the more I get to know French culture the more I see how their parenting style both shapes and reflects in their generally quite conservative, repressed adult culture.

And I find the priorities quite shocking: a French girl in our NCT was delighted her little one was sleeping through at 2 months and ignored the health visitors advice to feed him in the night due to his low birth weight and v slow weight gain .

[neversleepagain]

And my sister's dd slept 8pm-6am from 10 weeks and is ebf.

[balenciaga]

My first 2 dc slept through the night (approx 11 -7) from 6 weeks exactly then from about 3 mo 12 hours. I genuinely thought I was some kind of superior mum

However ....Dc3 is coming up for 2mo and she hasn't got that memo and wakes 3 x a night approx 1am 4am and 7am so clearly it's sod all to so with my brilliant parenting

I don't cope at all well with tiredness and broken sleep. I look and feel utterly shit. In fact, I am broken by it

Literally praying it gets better soon as struggling. God only knows how people cope when it goes on for months / years

[Artandco]

Both mine did from 3ish months. Although I classify sleeping through as from 11pm-7am ish

Bf on demand 7am-11pm. From 12 weeks didn't feed if they woke between 11pm-7am. With 16 hrs on demand feeding in the day, I think they were perfectly able to go 8hrs at night without.

[Passmethecrisps]

I am going to go back and read through as this is very interesting but here are out vital stats!

Dd slept 8 hours from 5 weeks. She was ff but had been a reliable 3 hour sleeper when on pumped BM - it was formula that messed that up initially.

I know of no one else whose baby slept so long so early but yet old ladies often used to nod approvingly when they asked and I told them. Sleep is an obsession!

We are uk btw.

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

Ds did 5 hours at 3 months but from 6.30-7pm. He'd then have 2 night feeds.

I'd imagine that French parents tend to ff, to a strict 4hr routine and teach the babies to self settle early (probably leaving to cry). If babies aren't responded to at night they probably learn.

They also survive. I wish I'd have followed it!

[TarkaTheOtter]

Both mine slept through 7-7 from 3 months...

...to 4 months. So far dd still a crappy sleeper at 2.5yrs and too early to tell for ds (nearly 5months).