High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Glad you had a wonderful day Joyful :)

Catch up properly later. Last night DH slept in the spare room all night to get a full nights sleep. Tonight its my turn - I know I'll be up to do a feed or two but no resettling afterwards. Am really hoping I manage to get some rest, feeling so ground down and tired lately.

Hope everyone is well. Have good nights!

Anyone any experience of their lo being stuck on one actual dummy? And what to do when that one splits- new dilemma as I've just discovered ds is set one just one dummy, which will either get lost or broke soon. He refuses even the same one (too new). What am I gonna do when the time comes???

when mine used to take a dummy it was just the same brand. very frustrating when you lose them! but she won't take any now, just the boob. i don't know what to do about the newness though - that must be really frustrating. maybe soak it in boiling water to soften it?

Will try that Jan, think I'm panicking cos I know the only acceptable alternative for ds is Boob- don't wanna go there again!

ah it is tough! they are very smart knowing the difference between all the dummies, even the ones that are the same brand!

Hi, can I join? DS2 (6mo) is a high need baby - all the things described in first post. Never thought he would be, as DS1 (2.6yo) was (is?) also high need. I thought fate would give me an "easy" baby second time around! I was wrong.

Naps are the current issue. DS1 is dropping his afternoon nap, but obviously DS2 still needs his daytime sleep and I'm struggling to make it work.

Totally lost my rag today and practically threw them into the car just to get out. :(

Can't help with the dummy thing. I use latex ones so they stretch and soften over time making them oddly shaped. I've got a box of new ones but I'm in two minds whether to use them as I want to wean ds off them at some point!

Not such a bad night last night, but Sunday was spectacularly bad. Mind you, he's managed to acquire a really heavy cold from somewhere so that really really didn't help, esp after he'd thrown up over his sheets and blankets! He seems to be really cold at night too - even with a winter weight sleeping bag and a couple of blankets

Hi everyone, sorry I've been MIA, struggling a bit combining a non-sleeping DS with work :( I was so busy last week I didn't get a chance to express and ended up with mastitis!

DS has picked up a sickness bug and is asleep next to me while I try to syringe water into him slowly. Poor boy, despite being a happy chucker he's not been this sick before and it's scaring him. I tried to bf him to sleep as normal earlier and ended up covered in a wave of projectile vom - yuck!

Oh puddle I'm not surprised its caught up with you! Hope you're getting the chance to rest and feel better ASAP.

DS seems to have stopped puking but now has really pale, smelly poo :( he's very clingy but we've had quite a few smiles and he's kept down a couple of breastfeeds now. I'm feeling guilty for not being at work but he has to come first! DP has some flu-like illness and is really suffering with it, so DS and I are at my mum and dads so they can help me out - I love my parents! My dad will spend hours walking around with DS in a sling to try and get him to sleep, it really takes the pressure off me.

I managed to clear the mastitis with a lot of pumping, massage and feeding DS in some weird positions. I rang my gp and got a prescription for antibiotics but didn't need them in the end! I was feeling shivery etc but I had a cold as well so it must have been that.

Aww Joyful Feel better soon lady. Spanner Glad you managed to shake the mastitis, hope your little one continues improving.

DS slept from 8.30ish till 3.30ish... Our longest stretch of sleep in 10 months... In shock...

Cold nearly gone but he failed his pear challenge on Wednesday - why oh why is he failing when the skin prick test was negative all round?

Sleeping has been shocking (as you'd expect) while he had his cold, but last night he slept from 9 til 6 without even needing me to put his dummy back in! I am in a state of shock!

Hope all are feeling better and are over the colds/bugs/viruses/mastitis etc. Also hoping the sleep fairy pays you all a visit - from past experience I know she won't be back here for a bit

Long answer or short joyful?

The short answer is no. The long answer involves lots of tears and swearing esp this morning. I can do that one too but you might then wished you'd never asked

If you find one, grab one for me too

It's been very quiet on here.

Well over the last month or so someone swapped my usually cheerful if non-sleeping baby for a grumpy, whingy, whining clingy one. It does seem that we have a reprieve at the mo, if only temporarily. The sleep is still elusive (although naps are better) but he been smiley and cheerful at least. The last wonder week was a killer, combined with 6 teeth in under two months!
We got out for a bike ride today. DS in the trailer which he usually hates. He fell asleep in it today and then we had a picnic in the park (DS ate some vegetables (shock)). He's now down for nap two of the day and I'm curled up next to him. He would actually let me leave him, but I'm warm and cozy and I have diet coke & chocolate!

I'm hoping the happy smiley DS is here to stay for a while!

Button sorry to hear about DS failing hs challenge. Puddle hope you're feeling better.

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Lo ladies, 'tis very quiet here. Hope you are all okay.
Well, our sleep has gone from the awesomeness that was the 7 hour stretch to absolute balls again (as it always does, why am I surprised). Things are currently bloody awful. Thinking another tooth is on its way.

I sometimes have no idea if we're doing this right at all. He seems to be dropping his 3rd nap, but isn't really able to stay awake that much longer and so come dinner and bath/bed he's absolutely shattered. We've moved bedtime earlier for now - today he had his morning nap at 7am(!) as he's getting up at 5am consistently now :( That was 45 minutes and then he had one hour and a bit at 12-1ish. We put him to bed at 5.30, which is crazy early but he doesn't seem to be managing without hs 3rd nap but won't take it either. No idea if we're helping or hindering, really... Poor fella.

He is crawling now though, little man is finally on the move :)

Quiche! Come hither! :)

PS sorry about your little man, Button, and I hope you're well on the mend Joyful :)

Hi gang, sorry haven't been around much. No excuses but have just been a bit down. Sleeping is still crap. I am now on a mattress on the floor with DS (and without DH) and can't see that changing. Every now and then I get a good night but more often than not its shit. He has also started resisting naps - I spend most of my time laying on this bloody mattress in a darkened room. Told DH today that I feel like a hostage! Does anyone know when they drop their morning nap? DS is 11 months now so think its too soon but grateful for advice.

On the plus side, he has started pointing at stuff when I say the word (like picture, window etc) which is very cute.

DH is also doing my nut in but I reckon that's a whole other thread. I'm sure it's the baby and not sleeping that's behind our fall outs but sometimes it's like we're on different teams.

Ok, DH has just called me down from the bedroom (where I was having a 15 minute rest before bedtime) to tell me DS had done a poo. I said 'ok'. He said 'well, do you want me to change him?' Errrr, no. Let him roll around in his own filth.

I ended up doing it. Fucking waste of space.

:( sorry everyone is having such a rubbish time. We've gone from happy confident DS to clingy and whiny DS here, I thought it was just the tummy bug he's had but the longer it goes on I'm starting to think its developmental. He cries whenever I put him down, when I'm holding him, whenever someone else is holding him, I want my happy baby back!

DP who had been bedridden for the last week with flu has now picked up the baby's D&V bug so he's just a joy at the moment :( I may as well have been a single parent for the last week as he's barely talked or held him. I'm about to sanitise the bathroom and all the door handles, I don't want D&V again too :(

How old is your DS spanner?