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[IMissSleep]

SLEEP! Not getting enough at night or naps during the day. Doesn't matter what age your DC are.

Share your stories here, solutions or just have a vent!

I'll start...

My DS is 8.5 months. Went through a good stage with night time routine, still has really - self settles to sleep no problem. Feeds at 11pm. But will wake between 2am - 5am maybe 3 times. So I'm up and down a lot during the night! He has slept through maybe a handful of times. Still good with naps, 2x 2hr.

Still would love a full night though!

Hello again! thanks for your advice on cranio - I think I'll give her a call and see what she says. i trust her as she sorted me with my pelvic complaints when I was pg (chiro, not cranio), and she told me not to try again when cranio didn't seem to be working for DD2, didnt charge me, so she doesnt seem out to make a quick quid!!

here's to some sleep for us all tongiht....hopefully!

Hey Ladies :)

Well after a crap night on Friday, Saturday DS slept from 8pm - 4am, fed and up for the day at 7am. Felt so much better! Had a 3 hour morning nap today too and we both had a snooze in bed at about 4pm for 1 hour. I suspect he is ether teething (he had 4 come through at once a few weeks ago) or he's getting a cold, bit grouchy today. He's in bed now and that's where I'm off to :)

Well we've made to another day. Not too bad a night here.
Bed 20:00 (asleep by 20:30)
Woke 23:30 ( quick cuddle and fast asleep immediately)
Woke 03:30 (took to bed as unsettled and DH up early for work)
Woke 05:00 (bf and cuddle)
Woke for the day 06:00.

Don't know if I have just got used to broken sleep but I dont feel as tired and the 3/4 hour stretches are so much better than the previous 1/2 hours. Hope you are all good and refreshed this morning.

Morning all,

Fab night here - bed at 6.30pm for DD, 9.30pm for me (it was still light!) she was up once at 12.00am for a feed and then grumbled at 5,30am so took into bed until 6.30am. That's better than we've had in ages..Bizarrely she often sleeps better when she is exhausted rather than well rested from naps - maybe should give up naps???

Glad you got some rest Zimm :)

My DS is the opposite, bad naps = bad night!

Better night here, bed at 8pm, feed at 4am up for the day at 6:30am. He woke at about 5am for his dummy but I don't count that as "waking up"! I think he's teething again. Hope everyone else had a better night :)

Glad to hear some of you had better nights. I seem to go through fazes where I cope fine on the broken sleep, then all of a sudden it hits and every few weeks I go through a few days of being totaly exhausted. I'm in one now, poo!

Yet again, DS woke up at his old feed time. So we went
7.40 into cot awake. Asleep after much shushing and patting at 8.15
9.45 woke, back to sleep very quickly with shush/pat
1.10 woke. cuddle to calm down then back in cot for shush/pat, took about 15 mins
3.00 woke. BF in bed
5.30 woke. BF in bed
7.00 up for the day.

Daft I know, but for the few days he woke up and wouldn't go back to sleep at 5.30 it felt like we'd droped a night feed. The last couple of nights he's gone back to sleep after a feed (no chance without!) which at least gets us more sleep, but I feel like we're not getting anywhere on dropping night feeds as then it counts as two still!

Urgh, just feeling tired and fedup this morning. Maybe we should try to get rid of the 3am ish feed now and aim for just the one at 5.30am. Who knows...

On a posative (feel guilty when I winge about my lovely little boy as he really is lovely) my DS finally managed crawling forwards yesterday for the first time. He's being going backwards at quite a pace for about 2.5 months.

FloweryBoots Friends have said as soon as their DC crawled, sleep got a lot better! Fingers crossed for you!

Yesterdays morning nap was a disaster! He self settled no problem at about 9:30am. We have a fire alarm test every monday and he usually sleeps through it, not yesterday! He woke up and screamed for 30 mins :(

Afternoon nap was a lot better, 2:30-4:45.

Bed time was a first last night, Put him in bed at 7:40pm - sleep by 7:42pm!
Much the same during the night, woke at 3am, 4:30am up for the day at 7am

I didn't do a night feed last night. Trying to cut it out. Hope everyone had a good night :)

No idea what is with my DS, maybe it is the crawling, or maybe he's teathing again - we had a lot of dribble yesterday and very rosy cheeks this morning. Or perhaps he'd no different to how he's been for weeks and I'm just tireder. Last night went

7.15 in cot. Asleep 7.30 - actually that's very good.
8.15 woke
9.30 woke
10.30 woke (disturbed by us going to sleep probably though)
2.00 woke (yeah, missed out the 1am wake up) Tried to get back to sleep without a feed to see if we could push it later again. Sleep 2.15
2.25 woke. BF!!
3.15 woke
4.50 woke BF
6.50 up for the day.

Anyone else looking forward to a rest come the afternoon nap slot? I usually spend that time making tea, tonight I think we will eat take away!

Not a good one here either in comparison to previous nights.
Bed asleep 19:30
Woke 20:30
Woke 10:30
Woke 02:30 (took 90 mins to re-settle!!)
Woke for the day 05:30!
Only one feed at 02:30 tho and she went off no problem initially. Just need to crack the night time wakings. So frustrating as she is grumpy today due to over tiredness but it's taken me all morning to get her to nap and now I am going to gave to wake her in a bit to go the docs!!!!! I give up. It's like they know. Praying tonight is better as on own whilst DH is away with work.

I usually sit on the sofa, put the tv on and relax for his afternoon nap. But today we are going to visit a friend, she has a 4 week old and a 19 month old! Luckily her 19month old DS sleep v well (8pm-9am!!!) So wont be able to relax today. DS only had an hour nap this morn, we are having our bath panel replaced so all the noise woke him. Will try and get him to nap a little bfore we leave.

nov75 Do u have anyone who can watch DD for you so you can catch up on some sleep? Its so hard when you're on your own isn't it? My OH has a office in Spain and goes for 2-3 days at a time. Thankfully he doesn't do it often. But He's away at a fitness show this wkend (sat) He said he'll come home but its a 2 hour drive!

Nov75 fingers crossed for a better night for you whilst you're on your own.

Naps have been a disaster today here. Usually fine but today just got disturbed for various reasons. Hope we don't end with a little boy who wont eat tea because he's too tired then wakes all night because he's hungry...

Same here FloweryBoots.

Morning nap was interrupted. Took him forever to settle for his afternoon nap, he finally fell a sleep at 3:30pm. His still sleeping!

well, tonight's the night...... DD had her first cranio appt today! a night of sleep? I hope so ,they were up for 2 1/2 hours last night between them. i fell asleep at my desk today -ooops!

Better night last night.
Asleep by 7 pm ( had to shush pat awhile as restless)
Woke 23:45 (rocked back to sleep)
Woke 02:30 (bf and put down in cot)
Woke 03:00 ( wet bed and pj's so had to change)
Finally re-settled and asleep by 04:00
Woke for the day 06:00.

Shame she had wet as I think last night was good otherwise. Nice almost 5 hour stretch to start so let's hope tonight is just as good. Hope you are feeling refreshed!

How was your night olivo??

nov75 I bet she would of slept through till 4am if she hadn't wet, my ds went through a stage of doing that! Think its all the wriggling in the night!

After yesterdays terrible naps, he woke from his afternoon one at 5:30pm. When OH got home at about 6:15 I said we needed to take DS out for a walk as we didn't make it out all day! Took him out for a while, then bath, play, bottle and bed at 7:45pm. Sleep by 8pm.

He slept through till 5am!! Fed him and left him awake in bed. Fell back to sleep and woke at 8am!! Couldn't believe it. Made OH late for work, and our boiler was being serviced at 8:15am so had a mad rush to get ready!

I actually feel so tired though! Its always the way, broken nights sleep and I feel fine. Lots of sleep and I feel rough!

Olivo, how did you get on? IMissSleep, glad you had a better night. Hope you're boiler is OK!

I lost track of everything last night. I know I eneded up feeding him at about midnight as we just couldn't get him back to sleep, and again at about 3am. After tat he seemed never thoroughly asleep and I honestly can't remember what happened, if I fed him, or anything. All I know is I woke up with him in our bed about 6.45 this morning when the alarm went! Oh dear, probably undid any progress we had made. Oh well, tonight is another night.

Sorry imisssleep' you were asking about the dream feed. I still haven't done it because I always think " what if tonight is the night he doesn't wake". However, apart from one night at the weekend when he woke at 2am, every other night for the last 6 weeks or so, he has woken between 10-11pm, so I think it is fair to assume that he is not going to start going through! Last night he woke at 10.40 and I still hadn't got to sleep yet, so tonight I am going to do it, at 10pm, so that I can hopefully be asleep by 10.30pm. Last night I was asleep by 11.30 and with a 3am and 6am waking too, it's just not enough sleep for me and we overslept til about 8am too. Sounds like you had a good night though!

Flowery boots, how have you been settling without bfing? I have half heartfelt tried, but he is really just looking for boob! olivo' at your desk? Oh dear!

well, it wasn't the improvement I was hoping for but it was a tiny step; she woke at 12, got out of her bed a couple of times, cried and then i Put the landing light on and left her to it ,so she went back to sleep till 6.20. SHe was maybe only awake for about 45mins.
Next appt on Firday, then one next week - they think 3 should do it for now. I will report back!!
oh ,and have bought an amethyst crystal today, to slip under her pillow. Not sure if you guys beloeve i nthat sort of thing but I will personally try anything!

Glad to hear people have had better nights - I know what you mean about feeling worse after more sleep!!

CamperFan, my DS would only settle for boob previously but I'd always tried for a few minutes cudeling to see if that would do and then it suddenly started to work (for early wakings anyway) so at first it was a cuddle whilst jiggling up and down and singing, then after a bit sometimes he felt like he couldn't get comfy in my arms so it was a cuddle until he calmed down and then put him back in the cot and sing or shush whilst patting his back. Now I generally dont have to pick him up if he wakes before 1am and he will go back to sleep if I shush and pat (not for DH though). After 1 am it gets harder, hence still two feeds!

Morning. Mixed night again!
Bed 18:45, asleep 19:15
Restless 21:45 (patted back to sleep)
Woke 12:30 (rocked back to sleep)
Woke 02:30 (rocked back to sleep
Woke 04:30 (bf and took to bed with me)
Woke for the day 06:00.

Just pray she learns to self settle as thus would eliminate 2 of the night time wakings. Trying to stat positive as she managed 8 hours last week so it is possible. Everything crossed for us all.

We had a better night this time, not great but definately better, and I feel much more human having gone to sleep at 9.15 last night too!

Cot 7.10, asleep 7.30
12.20 woke - cuddle to calm then pat to sleep
1.10 woke - cuddle to calm then pat to sleep
1.40 woke - pat and singing back to sleep
3.20 woke - BF (but was strong and sat up then put him back in the cot instead of just lying in bed with him!)
6.30 up for the day.

So apart from being pretty restless between about midnight and 2 (I think he might have got up 4 times rather then 3 actually) we had a pretty good night as crucially it was only one feed. I was trying really hard to make the first feed late enough so he would hopefuly not wake again until proper morning time. The old 1am feed had become 2/2.30 ish so now I'm not allowing it until after 3am.

Olivo, sounds like the therapy had some effect and I guess it usually takes a few sessions, fingers crossed it keeps improving!

Well mine wasn't great really. Didn't settle at bedtime til about 7.45 (typical as had a friend coming over - very rare!). Woke at 10.40 bf, then 2.40 bf, then was WIDE AWAKE at 5, at which point I gave him Calpol, a fresh nappy, stuck him in the cot and decamped to spare room. I had to wake him at 7.30am. I don't know whether I need to be much stronger and not feed him on that first wake up. When he was only 12 weeks he used to go through til 4 or 5!

Well mine wasn't great really. Didn't settle at bedtime til about 7.45 (typical as had a friend coming over - very rare!). Woke at 10.40 bf, then 2.40 bf, then was WIDE AWAKE at 5, at which point I gave him Calpol, a fresh nappy, stuck him in the cot and decamped to spare room. I had to wake him at 7.30am. I don't know whether I need to be much stronger and not feed him on that first wake up. When he was only 12 weeks he used to go through til 4 or 5!

Only one feed in the night again here, at 3.30am (though I had been trying to get him back to sleep since 3.05!). Various other wakings too of course, but only one feed. It feels like some sort of progress.

Does any one else have a child that will not settle back to sleep for Dad but will for Mum, or is that just us? My DH is finding it a bit upsetting, and it is a bit of a pain because I feel bad going out in the evening as I know if DS wakes up he won't get back to sleep, which is not nice for him, and DH has to put up with the creeming, which is hard for him.