The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next... part 2

[whataboutthisone]

Firstly, I am a regular but have created a new name for this.

My thoughts about what I know so far:

1. In a much earlier post there was a discussion about a change in T&Cs and whether they are valid or not. Several years ago I took a company to court for a breach of their T&Cs. Their argument was that they had changed T&Cs and my complaint was therefore no longer valid. However, the judge said that because I had not specifically been asked to accept the new T&Cs, I was entitled to rely on the ones I had accepted and therefore I won my case.

1. I choose to post on MN in the knowledge that the details I give are probably just obscure enough to anyone I may know in RL who also posts, so that what I say still effectively remains private. However, that doesn't mean that the same could be said of, for instance, my mother, who reads the DM (!) There is probably just enough about my circumstances that would enable her to put 2+2 together. I would like the option to choose whether or not I let my Mum ( or anyone else in RL) in on certain areas of my life, and there is a real possibility that this hack, has taken that choice away from me.

1. I have never ( and now will never) post asking for advice, but I will also be very careful about offering advice in the future. I, along with many others, occasionally use examples from my life to explain where I am coming from. If I continue to do that, as I said earlier, it is possible that some people would be able to work out who I am. Now, I am not so big-headed as to believe that any advice I offer is worth taking, however, there are many fantastic posters on here who do give amazing and insightful advice based on their own experiences. It would be a real shame if that was to stop because they, like me, do not want to share some of those experiences with the folk they are close to in RL. It would also be a real tragedy if others were prevented from asking for help for the same reasons.

I am very disappointed that any MNer would feel it is acceptable to violate the trust we place in each other on this forum. I do not know who she is. I do not want to know who she is. But I hope she is hanging her head in shame for breaching the trust that has been placed in her by everyone whose words she has stolen to make a few bucks!

lol sadly I am just sitting in a house in Somerset listening to DH wash up the 89 saucepans that I have used today

I'm sure Cod, Mo et al fel honoured to be the valued posters that ge the MN largesse.

good for you!

I think i'll sit and eat some cake now as there is no bread for me!!

what is the DM just changed all thenames
so from
say VVQ to mad old bint [wink}?

or morning paper to "evening news"?

then all solved

NobodyKnows.

Right, I'm down with IP now (was thinking in IT terms !!!!!)

You seem to have been on and off batting off criticisms at all times of day and night is all. Just an overall impression. I'm not counting.

I think the DM could do with some of your style wit, MP.

That sounds more like Sun-style bluster to me, badger.

As I said before, I find it interesting because I used to work in copyright permissions (for OUP and CUP) - when I were a student many years ago

I'm baffled as to why I would have had to read Enid the posts on here.
I posted one thing she asked me to, after she read the thread, which, by chance was pretty simple, even for a deregisteredMNer, because, well, it's a public forum innit anyone can read it.

Don't be obtuse badger - it isn't the posting names, it's the situations which can identify people. Surely you know that.

well i really think unless its cross dressing or something that couldnt be twisted in some way( eg location gender) then that is invitable ont eh www

Us? who is Us?

Is that like the Royal we?

I can guarantee posters old and new are talking about this on a variety of different media, be it closed forums, facebook groups, email, msn, text messages or even, god forbid, face-to-face

who is channeling enid?

enid
how were your hols?!

so if you were stupid enouight ot name your CAT on here ( for eg ) then tat is what you get

Hang on, I'll ask her in a minute, I'm just doing her dishes.

Well fwiw I'd expect a line to be drawn under the existing posts in the archive - with the obvious exception of any personally "dangerous" stuff in there that people need deleting (tho' to be honest I'm rather of the view that if it was that bad the poster shouldn't have left it in the archive in the first place), and for people to be more aware in the future of the implications.

Like the idea of a pop up for changes to terms and conditions (but a lot of sites put the onus squarely on the user to check for changes to the ts and cs themselves which I also think it fair)

eww badger, you have put a really horrid image of Derren Brown and Enid crossed over in my head

at naming of cat

FC did you email LH to suggest she pops in to pour oil on troubled waters? i do think that she could clear a good portion of this up, and then we could talk about the meat of the issue (which she has highlighted and i for one am grateful for it), the archive, deletions etc.

like i say, twig managed it, most graciously.

No problem mate, valid for twelve months or you get your money back.

was that how the crazy ladies rumbled you, BA? you nitwit. [fond]

Imagine that someone was not a cross dresser but a school governor.

Imagine that they don't snort coke while taking it up the arse, but instead undertake a civic role in their community.

Then something crap happens to a close family member, or a pet. Something which makes them identifiable when they come on here for support.

Yes of course that person knows it's possible for the whole world to read their posts, but they thought they had the option to ask Our Lady of the Message Boards to delete them if they caused distress - because others in the past had had that honour bestowed on them.

Posters here are simply asking for the same beneficence as has been shown to others.

at "crazy ladies"

Not me, despite what badger says....

NB I have no idea if aitch is channelling anyone but she's bloody funny too