good sleep routine at 12 weeks - is this?!

[frumpyfred]

he goes down at 8.30ish , wakes for feed at 2 , then 5 , 5 till 8 is a little unsettled if left in cot , a few wakes when needs dummy but if take him into my bed when desparate - will sleep peacefullly sometimes till 9?

Sounds fine to me - as long as you're happy with it? Whatever suits you and your baby is fine.

i am fairly happy until i hear others talking about babies sleping through cos sometimes when i wake my whole body acches

sounds exactly like my ds 3 wks ago but without the dummy, now he's 11 wks and won't sleep in his cot so spends all night in bed with me- beware the taking into bed, like many lovely things it's habit-forming!

frumpyfred..I always hated people talking about their babies sleeping through...some do a lot dont.
My ds didnt sleep through until he was 18mths and even now at nearly 3 will often wake in the night. My dd is 8mths and started sleeping through[well feed at 11pm but then sleeps till 9am] about 6wks ago. As long as you are happy then dont worry.

Is he b/f or bottle?

sounds good from what I remember . . Don't worry about others saying stuff, everyone looks back with rose coloured glasses and ecery baby is different!