Cot- when to give up....

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Have a lovely 6wk old. Have been cosleeping but need to try putting her in cot as have a really bad cold and am wanting to get her used to her cot. It's a bedside cot, flush against bed with side off so as close to co sleeping as possible.
She hates it. Tried for 3 hrs last night and today and just had constant crying and tears. This is what I try, bfed until sleepy then put in cot with my hand on her chest/belly. She then cries and flaps arms and legs furiously. Last night there were 3 pauses when her eyes started to close and she was almost asleep but woke with a sudden start. Gave up after 3 hrs and fed her to sleep in bed with me.
Today the same, asleep in sling just now. Will pay for it tonight no doubt as she will be mega over tired.
What am I doing wrong? Is this her just learning to sleep so a good thing? I hate seeing her so upset. Help.....please!

Sounds like youre doing a great job OP. I wouldnt worry about the fact DC needs to come back in bed with you after first waking as presumably baby is waking for other reasons and as DC gets older these wakings should hopefully stop!

But you may just find that DC will be more accepting of staying in side cot after wakings when she is older for no reason at all. She is perhaps just a bit too fragile when she wakes at mo and needs some closeness. Yoyre instilling some good habits by bystarting the evening off in the cot though.

I used to let my DD sleep on me during the day. When she was 4 months i was worried i was making a big problem for myself when i would have to go back to work so introduced the cot. She cried so much i thought she was ill (wasnt CIO but as cot was making her cry and she wasnt napping i was persisting all day to get her to nap in cot without any actual snoozing). I gave up and tried again at 5 months telling myself to be tougher but i didnt need to as she was a dream. She would only nap for 40 mins however and then i would have to do her whole routine again so i felt that this as another problem but i just continued and eventually she stopped waking at 40 minutes and can have up to 2 hours without any help fromme. Although i can hear squeaks at 40 minute mark it is just her getting into new sleep cycle (its very cute)

So i would say just enjoy this closeness you have now. Youre getting her used to the cot without it being a be all end all issue.