DS falls asleep in his cot with some patting on the back about 7.30/8 and will then wake up repeatedly (6 times so far tonight) until some time between 11 and 1 when I give up and he comes in with us and then might sleep for between 3 and 5 hours at a stretch. When he wakes in the evening he can't self settle, sometimes just needs a pat on the back, other times a cuddle, other times he gets really upset and takes half an hour or so to calm down. He gets up for the day about 7.30. He feeds once or twice overnight. Occasionally he surprises us and does a long stretch straight away (7 hours once, 5 another time).
During the day he will only feed to sleep or will sometimes fall asleep in the pushchair. He usually naps for 45mins to an hour at 10.30ish and then if we're lucky about the same at 2.30ish. He's a big boy (98th centile for weight) and is hit and miss with how much he eats.
I don't want to do CC or CIO with him as seeing how distraught and worked up he can get I don't think it would work for him and I don't think I could cope!
Anyone had similar problems and found any techniques that helped?