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2 week old won't settle in Moses

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mummy2pickle · 19/04/2014 16:57

my 2 week old daughter won't settle at night in her Moses. she will settle on me and my hubby but as soon as she's put down in Moses she grunts and groans and starts crying. so we are taking it in turns downstairs at night getting her to sleep on us. has or is anyone else experiencing this or has any advice on how we can get her to settle. is it something she'll gradually stop doing?

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badfurday · 19/04/2014 18:07

We had this too. We always give her a bath before putting her down to relax her and a bottle just before and she is very relaxed. Have you tried putting an item of clothing in the basket which has your smell on it? Also, a dummy worked for us, just to get her off to sleep.
I also have a phone ap with a "womb" noise on it, that seems to help her settle.

1lastshot · 19/04/2014 18:50

My son did that! We decided to move his big cot into our room and he settled beautifully in that!
It's like he appreciated the space! He also had one of my shirts in his cot so my smell was always around.

StrangeGlue · 19/04/2014 18:56

Hey, totally normal I'm afraid. She still thinks she is part of you. Not much you can do about it but the cuddles won't 'build a rod for your back' or any nonsense she'll just change in time. Good luck!

jessiemummy28 · 19/04/2014 18:58

Yes we had exactly the same problem. To be honest we just persevered with putting her down, until eventually something just clicked and she started to settle (after lots of rocking). I think that was at about 4-5 weeks.Try putting a hot water bottle in there and taking it out just before putting it down so it's nice and warm in there. We are now trying (and failing!) to get her to sleep in her cot rather than her Moses basket as her feet are all scrunched up at the end!

WillSingForCake · 19/04/2014 19:29

We've had a lot of success by using the hot-water bottle method mentioned above. The warmth really helps.

PurplePidjin · 19/04/2014 19:47

Totally normal, have a search for Third Trimester

I honestly thought that stage would never end. Dp and I were splitting nights so that ds could sleep on us, one parent asleep in bed the other propped up then switch at 4 (he worked so did the second shift). It was hell.

They grow out of it. They really do. My ds is now 17 months and hasn't napped on me since before Christmas. I actually miss it My point being, this is a very short period of time and while it's immensely difficult right now, it won't last forever.

A baby under about 12 months old doesn't have the neural capacity necessary to get into bad habits. So you are not making a rod for you own back, just make life easy for yourself

Dasie · 19/04/2014 20:05

My DS (now 18 weeks) settled best in his basket when I swaddled him, firmly on his top half and leaving his legs more loosely covered, then I would let him fall asleep in my arms and wait around 20 mins to make sure he was asleep before I put him down. I make the room nice and dark also. HTH

pixiegumboot · 19/04/2014 20:10

My son slept on my chest for first 3months.

TarkaTheOtter · 19/04/2014 20:11

I had this with ds. Just kept trying to put him down after each night feed, but letting him sleep on me if his eyes pinged open. By about 8 weeks he would often transfer fine and now at 15 weeks all his sleeps are in it.

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mummy2pickle · 19/04/2014 20:34

thanks guys. nice to know we're not alone when dealing with this! I will try the t-shirt trick tonight. you hear all your elders say don't want her to get in the habit of it! and put pressure on you to change It. fingers crossed it'll soon fade out

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Fletch3 · 19/04/2014 20:57

We had this too. Had to sleep upright with him on me for the first 3 weeks. Then one night I tried him in there and it just clicked and he was fine. One day I'm sure your lo will have built up enough trust to sleep in there. It is after all trust that you're not abandoning them. Survival instincts!

PurplePidjin · 19/04/2014 20:58

I had a very frank conversation with my mum about stuff like that - she's lovely and very supportive over her first grandchild, but a little bit of the "Rod-Back" school. On further enquiry, she was thinking of me as a baby but the age range of "baby" defined itself as 0-18 months

I would say that most advice about training, not letting them sleep on you etc given by people whose children are older needs to be queried as to how old the baby they're thinking of is. A baby of 6-12 months is capable of very different things to one as shiny and new as yours!

Fletch3 · 19/04/2014 21:00

And it's far to early to train them anyway! Also, research "Ewan the dream sheep!" :)

TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle · 19/04/2014 21:02

Dd never once slept in her Moses basket. Not one single time. We co-slept for three months and then moved her into a cot which vibrated

She's 2.3 now and sleeps through every night in her own room. There is light at the end of the tunnel!!

Littlef00t · 20/04/2014 15:28

Yep same here for the first 2-3 weeks then willing to settle. DH slept in shifts and napped lots in the day.

I found swaddling really worked well.

mrsmugoo · 20/04/2014 20:32

Exactly the same here - overcame by wrapping DS in a blanket to cuddle to sleep so he falls asleep and stays in the same warm blanket in the basket.

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