Too early to cry it out?

[NewParents20]

My baby is now over 3 weeks old and I've started the cry it out routine for her.

My bf is dead against it, but the only way she'll sleep is if we hold her. In the long run I think we'll get more sleep, and so will our baby.

My bf is getting really annoyed with the crying and angry with me.

Where did you get this idea?

Have you any books about new babies?

Your post is making me very worried.

Don't leave her to cry. Please.

Also, 'your bf is angry with the crying' - that's equally worrying. Crying is all that a baby can do, it's their only way of communicating. It is NOT a sign that you are doing anything wrong and it is not a sign that she is being naughty. It's a sign that she needs holding and comforting.

Please look after her.

No, no, no, no!!!!
Your poor baby!!

They cry for a reason, your daughter is FAR too young to just be left and so much research has been done on the emotional damage that can be caused at such a young age by babies not having their needs responded to. Your baby needs love and reassurance, she needs her mom.

I'm not surprised about your boyfriend's reaction, I just wish he had it in him to tell you to stop and not just let it happen regardless of his feelings.

I hope BF isn't just whinging at you to sort it out but is going to go in there, sooth your baby and offer you some real support.
Its far too young. You hear so much about routines etc when you have your first you think you need to be doing this, that, the other (I did anyway!). It actually all comes in a lot further down the line.

CIO is abhorrent, IMO.

Even those that developed the (marginally better) CC approach don't recommend it for babies under 6 months. Do some research on the effect of cortisol (stress hormone) on the developing brain before you make your decision.

Read this

www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/153198.php

Unfortunately from recent posts that have appeared on my FB I don't think this is necesserily not a real question, nor that uncommon judging from all the replies saying 'yes go ahead its fine'

Please don't do this, your baby won't want to be held forever. There is a reason they are like this at such a young age, it is a biological need to want the comfort and security of a parent. They will naturally get easier to put down as they get older. Far far far too young...

I thought this was the right thing to being doing

What made you think that OP, genuine question. Have you read something that says this?

Don't be hard on yourself, but listen to other posters and they'll help you.

People lets not be too harsh

Poor baby. Please find a sensible person to help you out.

Assuming you are genuine then don't beat yourself up it's hard
You just need to ride the waves at this stage

No need to feel terrible at all, just relax go as much as you can with her flow, so much time for rules/routines. Turn on tv/get boxset/comfy couch relax for next few weeks. Congratulations!

You have good advice here. Please comfort your baby.

You've made a mistake. Give her cuddle and move on from it :). There are so many more you're going to make.

And get a decent sling to help her drift off so you can transfer her (maybe) and get some rest yourself.

Babies cry because its the only way they have of communicating with you. They don't do it to piss you off they do it because they are new and helpless and needing cuddles and comfort

Babies cry, it's what they do! Newborns aren't meant to sleep all night, they are meant to feed and be with their parents. They have no idea of night and day and all they want is comfort. Letting her cry it out is just awful! Please don't do it.

Your baby will become one of these that doesnt cry because she knows no- one will come. Which is heartbreaking.

Fucking cry it out, controlled crying, bloody fads - fucking shit, go and comfort your baby for you, not at you. There will be a new parenting fad along soon to cope with a crying baby - thank god.

Far far far far too young for this. Babies need comforting. I actually can't believe I've read it! Cruel.

Cio is never a done thing.

Controlled crying maybe for a MUCH older baby.

Please don't do it... go and comfort your baby.

Unfortunately some people of the older generation seem to spout dreadful advice and scare off young parents by saying that if you hold your baby for too long when they're really little they'll want to be held all the time and then you'll be in trouble.
NOT TRUE

Crying it out isn't recommended until 6 months and even then it's a timed thing. Not just a leave them to cry their little hearts out thing.

Newborn parenting is exhausting, it's meant to be. But it gets better.

Barbaric.

Oh my god

Please, please don't leave your tiny baby to cry it out

Way, way too small to ever do this.

Don't leave your baby to cry.

Cuddle, co-sleep, do what it takes to settle you lo.

Take care.