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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

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discojen · 18/08/2009 00:06

Sorry to divert the conversation but...
"This site is not just for people signed up to Mumsnet"

Isn't that the point? That a lot of us think it should be?

tatt · 18/08/2009 07:55

not bothered to read all of this but - these are public forums. Some of the threads are, IMHO, started by journalists looking for copy. Others are mined by them, at least to assess the "public" mood and how to slant their writing. I doubt there is any way of stopping that, short of a closed site where you have to be vouched for by several people before you join and there would probably be no profit in running that so you'd have to pay. The DM actually did it openly, with publicity for mumsnet. Don't much like it but that's the nature of the net and it's debatable whether doing it openly is better than the other ways journalists use this site.

Maybe Mumsnet needs more warning about the nature of the internet but really it's "buyer" (user) beware.

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 18/08/2009 07:58

Timeforme, I think some of us have started looking at the bigger picture with regard the copyright of our posts and who actually is the caretaker of our IP as well as this immediate situation with the DM.

Sorry you feel it is a slanging match but strong feelings do sometimes go that way. However threads always move on and around a subject so I am not sure what the is for!

stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 08:14

VVV I started a thread about our IP as for outside purposes it could identify some people very clearly if it got into the wrong hands (or summat).

Anyhow some people were very helpful but I also got a few "well duh" type replies and also "doesn't matter anyway".

So I got the impression that everybody knows about the IP stuff anyway, but not about the revealing other details.

Nowadays I don't think anyone has to give anyone anything. People are clever enough just to take it. Is that true VVV or am I off the wall on that one.

morningpaper · 18/08/2009 08:49

VVQV: Am sorry for mentioning the M word - I was just responding to Swedes claim that my claim that an editing facility would be abused was 'counter intuitive' by citing the most recent example I had of a talkboard with an editing facility.

Nancy66 · 18/08/2009 09:07

Hambler - yes, I am a journalist. You do know that Mumsnet was started by another 'scum of the earth' journalist don't you?

TotalChaos · 18/08/2009 09:09

OK - I'll give a nice safe example of a talkboard with an edit option - badmothersclub lets you edit posts for an hour after -and honestly it mostly is used to edit typos or where people feel they've put too much personal information - deleting bitchy comments is fairly rare - as often there will be someone around who saw the original comment and will call someone on it.

daftpunk · 18/08/2009 09:11

EPPM; lol, has happened on here, i'm guessing not everyone has DP on their ipod, and yes you're right, they're not strictly a "band" as there's only two of them

last post on this;

i fully back the journo concerned, it's not lazy at all, she had to C&P as that's the whole point of the column "today on mumsnet" i think it's a great idea, people want to hear what "real women" are saying, not everyone wants to read Karl Marx all day i would have thought you'd be happy to have your voices heard, what with you all being feminists.
having a weekly column in the DM will bring in new members (most of its readers are women) and help promote womens issues in a paper that maybe needs a little help in that area, that can only be a good thing...i am honestly shocked that so many of you are against it.

re; safety...again a non-issue...you are posting on the internet not chatting in starbucks, if you are unaware of the possible dangers of talking about your personal life on the internet, maybe you shouldn't be using it.

stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 09:12

no point journalist baiting anymore is there? seems a bit off the point

the biggest, hugest, only question, is how safe is our anonymity

now it feels a lot less secure

everyone took a calculated risk, some are more open than others

but the goalposts have changed

stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 09:16

however it's not really journalism

but then, feature writers anyway.. sorry but really.. it's just a lot of talking about what caroline said over lunch about her husband so someone decides to do a straw poll and write about it and then do a bit of googling about some study

or maybe the study comes out first and then they all ring round their mates

it's all a bit meh

HOWEVER none of that matters I just felt the need to be disdainful for a moment there

ohdofuckoff · 18/08/2009 09:18

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oopsagainandagain · 18/08/2009 09:19

stuffit- I keep making this point.
what happend when MN is sold on- or parts of it sold on.

Who owns the posts then?

It may not be people as sensitive and pragmatic as MN...
and we may never get a say in any decisions....

Nancy66 · 18/08/2009 09:19

Stuff - yes it is quick, easy and convenient but dismissing an entire newspaper or profession off the back of a 300 word feature is ridiculous.

The attitude to journalists on here is shocking - when they do post their requests officially through the media site they are met with name calling and abuse.

oopsagainandagain · 18/08/2009 09:21

i think we have to accept that daftpunk won't get past the DM angle.

We've been "bedating" this for a few days now and there's been no penny dropping moment for her so it seems..

And, yes, I'm sure alot of us know about daftpunk... but aren't really so bothered tbh.

I personally like tricky today..

and alabama3 and aliza carthy..

err, as you were

FioFioFio · 18/08/2009 09:22

My view is if it was not Leah Hardy who had done this, it would have been someone else - so that is by the by. I do think the whole debacle has raised some interesting discussions on the archive though prior to these new rules being introduced.

I am also interested to know though whether it will only be AIBU that is lifted for articles in this way? I don't know if anyone remembers The Family on channel 4 where a vast amount of the discussion thread was copied and pasted into The Mirror? They did remove names though iirc

stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 09:22

well, quite oops, quite, though there isn't that much say now is there? i've never had a say

others were saying they are even ignored when asking for deletions, so I suppose they don't feel they have a say either

people can quote me like mad but if I stay anonymous it doesn't matter, but that's not the same for everybody

anonymity is crucial

if mn sold my personal details to anyone I think I would invest in a flamethrower. Do you think they already have?

golly hope not

ohdofuckoff · 18/08/2009 09:23

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stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 09:24

I know Nancy, but you know, feature writers.

Reporters.. we need them, we need more of them, we need more freedom for them and we need more work from them that doesn't involve press releases

ohdofuckoff · 18/08/2009 09:25

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stuffitlllama · 18/08/2009 09:25

or mn

and we need a bit more two fingers up from them as well

oopsagainandagain · 18/08/2009 09:27

sorry- "debating" and "eliza"

And nancy66- suck it up, love, the rest of us do when our professionis slated here.

Life/too short for getting humpy over that.

I'm sure you'd have got yourself a thicker skin by now.

Nancy66 · 18/08/2009 09:30

Ooops - i have a very thick skin but I don't see why abuse and threatening behaviour should go unchallenged. so, no, I won't suck it up.

ohdofuckoff · 18/08/2009 09:33

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oopsagainandagain · 18/08/2009 09:34

"some fucker's been messin' with the phome line"

Nancy66 · 18/08/2009 09:39

ohdofuckoff - your charming msg to Julie Henry of the Telegraph for example: 'what a fucking shit article.'

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