Self-settling is a myth - discuss...

[PickledLily]

I want to throw the Baby Whisperer book out of the window - my baby won't self-settle (5wo), for all the patting on the back/picking up putting down in the world.

Has anyone succeeded (with a baby that has never previously self settled)? Do I have an especially needy baby or am I just being too soft?

My friends can put their babies down and they just lie there quietly cooing before dropping off to sleep. Mine just screams and flaps her little arms and legs around :(

your baby is teeny.

I didn't start the sleep techniques on mine until they were about 6-7 months and by that age I had good success with shush and pat.

I didn't expect mine to sleep through until about 6 months. Maybe my expectations are low, as I no some people have success at 4-5 weeks but I don't know how! I think they just were luckier rather than it being down to strategy I am afraid!