10 month waking at night

[suss]

hello Lynn, everybody else, we have 10 month old babes(they were 9 month old and waking at night) (boy and girl between us) who wake at night, if anybody has any reassurance to give us or some ideas as to what might be the problem, we are pretty sure its not teeth we would love to know. Lynn, last night DB was bad too he woke three times before 9pm he goes to bed between 6.30 & 7pm. But I had an IVF egg collection yesterday, so was in bed and so I didn't go in to him. He started off by moaning, which escalated slightly, but he stopped within 10 mins and went back to sleep. Hooray! Glad to hear you had some sleep over the wkend.

sorry to hear natuk! still if they are all coming at once.....

Hi suss/Natuk

Hope your both well and managing now to get some sleep. Hows db cold suss? When is the party? Have you been yet?

Sorry to hear Ryan having hard time teething at night Natuk, hope your managing to get a nap during the day with him? Hope they come through soon and you can get a good nights sleep again.

Not been away yet and by the looks of things with the weather being so wet and miserable I think it might be postponed. We were originally going with friends as they have a skydive booked and we were going to stay overnight afterwards so looks like a miserable easter holiday stuck indoors watching rain .

I have no idea how to get dd back sleeping in her cot and cant remember last time I had a decent sleep. That has been since she took unwell at New Year. I still put her to sleep every night in her cot but after so many times going through to settle her I give in and resort to lifting her in with me. Ok not going to moan about it anymore its my own fault so only have myself to blame.

Happy Easter to you both, hope you have fab time whatever your plans.

Oh I am sorry to hear you are having sleep problems. Perhaps you could try fading - where you gradually use less and less contact to get her to go back to sleep. I think you have to get her back in her cot for the whole night first - regardless of how many times she wakes. Its going to be really hard work for you but I think it will be easier to do it now than later. Good luck let me know how you get on.

Hi Suss/LynnC

LynnC, I am so sorry to hear you are having sleeping problem. A big hug, i know how you are feeling.

I agree with Suss "I think you have to get her back in her cot for the whole night first - regardless of how many times she wakes. Its going to be really hard work for you but I think it will be easier to do it now than later"

I was putting Ryan in to my bed, when Ryan was teething. But he got so used to it in my bed, one night i left Ryan in his cot crying for a hour or so. So Ryan can get used to sleeping in his cot again. It hard, but no choice!

I brought a blackout blind for Ryan bedroom. Ryan (13 months old) now got 11 teeths, his molars cut through last week. I have also been having sleepless nights. But Ryan is seem to be sleeping through again, from 7.30pm - 6/7am. If he wake up at 6am, i leave him there till 7am.

Sorry for a long message!!

Let us know how you are getting on LynnC and Suss!

Take care

Love

Natuk

Hi suss/Natuk, nice to hear from you both. Hope your doing well - hows the lo's?

I know what I need to do and believe me I have set out to do it so many times and never had the strength to keep it going. I was planning over easter to do it as I had some time off but dd took unwell terrible high fever lots of screaming etc and was not going to try through that. DP is going to germany next week for a golf outing - nice eh! No jealousy here ha..ha! Anyway hoping to attempt to get dd back sleeping in her own cot then. Well thats the plan for now.

Is this the month suss for ivf? If so sending lots of best wishes your way and hope to hear of good news soon.

Glad to hear Ryan is doing well on teeth, were on 10 at the moment and think another two ready to appear soon. I also have blackout blind but think to be honest problem is just comfort rather than anything else. But good to know you managed to get DB back to sleeping in cot, every bit of encouragement helps.

Hope your lo's are keeping well and hear from you soon.

Hi everyone hope the sleep is going better Lynn - you are right to wait until you know she is really well otherwise you will just worry. It has been the most awlful winter for bugs - the worst that a few teachers can remember in London. Hopefully though with the better weather she will be better - how about the other half is he good at helping out? Perhaps you could take a few days off between you and do shifts?

Hi suss, thanks for message. No change sleep wise yet but DP going to Germany this weekend so I am trying to prepare myself mentally to go through with the crying nights and attempt to get DD sleeping in own cot while he is away. To be honest any time in the past when she used to wake constantly...way back when the 9 month thread started...he was never best at dealing with her crying and would raise his voice which would start me moaning at him and I ended up dealing with her anyway. I think I will be calmer if I am on my own as hearing dp grump from our room just gets me adjitated. DD has had bad two nights waking crying so bad started sobbing. Not sure what was wrong seemed to be having pains of some sort so hoping she will be fine by weekend to go through with the sleep thing.

Sorry went on there - hope all is good your end. How DB keeping?

Hi Lynn DH is exactly the same, he has never got up in the night for DB, and I remeber him telling me to shut db up one night as he had work the next day, so what would have been five mins of crying turning into me leaving my DB to cry it out to get him to go to sleep! they have a lot to answer for these men sometimes! I think you are right sometimes its much easier to deal with when you are on your own and you just have to get on with it good luck . DB is no longer a baby and we get probably two night a week ( on average ) when he doesn't wake up, but it is v rare now when I have to go in to calm him down.

Hi suss, glad to hear overall your sleeping issues are over. How is db keeping these days? How are you? Are you still going ahead with the ivf? Sending all best wished your way and hope to hear some wonderful news soon.

Well I didnt manage the sleep thing on my own. I took not well which was just typical being on my own so didnt go through with it. I did try the following week and told dp it was going to be hard but I would stand with her so she would realise she wasnt along but just not give in to lifting her out. After a couple of minutes dp came in and said Thats Enough so we gave in, or rather he did! So I have told him I never want to hear him moan about her in bed with us again. Sure we will get there one of these days but right now its not a priority she is perfect in every other way so grateful for that.

sounds fine - as long as you are happy then thats the important bit. My cousin still has her girls in bed with her and they are 5 and 7. Doing IVF now so I would like every one to cross their fingers for me over the next three weeks! ( need all the help I can get.) DB is being a typical boy but v well behaved at the hospital which is a blessing.

Sorry not been around for a while and first of all want to wish you all very best of luck with ivf and keeping, fingers, toes and everything else crossed for you. Really hoping all goes well x

As for sleeping I am fine about it and hope to not get to the stage where she gets to 5 and still in with us but cant be sure since the one thing I was definate about when pregnant is that she would not be brought into our bed to sleep. Ah the joys of parenting, just have to learn as we go and go with things that work for us. Not ideal situation but hoping one night she will just not wake up and sleep through in her cot...wishful thinking I know!

Hope db doing well? and glad to hear he behaves very well at hospital for you. Keep me posted and again sending very best of wishes your way.

glad to hear you are ok and DG doing well. IVF going ok so far - but I always seem to fail at the final hurdle so fingers crossed!

glad to hear things going well so far and just remember it doesnt always fail at last hurdle as you have that db of yours there to prove it can work. I know your trying to prepare yourself for any heartache but hopefully you wont have to go through that again. As always sending all best wishes your way and keeping everything crossed for you.

Hi LynnC and Suzz,

Hope everything is ok!! . Hope you are all well.

Well Ryan has been sleeping through for couple of months now. From 7pm to 7-8am. He is improving at last!! I am so pleased, i am having a bit of a lying in the morning.

Ryan is now 16 months and still not walking. He is bum shuffling everywhere lol.

Take care

natuk x

Hi Natuk - good to hear from you and great news Ryan is sleeping well again and you are managing to get a decent sleep yourself.

Sure it wont be long now until he is on his feet running everywhere. DD been on her for while now but down side of that is we have had couple of visits to A&E through her running and getting too excited. You enjoy time just now with his bum shuffling. Sounds cute.

Keep in touch and take care

hi natuk glad to hear everything is going well - ryan will walk when he is good and ready I have a friend whose boy didn't walk until 2! hope you are well too lynn.

Hi suss, glad to see db violence has stopped from Jan 05 thread and hospital visits are over again. How are you? Is everything going ok?

No not pregnant - have one more attempt left its all getting a bit desperate. how are you all? Is DD being chatty? DB is really talking and singing esp in the morning in his cot before we go in - it always makes me smile.

suss so sorry you must be so sad. Hope your managining ok and say a wee prayer for you for your next try, dont give up hope completely yet. Hope your ok.

Yes dd a right little chatter box and has lots of words. She loves sitting with her books at the moment and pointing to each thing and either saying the word or making the noises they make. Loves choo choo and gets very excited every time seeing a train. Also loves singing and gets very excited and tries to sing certain parts of songs. Her favourite at the moment is book of pooh on Sat & Sun mornings only thing is she cries at the end when they start singing goodbye - think I've got an emotional one on my hands

How sweet having db singing a song to you in the morning, no wonder it puts a smile on your face. Its amazing listening to all their words and how quickly they pick things up. Loving this age just now although other side is they also know NO (although only when they say it

You take care and keep in touch.

good to hear from you lynn it sounds as though you have a scrumptious little girl. I was a real Mummy's girl too and I had the most fabulous time with her - when I was little and as a teenager and a grown up - I was very lucky. We have one more attempt at IVF - which we'll do next year. I am just going to have fun with my boy for now! We are going to the seaside for two weeks, but we'll be back in August. Love S x

Yes I know how lucky I am with DD and appreciate all I have with her. I was/am a daddy's girl but close with mum too. Cant wait for all we have to come as she just amazes me all the time and cant believe how grown up she is already.

Good for you getting away to the seaside sounds just lovely and sure DB will have a really wonderful time. And just wanted to say too that it is not silly to feel upset for something you never had it is very much understandable. You want something so badly and no matter how hard you try not to build your hopes up when it doesnt happen its heartbreaking. I used to get upset each month trying for dd so cant imagine how hard it is when your going through IVF too. I trully hope all goes well next year for you.

Hi Lynn hope you & DD are well. We had a fab holiday, weather fantasic and DB had the best time out in the boat, catching lobsters, paddling etc. I am hoping to go back towards the end of the month without DH - he can't take anymore holiday, but I shall have my dad and brother to look after probably, no rest for the wicked, and I must have been v wicked! DB sleeping is going through a bit of a bad patch, waking early in his nap and waking at night, but he is being v good really, except he spits out his food! Which is driving me nuts.

Hi suss, glad to hear you had a good holiday and hoping for another break soon. How is db sleeping now is he over his bad patch? We are still the same and god only knows when ever get back to normal but sure we will get there one of these days.

Just had a couple of days holiday myself unfortunately not away anywhere and decorating but at least its done now as we started in April and gave up and it was driving me insane.

Apart from that dd is doing great lots of new words almost every day or two and like db also going through a spitting out food phase. Lets hope it stops soon eh! She has also discovered forward rolls and decided to climb on couch and do one off of that and give me a heart attack!!

I know what you mean about the forward rolls DB has just started them as well and will try to do them in the most bizarre places , on the pavement, gravel paths?! Sleepwise we are having a bad patch, we have been at the seaside again with my dad and we have just got home last thurs, so he is waking quite a lot, no interventions necessary but its enough to wake me. This too shall pass, we have been having stretches of really good sleep - like for a whole week once! I think in general its getting better though. How are you doing?

Thats great you are getting on and db managing to settle himself again although I know its frustrating when it still wakes you but at least you are not having to go to him which is good. So did you have a good break at your dads then? I can imagine DB had fab time at the seaside too.

I'm the same sleep wise but thanks for asking anyway. Keep trying and even bought a quilt with the weather cooling down in the hope she will be more snug and warm in her cot and not wake up. Wishful thinking I know but will give it a try. Actually over past few nights I have been glad to have her with me, she has had a cold for about 2 weeks now but the other night was very badly sick and glad I was beside her to lift her up and make sure she wasnt choking.