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HELP HELP HELP HELP - NOW NOW NOW NOW

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 19:31

I am trying controlled crying.... right now!

Put Jessica to bed at 7pm, she lay nicely for 10 minutes drinking her milk.

Since then she has screamed. I went in after 10 minutes crying and realised she had a dirty nappy, so changed her and put her back to bed and left her.

She is STILL screaming. Do i jsut leave her to cry herself to sleep at her bedroom door or keep going in?!

God i wish i had left her in the cot now...... bloody beds!

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tegan · 23/01/2006 19:06

Well hows it going tonight JARM?????
DH is at work late so I am doing it alone tonight.
So far so good. Followed DH's instructions to the letter and had her in the bath at 6.30 then into bed at 7, leaving the light dimmed, also she has only had 11mls of meds instead of 12mls so lets see if that makes a difference too.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 23/01/2006 19:07

She is in bed, and i havent heard a wimper YET! But DH put her to bed with milk so waiting until the bottle is finished and she will no doubt start.....

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tegan · 23/01/2006 19:19

I am really starting to feel like a failure in the mum department.
DH puts her to bed once and suddenly she has a wonderful routine and all because he left the light on and shut the door, why didn't I think of that?

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 23/01/2006 19:20

You are not a bad mum - little girls love their daddy's more - didnt you know that lol!!

Not heard a peep from Jess, so I guess i should move becky off the sofa to her cot!

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tegan · 23/01/2006 19:26

I have to congratulate you. You are doing so well with you're little ones and you hardly ever moan. Well done.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 23/01/2006 19:44

i do my fair share of moaning hun - but tend to direct it at DH!

Becky is hard work at the moment - 13 weeks going on 13 years i think! Refuses to sleep anywhere but my arms during the day and cries for no reason! She is good at night though, so cant complain!

Jess will get there eventually - a lot of her problems stemmed from when she was a newborn. My mum died suddenly and unexpectedly when she was 2 weeks old, so i took comfort in cuddles etc with my first-born regardless of whether she was asleep or not. Made a rod for my own back, and resorted to buggy/car induced sleep. Enough was enoguh though - cant really do it with another baby to think about so we decided to bang the nail on the head so to speak!

Fingers crossed we are BOTH getting there xxx

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tegan · 23/01/2006 19:55

Fully agree. Sorry to hear about you're mum. My dad was diagnosed with cancer 2 days after dd2 was born and I probably did the same as you, cried alot and needed cuddles when DH was at work and she was there to accept them.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 23/01/2006 22:02

its tough isnt it. I think we take comfort in our babies, but it isnt always best for them!

Fingers crossed for progress this week with the sleeping!!!

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mears · 23/01/2006 22:09

Jess - I would suggest she has her milk before going to bed if you can amange it. It is not a good habit to get into to suck a bottle to sleep.

Better to have bath, milk, teeth cleaned, story and bed. This kind of routine will help her get settled at night without fear of having nothing to suck.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 23/01/2006 22:24

Mears - thats what i had been doing, but everything was last minute tonight for some reason, so he gave it to her in bed. Will do better tomorrow i promise!

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mears · 23/01/2006 22:26

Will let you off

tegan · 24/01/2006 20:21

Well it has well and truely gone tits up. DD is up and raring to go even after giving her 15mls of meds and following the perfect routine.
WTF can I do to make her go to sleep and stay asleep without sedating her?

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 24/01/2006 20:26

awww sweetie, im so sorry.

What age is she again? Does she nap during the day? What time? How long? If i can help, i will.

Jess fell asleep in the car tonight on the way back from my Dads because we had been to sort out Rebecca's christening at the church, so we lifted her, and put her to bed - she woke briefly, but snuggled her up in bed and she is sleeping.

Becky also fell asleep in the car and is now in bed..... peace at last x

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tegan · 24/01/2006 20:39

She is 21 months next week and today she had a late sleep. She went at 2pm and I woke her at 3.40pm to pick DD1 up from school.
Perhaps that is a factor.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 24/01/2006 21:31

With Jess, if she isnt asleep by 1.30pm - tough! NO NAP!

I only let her sleep a MAX of 1.5hrs now, today she woke herself after an hour (ok so maybe i helped a bit by making loads of noise by going upstairs to the loo) but i try to get her to sleep at about 11.30am. This works well, especially as 3 x a week she has toddler group in the monrings and we get home at 11.25am and i put her straight to bed.

Either try reducing the nap or having it earlier... if Jess sleeps later than 3pm, she REFUSES point blank to go to bed at night!

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tegan · 25/01/2006 12:22

Well 8.45 she went last night and was up at 6am. Doesn't sound bad but when that is after heavy sedation I really do worry.
I am going to take her out in the car soon to make sure she has a sleep, not ideal I know but I have to do something.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 25/01/2006 22:23

how did it go tonight tegan?

Jess was out cold the minute her head hit the pillow! We realyl are getting somewhere i think! (I say that and no doubt the next 7 nights will be a nightmare!)

She did have a longer sleep today too - but that was because me and DH fell asleep at lunchtime too!

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tegan · 26/01/2006 12:00

Well it took 2 hours to get her to stay in bed so she finally went to sleep at 9pm and she disturbed at 4am but I didn't go in I just left her and she went back to sleep, but I had to get her up at 7.45 to get DD1 to school for 8am.
She fell asleep in the car at 11.30am so I have put her to bed.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 26/01/2006 12:07

well its getting there - keep being persistant. Shut the door and leave her!

Jess fell asleep on the way home from Asda in the car despite me shouting at her to stay awake! She woke when i stopped, and i put her up to bed awake, so she has just gone down - Remeber - wake her at 1pm! Ill be waking Jess at 1.30pm if she doesnt wake before!

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 26/01/2006 19:31

well we are a bit behind shedule tonight, and Jess is in bed, but crying - wonder how long she will cry for?!

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tegan · 26/01/2006 19:59

I made a huge mistake. Lost track of time and she had 3 hours sleep this afternoon. But we have upped her meds like the doctor wants and she has gone down with no fuss, but she has a really bunged up nose and is struggling with her dummy.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 26/01/2006 21:18

well she only cried for 5 mins, so not too bad!

Glad you had a better night, despite the long sleep!

lets hope things get better!

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tegan · 28/01/2006 08:50

GP has taken her off her meds until monday but after an hour of trying to get her to bed last night she slept from 9pm to 6.30am and then had another hour with her dummy so not bad and that was with out meds.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 28/01/2006 11:10

not too bad then hun.

We had 10 mins of screaming last night, but then slept from 7.30pm-7.30am without even the usual juice cry at 4am!

REALLY hope things start to improve soon xxx

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tegan · 28/01/2006 18:41

You had a prettyn wonderful night last night then hun.
I am slightly concerned as she hasn't had a sleep today so will she have a wonderful nights sleep or will it be the worst ever, I guess we will have to wait and see.