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The my baby won't nap sign here thread?

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Zimm · 19/02/2011 11:18

Helllo all,

Until recently DD (6 months) would only nap in her pram, this worked ok-ish. Now even this seems to be failing, yesterday I paced for 1.5 hours to get her to take a 30 minute nap. NOTHING gets done during the day as I am constantly entertaining her. Her night sleep was fantastic (8pm-6am, 6.30am - 8.30am!) but all went wrong at sleep regression and we now have anywhere between 2 and 6 wakings.

I worry about the lack of naps affecting her and making her miserable.

So please sign here if you too have a nap refuser, maybe we can share ideas or just support each while our houses descend into a cloud of mess, phone call go unreturned and exhaustion from street-pacing kicks in!

Zimm

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sedgiebaby · 22/02/2011 17:32

JudyHorse I'm so pleased. I think it is worth sticking with. You are creating a new sleep association, and replacing others you used before(if like me you were feeding or walking to sleep) and it takes longer in babies over 3 months I understand. Also hopefully you can avoid resorting PUPD, its not so 'gentle'. As things progress try to do the shushpat in the cot, then start going quieter and quieter with the shush, then slow the patting then just hold your hand, this is what I am doing to help get her to put herself to sleep. She is starting to extend her 40 naps which is all she has been doing for weeks and weeks, but it sounds as if you are already achieving this - the night wakings will in time benefit I'm sure. DD even though she has a cold and is teething is no longer waking up for me to settle her back to sleep it is once or twice for food only (yay's - I've had hourly, even every 20 mins)

IMissSleep · 22/02/2011 18:03

Ok, He has been awake since 8am and only napped for 1 hour. My mum was here so I think he was excited to see her.

I am now hoping he sleeps better tonight!!! He has to!!
Just had dinner and some fruit for pudding, bath next then bed, hopefully for the night! Wish me luck

Geordiegirl79 · 22/02/2011 19:08

Good luck everyone. We are just about to do bath, feed etc routine. DD has had two decent cot naps today but nothing this pm even though we were out in the pram so have no idea what tonight will bring but she does seem to be a generally happier baby today so think the overtired theory was probably right.

beela · 22/02/2011 19:13

Oh Zimm, sorry you didn't have a good nap day today. Hope you get some good sleep tonight.

I suspect our success was at least partly due to injections and calpol. That is 2 days in a row with a nap in the cot though, that has never happened before so for whatever reason I am thankful, and optimistic that it could be a regular occurence at some point in the future! I will keep with it. Thanks ladies for all the support.It's just so hard, isn't it, when they don't UNDERSTAND that to feel better all they need to do is close their eyes.

Good luck IMissSleep!

vix206 · 22/02/2011 19:32

Zimm what time did she wake up? Sounds mental but maybe 9 was too late and this had a knock on effect on the rest of the day? Eg my ds gets up at 7 and most mornings is asleep by 8.45.

sedgiebaby · 22/02/2011 19:41

Vix I find the same as you - two hours is too much in the morning. Maybe that will change as nights improve (being positive)

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Zimm · 22/02/2011 19:46

Hi - she woke up around 7ish so I guess 9 could have been too late...OH is trying to settle her now...I can't hear screaming so hopefully she is almost asleep.

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Zimm · 22/02/2011 20:22

UUrrgh first wake up at 8.22, it's going to be a bad one :-(

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IMissSleep · 22/02/2011 20:36

He woke up :(

just in our bed now trying to shhhh him to sleep...not working!!!

OH is taking over now, I need sleep!!!! And possibly some wine ;)

vix206 · 22/02/2011 20:48

Stay positive girls! I am really going to try and sleep now until 2 when my 'shift' begins!!

Fumblina · 22/02/2011 20:50

Sedgie, thats kind of what I mean but I'm thinking to add in the physical growth spurts too. That way we can see if there are any 'good' weeks left when the good/bad times are likely to be.

after a couple of weeks of really messed up naps with the 3 nap per day routine, I was wondering if we were transitioning to 2 naps per day so tweaked a bit to see if it would work today.

It didn't and we ended up with a very late nap at 4.45pm, which then put dinner back and then bath/bedtime back too. Not quite sure where to go from here... Will sleep on it (hopefully)

Geordiegirl79 · 22/02/2011 20:51

Just got DD off with DP doing lots of head stroking and shhhshing but there is whimpering. IMissSleep, wine is a very, very good idea. :)

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Zimm · 22/02/2011 21:36

I have wine :)

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mamaGool · 22/02/2011 21:43

Well done everyone for persevering & I hope you/we all get some sleep tonight!

Bit of a crap nap day for us as they were all so short & all followed a long period of crying (40 mins at 6.30, then again at 10 & 12 - only because he was in the car with additional white noise - in the sling for about 20 mins on Granny at 15.15, then another 20 mins at 4 in our bed (fed to sleep).

I then brought bathtime forward to 6pm, gave him a massage, then DH fed him to sleep with expressed bottle. That was great, but he's now woken up after about 2 hours & won't settle, so am feeding him in our bed (I need the early night!)...

Got a cold, so am going to sack off baby group tomorrow & just concentrate on trying to get us both as much sleep as possible.

Goodnight to you and your babies. Oh & have some too!

IMissSleep · 23/02/2011 08:02

Morning fellow sleepy heads!

Last night was a good night:
He feel asleep at 9pm
woke at 2:30am just for dummy
4:30am feed
7:30am up

Much better than it has been and I fell refreshed! I had my large glass of wine and feel a sleep at about 9:30
Its crap outside today so we are staying in, going to make sure he has some good naps, well that's the plan anyway!
Hope you all had a good night and have a good day too ladies
Zimm - hope the wine helped :)

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Zimm · 23/02/2011 08:13

Morning all,

An average night last night - down at 7.45, couple of minor grizzles before we went to bed which OH dealt with by shushing. Then up at 2.30 and 5.00 for a feed and then up at 7. Re-attempting the 9am nap shortly!

mamagool - hope your night improved!

How was everyone else's nights?

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Geordiegirl79 · 23/02/2011 08:35

Morning! Similar night to others - asleep by about 8:30pm, feed at 12 ish, another one at 2:30 ish and 5 ish then awake about 7:30. Resorting to feeding when she wakes in the night although I'm sure she's not waking because she's hungry, she's just so wide awake it's the only thing that works to get her back to sleep.

Dreading trying the 9am nap :(

Geordiegirl79 · 23/02/2011 08:36

PS sounds like all the babies are in cahoots with their nighttime waking schedules!

vix206 · 23/02/2011 08:39

My night more or less exactly matched yours Zimm except we got him off at 6.30 and he woke finally at 6.10.

As he got up early he went for morning nap at 7.45 (which felt v weird!) and he's still fast asleep!

I only got 3 hours sleep though. :(

Fumblina · 23/02/2011 09:40

Morning all.

Announcement: DD is napping in her cot 3rd time in 9 months.

That is is all. As you were.

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Zimm · 23/02/2011 10:06

wow fumblina well done!! How did you do it?? Just attempted the 9am nap, 40 minutes of screaming as I tried to sooth her, hold her hand, pat etc. No nap. Worse than yesterday :(

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Fumblina · 23/02/2011 10:24

I left the curtains/blind closed in her room this morning. Started settling her 1hr15mins after wake time. She wanted to sit on my lap and stare into space, then wanted milk.

So I fed her whilst carrying her up to the darkened room, singing my 'go to sleep' song on the way up the stairs. Then allowed her to keep on feeding until I thought she was essentially just comfort sucking and popped her into the cot, veeeerrry carefully.

Of course she rolled over, started to scream which got worse when I shhed or patted her so I gave that up pronto and took the 'leave the room to get dressed and see how it goes approach'. After 2 minutes - silence I could hear her frantically sucking her hand for a while but she has now been asleep for 40 minutes!

Oh - I just remembered typing this that DH 'taught' her to suck her hand (so he says anyway) by basically (as far as I can tell) shoving it in her mouth every time he put her down when she was younger. Not sure I would have advocated it if I'd known at the time but it does really seem to help her and I suppose means no replacing in night/lying with my hand through bars of cot with finger in mouth scenarios any more

Fumblina · 23/02/2011 10:25

Zimm, poor you. Is it worth just going back to whatever usually works for a few days and trying again when you are both less exhausted?

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Zimm · 23/02/2011 10:30

Well that is part of the issue. Even pram naps have stopped working!

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Zimm · 23/02/2011 10:41

Well that is part of the issue. Even pram naps have stopped working!

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