when did your child sleep through the night reliably? (highly unscientific survey)

[Kveta]

By sleep through, I mean a reliable 10 hour stretch, so 7-5, 8-6 or thereabouts.

1. 0-3 months
2. 3-6 months
3. 6-12 months
4. 12-18 months
5. 18-24 months
6. 24-36 months
7. 36+ months (please state!)
8. HA HA HA HA HA what is this sleep of which you speak?

just curious, after being told by family that DS is clearly very delayed and DH and I are shite parents, as all babies should sleep through between 3 and 6 months. And then speaking to other parents who had 'good babies' who slept through early.

We are currently somewhere between 6. and 8. on the above list (he's 29 months and up several times a night most nights)

thanks :)

DD at 6 months - as soon as she went into her own room and was on solids, really.

DS took a bit longer, but he had to share a room with us for longer. I'll say 9 - 10 months.

Hi Kveta. Our boy is 29 months too. He usually wakes about twice. Although the other night he slept from 8.00 to 5.30 which is, what, 9.5 hours? That was exceptional though.

Fortunately, if our families think DS is deficient in any way for this, they have kept their own counsel so far.

DS is 27 months. So 6. I hope. Because he's not entirely reliable yet but he now has more nights of sleeping through (from about 7.15 to 6.15) than he does nights like last night, where he woke up for no apparent reason about 6 times between 11.30 and 1 at which point I gave up and brought him in with me, for fear of waking DS1 (again)

None of mine slept through the night as a regular thing until 18mths/2 years - it's one of the reasons we semi co-slept (they started off in their own bed, but came into ours for the bulk of the night) and they were still doing the odd wake up and come into our bed until 3 or 4 at least. In fact DD was still doing it a couple of times a week until she was around 6 and even now (8) she will come into us every couple of months. DS2 is 11 and still wakes a few times a night but is happy to stay in his own bed and reads/stares at the ceiling until he drops off again. I personally am an appalling sleeper (childhood insomnia and hypnagogic/hypnopompic hallucinations) so I guess they get it from me.

I think with children who are generally poor sleepers the trick is to manage it to cause the least amount of impact - you can't force someone to sleep, but you can manage how you deal with it. We were lucky I guess, we live in a flat so no stairs to worry about so there was no issue with the DCs just getting themselves up and making their own way to our bed even at the age of your DS, and obviously we had no issues with co-sleeping (very big bed and a definite preference for sleeping over fighting with toddlers at ridiculous hours in the morning )

We are somewhere between 6 and 8 too. We just had a 2 month spell of co sleeping due to cot refusal and while it took a while to get dd off ti sleep she could do a goodstretch. Im pregnant and fed up of the wriggling so dd is now in a toddler bed in her own room. Bedtime is no longer a battle but she is waking a lot and ends up back in with us between 2 and 4am. Dd is 2.2

DD - Good sleeper from two weeks old. Was probably sleeping reliably from 1 month old.

DS - Nightmare sleeper. Odd full nights from 3-6 months (can probably count them on one hands), then not a single good night until 14 months old (when he started walking).

Both of them would only sleep on their tummies too but i never told the HV that!

DD was sleeping through by 12m.

DS is 19m, and still wakes at 11 every night for a feed, then about 50% of the time will sleep til 7am, the other 50% he will wake between 2 and 4am for a feed.

Age 10

DS1 - 4 months
DS2 - about frigging 20 months and still wakes now at 3.5 most nights demanding to be tucked in. He never slept much in the day either, just never needed it. Nearly killed me.

(3. x 2)

Both DC slepth through reliably at around 8-9 months. However from about 3-4 months both went down to a fairly regular single night wakening about 3am. Was BF so it was a case of shoving nipple into mouth until they settled then plonking them back into cot which I generally managed to achieve whilst only about half awake.

Reliably?

Two and a half years for both of mine.

Sorry about that.

Ds1 was 3 weeks. Pure luck. :)
Dd about 9 months
Ds2 is definitely no8 in your list. He's 3.4 now.

HuwEdwards I bow down.

DS1 3 months
DS2 3 months
DD1 2 years
DS3 18 months

I'm not sure whether to go 'YAY!' because other children appear to be crap sleepers too, or 'Boo' for the same reason :o

we kind of co-sleep most nights, as DS ambles through to our room during the night - but he will not lie still, and prefers to lie on DH's back (which is obviously not an issue for me!). I am also pregnant again, and hoping that DC2 is a better sleeper. please god don't let her be a worse sleeper than her brother

DH was apparently an atrocious sleeper until he was 7 but my parents just left me to scream it out from an early age. I am now an atrocious sleeper (perpetual insomnia) whereas DH is a great sleeper when not disturbed by a toddler on his back. So we are just going to let DS develop at his own pace, but jeez, it's tiring!

(it's my family and friends who are judgy btw, DH's family just say 'what did you expect?!' and sympathise)

9 weeks, 11 weeks, 18 months! All three treated in exactly the same way, try not to worry too much

seriously...once mine got through the teething stage, then we had the nightmare stage...then we had the 'worry' stage....then we had the falling out with schoolfriends stage

I look 50!

Oh wait, I am 50..

Mine slept through from six weeks but ds 2 and ds 3 started waking up again from eight months. Ds 2 stopped that after a couple of months, ds 3 [SEN] didn't and now at 17 hasn't slept a full night since.

Tell 'em nowt Kveta.

I sometimes wonder, as DS1 (who slept) went into his own room at 4 months and slept like a log. Never did CC, didn't agree with it. DS2 who doesn't sleep was in with me until I cracked up after 9 months of no sleep. I sometimes wonder if it was our fault for doing things differently, but to be honest I think it comes down to them all being very different.

Both of mine about 7 weeks

As long as you're not counting the 'Mommy I've got a sore tummy/need a glass of water/bagpuss warmed up' kind of disturbances, in which case 9 years and counting,

By Kveta: "I'm not sure whether to go 'YAY!' because other children appear to be XXX too, or 'Boo' for the same reason "

I reckon you've just summed up 95% of my MN experience just there

DS - from 8-10 weeks, absolutely no idea how it happened. One night we had a friend over for dinner, we were late with going for the "10 o'clock feed" and thought "let's see what happens". Put him down at 8 and he slept until 7am and that was pretty much that from then on.

DD - we got stuck on one feed needed to get through from 7 til 7 for a while... and rather inconveniently, she would not take it at 10-11pm, oh no, it had to be somewhere around 2-3am! But probably reliably through the night from around 4 months.

proper sleep through the night getting up at about 6 am, at about 4 yrs

ds now age 14 never slept 10 hours unless seriously poorly

dd sleeps round the clock at weekends but is 17, rest of the week about 7 hours anight and has always had about 7 hours a day from about 18 months when she gave up naps

Some children just don't sleep as much as the books say they will, so don't stress

DD1 3 years
DD2 3mths
DD3 is 13 weeks and STTN sometimes.