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HELP HELP HELP HELP - NOW NOW NOW NOW

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 19:31

I am trying controlled crying.... right now!

Put Jessica to bed at 7pm, she lay nicely for 10 minutes drinking her milk.

Since then she has screamed. I went in after 10 minutes crying and realised she had a dirty nappy, so changed her and put her back to bed and left her.

She is STILL screaming. Do i jsut leave her to cry herself to sleep at her bedroom door or keep going in?!

God i wish i had left her in the cot now...... bloody beds!

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tillykins · 20/01/2006 19:33

How old is she?
You need to leave her one minute then go in and soothe her
Then leave her two minutes, then go in and soothe her
then three minutes and so on
Not just leave her screaming!!!!

Good luck, it does work

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 19:33

18 months

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drosophila · 20/01/2006 19:34

I think you are meant to go in every 5 mins or so and put her back in her bed and try and soothe her. I'm no expert though.

compo · 20/01/2006 19:35

Controlled crying and giving up smoking!! You are a woman on a mission this week

tillykins · 20/01/2006 19:35

easily old enough for CC

oh, try not to lift her out of her cot / turn light on when you go in and soothe her

By the time you get to the 5 minute mark, she will probably be asleep - certainly the 10 minute

Then you do it again tomorrow night, the same way and she will go off sooner

And so on, it takes a few nights, and you have to be consistent and keep doing it but it works

Hang in there, its awful listening to them cry but it does work

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 19:39

thanks girls - i certainly am on a mission.... no smoking, dieting, cc.... god help my blood pressure!

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 19:59

She is asleep - 50 minutes after putting her to bed...

she made herself sick - thats not a good sign is it?

maybe leave it less time toorrow night..... BUT this is the earliest she has been in bed all week and we havent had to resort to the buggy or the car!!!

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littlerach · 20/01/2006 20:16

sympathies, it is so hard!
Evie woke up approx 40 times Tuesdat night - not funny.

Can yuo not put her in a cot again?

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 20:17

The army have already collected the cot - and she sleeps better in the bed- its just getting her to sleep now, where as that was never the problem!

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tegan · 20/01/2006 20:19

I know hwere you are coming from hunny.
DH is led on the landing floor facing DD's room and every time she gets up he tells her off. It really is the only way to keep her in bed.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 20:20

HARD WORK !

Bloody kids!

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tegan · 20/01/2006 20:32

She is now screaming. I think she may be getting over tired now.

colditz · 20/01/2006 20:37

I have put my ds in a bed for the first time tonight (he is 2.9) but it isn't working. He is running around, chatting to his toys, rattling his stairgate and shouting at us.

We are just ignoring him though, he's not upset, just wants to come downstairs, which he can't.

It had got to the stage with his cot that he was getting in and out as he pleased anyway!

tegan · 20/01/2006 20:42

Well she has finally gone after an hour of screaming and that was just me and dh.
HV told me to put a gate on dd's room and just let her get on with it, but I can't bring myself to make her a prisoner in her own room.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 20:43

we shut the door - so it was tough.... but did make herself sick - thats the bit im worried about

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jstbcs · 20/01/2006 20:48

Maybe you could try a bottle, then a bath, then out her in bed, then read stories to her for abotu 10 minutes.. then she shoudl be relaxed enough to sleep...

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 20:52

Jess wont take her bottle in bed most of the time, let alone before, but might try having bath time a little later and going straight from bath, to stories in bed..... roll on tomorrow night - NOT!

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tillykins · 20/01/2006 21:01

Children often make themselves sick if they scream and cry, don't worry about it

Tomorrow night will be easier, honestly it will but you must be consistent

A few nights down the line, you'll be so glad you did it

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/01/2006 21:09

i really hope so.... Dad is staying tomorrow night too and she is always realyl good for Dad so hopefully, she will go down no problems!?! HA BLOODY HA!

I will crack this by next friday!

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colditz · 20/01/2006 21:21

Ds is a prisoner in his own room! No way would I have him running about upstairs, going in the bathroom and putting things down the toilet.

It has never bothered him having a stairgate, his room is full of toys anyway.

It isn't an option in this house. It is more about safety than anything else, as I am such a heavy sleeper I often don't here him getting up straight away.

colditz · 20/01/2006 21:22

Actually, he went down really well, just bimbled about a but, shouted at me a couple of times, but checked him 15 minutes ago and he had got back into bed and gone to sleep.

tegan · 21/01/2006 07:41

Sorry everyone but i lied. By the time I had got down stair she was screaming again. Took til 9.30 to get her off and then she was up at 6.30.
Really considering the gate thing but won't be able to get 1 for another week or so, what to do til then.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 21/01/2006 19:52

well.... 10 minutes tonight and she was asleep - no bottle either - we made her have that downstairs before she went to bed.

so hopefully tomorrow will be sooner.... im a horrible mummy, but god it feels good to have my evenings back!

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tegan · 22/01/2006 19:32

Well we have medicated her up and last night and tonight she was in bed at 7pm. We have been leaving her light on but dimmed quite low and she hasn't got out of bed, just got in and went to sleep.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 22/01/2006 19:34

not even 5 mins of crying tonight - but that may have something to do with the fact she was up at 5am and me being a mean mummy only let her have her 1.5hrs at lunchtime as usual!

Wonder what stupid time ill be up in the morning!

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