High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Mmmm, lovely cake, thank you!

Titania no, I've not had DD checked for tongue tie as the bf has gone so well. She had a great latch right from birth and has gone from 50th centile to 75th. Sometimes she pulls back on the nipple
though when she is grizzling or comfort sucking. It's pinchy but not painful, still I try to discourage that. I don't know much about tongue tie though...can it cause hourly waking fussy babies?

Mitsouko, just thought I'd ask as fussiness on the breast can be caused by TT (as well as loads of other things) sounds like the fact that she's gaining we'll and you've got no pain, means there no reason to suspect TT though.

Before you cut everything out of your diet, have you seen a Lactation Consultant?

Sorry, not posted for a few days - Titania Millpond seemed to work okay - but I'm not convinced it wasn't just coincidence. We started to spread out his night feeds (now if it's been less than 4 hours between feeds DH goes in to settle him) and we actually got to the point where he was sleeping roughly 7-7 with one wake-up for milk - sometimes none. It was easier than I thought to implement this - I think DS was just ready.

At the moment he's going 7.30-7 with two wake-ups - so backwards a bit. But keeping with the no feeds within four hours. Think he's teething/learning to walk and so we're just going with it for now. To be honest, although I do moan about having to get up (and go up a flight of stairs to his nursery - another story entirely...) twice a night is awesome compared with every two hours...

Hope you are all doing okay this morning. I'm going shopping with my best friend from school today - her husband has walked out on her, wanting a divorce and I'm trying to put some fire in her belly...

I prefer my booby name

In a nutshell, yes, Raspberry. If he woke up before he was due a feed, DH went in and comforted him (first picking him up, but as the weeks went on, comforting in the cot, from a little way away from the cot, and so on). Sometimes he wanted his dummy and went right back to sleep. Other times he stayed awake fussing until he got milk and then went back to sleep.

DS seemed to get the idea pretty quickly and slept right through for us a few times. But now he's working on his fourth molar in the space of less than a month so he's waking a fair bit. But we've kept up the 4-hour rule. The sleep clinic wanted me to reduce his time at the breast as well as stretch out his feeds, but I couldn't bring myself to force him off when he's happily glugging away!

Hope you're all having a lovely evening. I'm bloody shattered! Turning in soon.

Good morning and

Titania we saw a lactation consultant briefly at hospital, but as things we going so well we didn't spend much time with her. I'm thinking of going along to LLL perhaps as I could do with some support.

DD is generally ok while feeding, but often refluxy and in discomfort afterwards, especially at night. She has very little peaceful sleep and thrashes about alot, scratches her face and pulls her hair, brings legs up to chest and cries out - more of a sudden, pain cry than a lonely or hungry one.

Our Paed appointment has been moved forward from December to the end of October, so that's good.

Raspberry we have a tooth as well, two in fact! Both bottom ones coming in at once. As if Babysuko needs more to add to her distress.

How was everyone's night?

Morning, rubbish!

Monkey2 deceived me by sleeping 9.30-11 and I got to have a relaxing bath, but has woken every 10minutes to an hour since. She just wants to be held. I think if I never put her down if have far more sleep but cuddled up on a nursing pillow can't be safe surely? though I've accidentally done it a few times.

She then protested by weeing on my duvet at 4am , which I had to sleep in as Monkey 1 had weed on my two spare sets the two days before and they aren't dry yet arrhghh.

I have a work meeting at 1 today not sure I'll be much use!

Tickle did I hear the words sleep clinic? Details please!

Oh love! :( Sorry I've not been around until now, are you free yet? These little monkeys of ours...

Hi Joyful, I'm here, sorry to hear of your unsettled evening. Is he down yet, are you free? Hope you are holding up ok. I will be up intermittently through the night I'm sure if you need an ear.

Oops x posted Joyful.

Can you feed lying down so you can rest a little?

My nights not been so bad so far. Babysuko went down at 7:30, has woken twice but settled with a cuddle and a bit of rocking.

Hang in there Joyful...

Now I'm the one feeding. Cuddle wouldn't cut it for the last wake up. Milk time now. Hopefully this will see her through til 2ish. Hopefully...

Hope you got some sleep eventually joyful.

My night was pretty much the same as the night before. Ended up getting sleep from 5.30 until Monkey. 1 woke us at 7.45 with monkey 2 on the nursing pillow. I'm going to have to give in and cosleep safely I think. I really didn't want to :(

Too scared joyful, DH lost a brother to SIDS so we like babies to be in cribs next to our bed with a breathing monitor on. Only removed DD2s monitor at 2 . Plus I'm overweight which they say is bad for cosleeping.

Sorry ladies, not caught up with this morning's news. But just had to tell someone, I'm sooo proud DS ate his first few bits (assisted - we stabbed the food for him!) with a fork. Growing up so fast

Will be back later, work calls, booooooo!