Misery loves company: riding the mo fo out into Part II

[ElphabaTheGreen]

In our last exciting instalments:

Needles was at breaking point with a screaming 10 mo DD

Hear had experienced the magic of ONE unbroken night!

Dreaming was continuing to confound all with her ability to manage three children on four or five minutes a night, thanks to DT the Terrible.

Stitch was still having her sleep eaten by...erm...Stitch.

Poppy was pondering how the actual fark she was going to manage a newborn on top of BabyAmex's night time shenanigans.

And the desperate Elphaba had turned night duties entirely over to DH with mastitic results.

Join us with your stories of misery and woe in this, the most sleep-deprived corner of MN!

Flippin 'eck Dreaming ! Sounds like DT the Terrible is a real handful.Still able to do all this stuff while unwell?

As for GP in the family-I spoke to an older lady in the village who was married to one.She said he used to dismiss anything that was wrong with her.He's long dead,she's about 85,fit as a fiddle with sound mind so I guess he was right

Hello to newbies :) It does get better sometimes and then it's shit again

DS has decided to drop his naps during the day-so far he did it twice.I'm not happy as tired like hell and he's a volcano of energy.

Have to go folks,have a few mails to write and diy in full swing in this house

zzzzz…

Well DD managed a 5hour stretch last night which hasn't happened in months. Unfortunately I woke up after a particularly scary nightmare and couldn't get back to sleep for three fecking hours! Grrrr.
I think she was tired out after an evening at the pub and late bedtime. If that works again I think we may have found a solution that suits everybody.
Blimey dreaming what on earth do you feed him? Sounds really tricky. My sympathies for the thuggery. My SIL dresses her two DD the same. Her theory is that they won't fight if over clothes, and if she looses one while out she can point to the other and say 'she looks like this one but bigger/smaller'. I'm not suggesting you do the same mind you.

Erm, I know I'm making myself sound like a really awful parent, but fishfingers, chicken nuggets, waffles, some pasta and blended up veg/tomato based sauces (though too tomatoey seems to make him vomit too), mild korma/Thai curries with coconut milk in the sauces, spag bol, chilli. Think that's about it!

Funnily enough Jacques today I dressed the dts the same. It sounds ridiculous but I don't want to be one of Those Twin Mums who dresses the twins identically every day, to the extent if one is sick they change both. Still, today, it was so much easier! He was ok today, but yes, he is a handful!

Sorry about the shit sleeping bald hate it when they do that.

Rant warning!

Argh, just lost it with DH. I'm a SAHM and he works so I do most of the childcare, which I'm happy about. But, I'm so fed up of him not taking the initiative. He with only change nappies, prepare her meals, do baths when I ask. And he never just gets on with it. There's always a negotiation before like, if I do the washing up, will you bath DD. It's doing my head in. He also doesn't seem to understand that I need a bit of time on my own sometimes. I keep asking him take DD out for a walk and he waits and waits until I get really angry and explode and then I look like a horrible unreasonable person. Bah!
He finally went out but now I'm too wound up to enjoy my precious 1 hour alone time. AIBU?

Rant over. Phew

Sorry for the mememe post! Feeling better now after a chat rant to my mum. One nice thing that's come out of becoming a parent is it's brought us closer together.

I think that sounds fine dreaming. Especially Thai curry, yum. Asian cooking seems to be better at non-dairy recipes. Have you tried him with chickpea or lentil stews? I give DD chickpeas as a snack sometimes or half an avocado. She's mad about raisins too. I can shake the box and she comes running from wherever she is in the flat. It's like having a puppy!

I think that's men Jacques. You're describing my DH there, only we both work full-time, so you think it would occur to him to divvy up chores and childcare duties a little more evenly and therefore be a bit more self-sufficient where DS is concerned. Nope.

DS couldn't go to nursery once because he was ill, so for the one and only time in his little life so far, DH actually took the day off with him (it's always, always me because DH always, always has something terribly important on that he can't get out of). When I got home in the evening, DS was still in the same nappy he'd had on when I left that morning (apparently, you don't need to change a nappy if they haven't pooed ) and DH had given him a grand total of half a Dairy Lea sandwich and a tub of yoghurt the entire day. It's not because they don't care, or don't love DC or you. They just don't effing THINK!

Ah, you see this is where I thought this through in advance. I went back to work when dd was 4.5 months and left dp to stay at home with her for 3 months. After looking like a terrified rabbit caught in the beaming headlights of a speeding lorry for about 2 weeks he soon got the hang of it. Best decision I ever made I think :o

I think dd is trying to flood the house out with her dribble. I have never seen so much! How can one small sized person produce so much liquid? Where does it all come from?

DH did thoughtfully try and cut DS's hair unbidden the other day. Using a pair of clippers. Electric. Clippers.

That prolonged screaming sound y'all heard in the distance Sunday before last was me, sorry.

Thankfully, my hairdresser works Sundays, so was able to repair the damage.

Sorry elba but that really made me laugh! Poor child. I always leave instructions before going out for the same reason. I'm doing an evening class twice a week so it's good training for DH, but he's still got a way to go.
You've got the right idea hear!

We just back from the paediatrician. We ended up waiting an hour and half to be seen. DD screamed her head off before the dr even did anything. Then it took two of us to hold her down for the vaccine. Feeling a bit traumatised now. PFB!

DS fell out of bed this morning He's taken to thrashing about for an hour or so at around 4:30am then going back to sleep heavily by the time I have to get up at 6am. It always makes me nervous leaving him asleep on the bed while I get myself sorted so I set the baby monitor up on the pillow next to his face in the hope he'll keep himself occupied with it until I can get back up and get him down. This morning I was downstairs and heard an almighty bang followed by wailing. I don't know if he'd thrashed again and fallen off the bed or had woken up and tried to get down, but he somehow fell against the bedside table which hit the door and slammed it shut. He wasn't hurt and I think the noise scared him as much as the fall, but I feel like Class A Shit Mother today, and immediately ordered a cot side bed rail thing from Argos. I'm not sure how effective it will be on a 'grown up' bed but I can only try.

Jeez, I wish he'd just sleep in his cot

elph its all good. Dt the Terrible has fallen out multiple times. We have a summer infant bedrail up on our bed, works a treat. I felt the need for him to fall out multiple times first though (remember the story of how I knew it was a head impact as I still had hold of toe end of his sleeping bag?! Think that was #2 fallout)

Oh, and snap, sleep in your own fecking cot child, and stop thrashing round, demanding milk (I give in) then dozing off for another half hour having squished me out so much I can't sleep. Bloody toddlers (can I call a 19 month old a baby?!)

Dt2 and dd woke up at 7:45 this morning. After both sleeping all night... Seriously, he is clearly the excess baby produced ;-)

Must be fate - that's the exact bed rail I ordered!

Thing is, I did find him wandering around upstairs one morning, after having got himself off the bed quite safely, (not to mention quietly ) so I can only assume it was a half-asleep thrash. Mind you this is the child who does diving somersaults off the sofa, whilst giggling furiously, so maybe it was just an early morning kamikaze manoeuvre gone wrong.

We've also ordered him his first duvet and pillow. DH and I both agreed that these will make him sleep though the night. And then we roared with laughter. Slightly strained and hysterical laughter.

Omg you lot make me laugh! I remember very vaguely when I took DS to bed for a feed and dozed off. I was woken up by a loud thump when he fell off the bed. Welcome to the club of bad mothers, ha, ha

I also took DS to the barbers and asked the hairdresser for " number 4". Both her and DH were gobsmacked by my cruelty. DS was wailing like mad when I held his head.

I would like to asked you about the toddler bed, duvet and such likes as I'll need the cot for the next occupant next year. Unfortunately DS is also a bed thrasher and sometimes bangs himself on the cot rails.

Sleeping wise - shitty crappy shit here, DS is a changeling from hell not only waking up multiple times but a whingeing nightmare during a day. He might have more teeth on the way and mastered the way of cuddling up to me while wiping his snots on my clothes. Lovely

Wishing you long, uneventful and peaceful nights

Btw sorry for not replying more personally but on the phone. My laptop is getting covered by dust as I have no time to switch it on what the fuck is the point if I have to leave it every 15 minutes

Morning all
Bad night here due to DD high temperature after the jabs yesterday.

Are you mostly co-sleepers? We got around the falling out of bed thing by sticking a mattress on the floor next to our bed. DD sleeps on the floor. I start the night in our bed then move down to hers during the night.

Morning Jacques
I think I'll need multiple to help me survive the day.

How old is your DD?Which lot of jabs it was?

No space here for a mattress on the floor without blocking the way to the loo soit's not an option.I'm battered enough by DS so don't fancy DH tripping in the middle of the night and falling on the top.

Going to baby group today,hope my monkey will behave.

Have a good day all :)

How was the playgroup bald? Do you enjoy going too? I have a nice one down the road and I love it. It's really nice to have a cup of tea and a chat with the other mums while the LO plays. There is another one, but that's a bit grim, so I only went once.
I'm ashamed to say I don't know what vaccine she had. They have so many and some are repeated so I've lost track. she's 11 months BTW. She was miserable all day yesterday and refused to eat anything. So ended up boobing her all day. Then screamed the house down at bedtime until 11pm. Oh well. My motto is 'tomorrow will be better'.
That's a shame about the mattress. It's saved me a lot of worrying. I leave the door open and she comes and finds me after her nap. ( we don't have stairs so it's pretty safe).
Right I'm off to read some MN classics for a laugh....

Well the bed rail arrived. When it says 'fits all mattress sizes ' it obviously means 'fits all mattresses no larger than a thin single bed mattress'. My double-sprung-memory-foam-overlay grown-up double is well beyond its capabilities.

Back to the drawing board...

PS Can't put mattress next to the bed for a cushioned landing due to space issues either. Ideally I'd put the whole mattress we're sleeping on on the floor, but we've nowhere to put the base. Well, no, actually ideally DS would sleep 12 hours straight in his own cot, and wake a merry little boy, who really, really would rather do anything else than hang off mummy and wail for an hour in the morning. But, there, I'm off wandering in my own wild fantasies again...

Pretty much a year after I started the original thread, many sleep training attempts later and its still all shit. Please can I come back to the mothership?

Jacques the group was lovely.They were painting some ceramics for Christmas and I must say that I'm ashamed at the lack of my skills.It's in the next village in community hall where there's plenty of space for kids to run,warm,well equipped kitchen,shiploads(and i mean it) of toys starting from balls and bricks through dolls to scooters,ride-ons to bouncy castle.

Everybody brings something so kiddies get some toast,fruit,drink and a biscuit if there are any left mums eat it
I'm glad that i joined as it's fantastic opportunity to get some adult company whe children run riot play nicely especially now when the weather turns for worse.

Elphaba i bet that was the small print or the thing that they don't tell you about.Bummocks to that.Can you use some sellotape or string instead?

Amateur you know that wine is good for sleep?have a or even and pretend you don't hear your little devil darling for a few hours once you drop off.

Right folks,i'm away to bednearly as everybody's sniffling here thanks to DS.Booking appointment next Wednesday,curious whether I'm going to get nice mw,confusing mw or the new one that I haven't met.

Wavezzzzz...

Such! You old divvil, you!

elph I'm confused, ours is a king size, millions of pocket sprung memory foam topped mattress and its fine. We leave the curly ends off and just wedge it under (mattress actually gone bad, DH has huge dent on his side that's uncomfortable) if that makes sense?. He wedges himself against it during the wriggle-a-thon and its never moved??? It will fit, just take those single bed parts off. dd has it fitted with all parts on her single and its fine on that too. I have wild fantasies about mine playing nicely, not fighting, letting me cook a proper meal and then, and i know this is extreme, them sitting at the table, in their own seats, not on my knee, and actually eating it. Ridiculous notion I know. Pah.

such, come in, shame to see you back. I had wonderful visions of unbroken nights sleep for you.

Thanks for the welcome back guys. No unbroken nights sleep here. DD's current favour flav is to take ages going to sleep and then wake up in the night and not settle for hours, regardless if what we do. And as she pulls her own hair out for comfort (don't ask), all those hours awake in her cot is leading to a rapidly balding little girl. An I have a terrible anxiety based habit of counting her hours of total sleep. I Shouldn't Do It as it's always way under the 'recommended' and sends me into a daily spin. So I need to earn how to ride this mo fo out. Again.

Oh and Dreaming you've pretty much spelt out my only other fantasy apart from a full nights sleep. Drool. And to think my fantasies used to involve handsome men. What was I thinking?