SLEEP REGRESSION part 2...Roll up, roll up folks! Swap tales of woe, ideas, enjoy solidarity and get support here

[cakebaby]

Thought I'd start a new thread as I couldn't see another one yet (will get HQ to delete if already up and running).

Tis good to talk.....

cute I think it has to be 2hrs apart

Hello to newbies and veterans alike. Hope everyone is well...

So after 2 good nights in a row last night was back to normal, awake at 10.30 for a feed then wouldn't settle in the cot. She slept until 3 something cosleeping with me on the mattress on the floor of her room but then was more or less awake until I gave in and got up at 6. But the previous nights proved that she can not only self settle but go for much longer than 10.30 without feeding so I'm trying not to get disheartened.

We have teething too. I didn't notice red or swollen gums and have been checking lots desperately seeking something to blame for awful sleep but can now feel one of the bottom teeth just poking through. It hasn't bothered her during the day, she's not been grumpy or particularly dribbly or chewing any more than usual either. So I can't really blame teething for a bad night can I?

Apologies for not name checking, phone post means it's hard to go back and check who said what . Gearing up for bedtime and hoping for further miracles.

The rest of last night was a mix (sorry, not sure who asked, posting on phone). Went well til 3.30 then badly after that! Ended up in bed with us from 5.30, attached to me like a dummy just so we could get another hour or so.
Also looks like the not waking 30 mins after bedtime was a fluke, currently doing first feed of the night while my tea goes cold...
Hope others are having better evenings. One day I'll manage to post on the laptop and be able to actually respond to individuals, sorry if I don't make any direct responses

Artemis that's a positive that you know she can do it. Fingers crossed she starts to do so more often!

Some positive news here, although I'm trying not to get too excited in case it was a fluke. Friday night I was all set to go with the Baby Whisperer strategy for dealing with habitual wakings- setting your alarm for an hour before the waking time and waking them yourself but I turned the alarm off and went back to sleep by mistake . It didn't matter though as he woke at a totally different time, fed and then went back to sleep until 7am.

Saturday night he woke twice between midnight and 6am for a feed but settled straight back to sleep afterwards. I can cope with the feeding at night, even though formula is an utter pain at 3am, as long as he goes back to sleep.

Last night he slept through without a feed, he stirred a few times but a shush, pat and the dummy and he went back off.

I have started swaddling him in a Woombie again, maybe that has made the difference. Or maybe it was a fluke and he's going to be a sleep refuser again tonight. He's fast asleep now but that's not unusual, even on bad nights things don't go wrong until after midnight.

Well done miss that was a good stretch!

artemis yours and mine have been emailing each other I'm sure. After our good night on sat & brill night on Sunday (finally woke at midnight, feed, back in cot til 130 then co slept til awake at 6), he was a total nightmare yesterday refusing to nap apart from 30 mins pm. Totally overtired last night, bed at 630, woke 30 mins later then every 15 mins. I gave up and took him to bed at 9pm.

Bah

Mirrhi how did the rest of your night go? MissM hope you had another good night!

Cakebaby what is it with these babies? We had a really shitty time last night, up at 10, 11.30, then at 1.45 for over an hour of crying. Up for the day at 6. I'm shattered. At the weekend I managed to spend her best night of sleep ever largely awake, and since the 2 subsequent nights have been awful I'm really wobbly now. Tonight she's on her second wake up since 7pm, DP has gone to settle her but anything after 10 will fall to me. And it's only Tuesday... Beginning to wonder if things will ever improve

How is everyone else?

Hello. Another busy night and then up at 6.30am for the day. Yawn. Not helped by my MIL being here.

Tonight we had a late one as we went out for dinner with MIL so DD2 went bonkers on being taken out the bath by DH. She settled okay but has woken and settled herself a couple of times already. Looks like I might be in for a fun night.

Hi ladies, gosh Artemis do you have the one step forward two steps back feeling?? I have it all the time & am currently grateful for any sleep ds let's me have!!

Last night was miraculous here he slept 7.30-12.20 I had to check the time I could not believe it this is like sleeping through for him! Very quick feed (10mins) back in his cot no problem until 3.30 - same again 10 min feed back in cot asleep until 6! He has barely slept all day & hasnt really appeared tired either so I'm guessing the good nights sleep have him a boost as well!

No idea what will happen tonight I'm expecting his first wake shortly so will wait & see!

Artemis fucked if I know so bloody hard isn't it? DH and I apparently not talking now. No idea what that's about. Ds napped today after bullying the other kids on a group play date went to bed OK, one wake up so far.

soup sleepy vibes for you. Is MIL helpful or cats bum mouth?

Ds of to GP in the morning. Can't wait for some time to myself at last. God that's awful isn't it?

boo that is brilliant! Did you try anything different or did he just do that completely out the blue? Or did he build up to it from some good nights prior?
Sorry for all the questions!

Cakeis only difference really was he actually had quite a lot more sleep in the day, which I was half worried about but felt so knackered couldn't bare to wake him! He has quite quickly upped the amount of food he is having as well.

Last night was a different story, although still improved in bed for 7 woke at 11.30 did take an hour to re-settle then, next wake was 3.30 (quick settle that time) - up for the day at 5.45, feels soooo early!! Not sure If I mentioned ds1 got in bed with us at 2 - not sure when but DP skulked off to the spare room, oh my god why didn't i do that!!!

How did others fare?

A night of two halves here..in bed fairly easily around 7.30 then wake ups (and feeds) roughly every hour till 12ish - almost like cluster feeding again?! Was sure she was going to burst with all the milk..anyway then another quick feed at 3 and then slept till 7.30 which was good!

Wow Boo, that's really impressive!

Cake that's not awful at all, you're a human and need some time to yourself without the DC! My DP sometimes takes DS out for a walk straight after a feed for a couple hours so that I can have some "me" time.

DS was waking pretty much hourly from the start, don't know if it's his usual crap sleep or teething affecting him. At 2am took him to my bed and he slept till 5.30! Quick nappy change and he woke up again at 8.30! Not sure of he has actually waken up in between and I didn't but I don't care! I feel so much more human today.

A mixed bag there from everyone, whenever someone has a good night it then seems to go haywire the next doesn't it? cakeb is your DP talking to you again yet, and has he explained why he wasn't?? And I agree, you're not awful at all, a bit if 'me time' is essential to help recharge your batteries. Hope everything went ok with GP.
For us the night befire last was pretty good in the end, despite waking half an hour after going diwn. DS then managed two 3 hour chunks, then reduced gradually til mirning. Last night though was niwhere near so good, went to bed at 7,15, woke at 7.30 and 7.45, then did 1-2 hours through the rest of the night with a soell of being wide awake from 1.30 to 3 . I'm hoping that the opposite rule applies and tgat a bad night is followed by a good not hopeful Just feeding and about to put him down so we'll see.....

Just reread that and seen all the typos, sorry! Typing on tablet. I sound like the English policeman from 'Allo 'Allo!

Ha ha mirrhi I shall zay zis ewnly wance.....

Interesting updates from everyone. I think the lottery of it all makes it more tricksy to deal with. Went down OK last night with a wake after 30 mins (same again tonight so far) then fed at 1115, 115, into my bed, woke at 6 for the day. Going to stop co sleeping soon as its causing me various joint problems. The the fun will really begin, I'll be joining some of you back to hour!y wakings I'm sure.

Ds had a nice time with grandma and I had a nice time on my own he was fine when I left but howled when I go it back, whats that all about?

cute glad you got some kip at last.

Good luck everyone....

God

DD2 was busy last night. Ended up co-sleeping from midnight. Think I fed 4 times. Am knackered today. She's making moves to bloody walk. Faints. Please no. Mind you if it knackers her so she sleeps I might be more enthusiastic.

Cake, my MIL is very definitely cats bum. She's a bloody nightmare house guest. Expects to be entertained and has a mild heart attack when the girls do anything remotely 'dangerous' - like DD1 cartwheeling and DD2 poking at the DVD player! Honestly she needs to chill.

Damned tablet.

.....its like going into battle, isn't it?

soup CARTWHEELS???? Heaven's to murgatroyd! Have you no control woman?

Don't you just love a convenient house guest? Maybe Dd trying to walk is a good thing for sleep hopeful perhaps she'll use up all her get up and go! I would offer you by suspect co sleeper's more likely

I know Cake, I'm clearly such a lax mother allowing DD1 to actually cartwheel. That's the least of it. I've been known to breeze past her hanging upside down like a bat and to just tut and mutter about falling on her head. MIL attempted to insist on a cold compress for DD2 when she took a header into the bookcase whilst practising wrecking the freeview box!

I've a massive bottle of beer in the fridge and am very tempted but really is the sensible option.

I'm hoping for a semi-decent night tonight. Hears hoping for decent nights all round.

ROAR at minisoup1 being a bat! I flung myself around like a loon doing cartwheels, falling out of trees etc for many years, did me the world of good! Lucky escape from ice cream cold compress headache for minisoup2

2 wakeups so far, fed at 1st, stuck to guns at 2nd.

mirrhi dh was 'tired' hence just 'quiet' the other night. Bless. Poor little cherub. God he gives me the rage sometimes.

Can I join please? 13 week old DD slept 8 hour stretches until 2 weeks ago when she decided 4 or 5 feeds a night was the way forward. Every night is different, she's genuinely hungry at night but seemingly not during the day (and if I try to tempt her with a feed she screams at me).

I'm hoping the 4 month sleep regression doesn't make things even worse in a few weeks!! I also have a 3 year old so can't sleep during the day (and anyway her naps have gone to pot too)....

Hello Carmella. It may be that your 4 month sleep regression has come early. Ours did. I won't tell you how long it lasted for.

Hope you've had a better night.

We did! She went back to her previous pattern of 8 hour stretch followed by two 2 hour stretches. I didn't sleep as well as that because I was anticipating her wakings!!