So, day 2 of my sleep "training" my DS. I've read all the helpful things that people have suggested and am sort of pick 'n' mixing with what I think will work.
Normally DS will only fall asleep on us and it takes us until about 9pm to get him into his cot, but (with a few tears 
) DS is in his cot by 7.30pm and snoring gently after about 15 mins of patting/shushing/singing 
(down from 45 last night) and even napped for 40 minutes in his cot this afternoon.
I'm not being unrealistic and I don't expect him to sleep through, but having an extra couple of hours to do nothing other things is just so brilliant.
Having said that, no doubt he'll be a nightmare tomorrow night 
, but for now, I'm so proud of our wee family!