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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

OP posts:
KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 22:19

Ahh FC, glad to see you have come down to our level and started the bitchy back biting - welcome back

FruitCrumble · 17/08/2009 22:23

Ah kingcanute, a much better name!

Yes it does say that but it also used to say that your postings belonged to them and they could do what they liked with them, although I believe the wording has changed now.

Also, with the glut of news stories coming out containing Mumsnet quotes, you'd think most mumsnetters would now understand that they could see their thread in print.

That is one of the dangers of the internet. It is public. I'm sorry but if you knew the risks when you posted, then you can't really complain when it's your turn to be in print.

Now ladies I have to go, funny how mumsnet can suck you in. Good luck with debating this one, I'm sure it will go on for some time to come!

FruitCrumble · 17/08/2009 22:23

If you can't beat them, join them!

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 22:25

Seemed more appropriate somehow

Right I have now seen the light, cheers FC

daftpunk · 17/08/2009 22:30

noooooooooooo FC...don't leave me...you know who daftpunk are..

plus this lot just want to lock me in the cellar and throw away the key....

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 22:33

Well I knew who daftpunk were/know who they are... IYSWIM ....but I am kind of tempted by the cellar plan

Aitchiswaitingforalegalopinion · 17/08/2009 22:38

bye bye 'FC'. do email your friend LH. [important]

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 17/08/2009 22:43

Slips DP a key

So come on who is it..... I AM BURSTING TO KNOW NOW

daftpunk · 17/08/2009 22:44

king;

tbh i'm not a big fan of daftpunk.."one more time" isn't a bad song, my dc loved that video....ha ha

i'm more into.. my chemical romance, linkin park..that kinda thing

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 22:47

Ah, much better taste - oh course I am far to old to really appreciate them as I grew up in the midst of "hair rock" but my Mum (yes my mother) introduced me to them (and green day amoungst others) and they are better than Daft Punk IMHO

Kimi, the clues are in here, if you want to know you may have to work at it I am afraid

Therevchasesducks · 17/08/2009 22:47

do you like the new linkin park song(not sure if it ios new or just the transformer song) DP

daftpunk · 17/08/2009 22:49

kimi...

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 17/08/2009 22:52

KING I had a G&T before dinner and 2 glasses of wine with dinner, I have been crab fishing all day and I am tired PLEASEEEEEEEE tell me as I want to go to bed and I neeeeeed to know....I will give you chocolate if you tell me

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 22:54

Lol - I have to admit the chocolate is tempting.... but no, we are under orders from HQ and I think I may get beaten with my own appendages if I tell anyone - having spent 48hrs saying we shouldn't really be telling anyone

daftpunk · 17/08/2009 22:58

therev;

love it

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 17/08/2009 23:00

LH
Little Hitler?
Larry Hagman
LetsHippo
LookHarry

I don't bloody know...bugger it I am off to bed

Therevchasesducks · 17/08/2009 23:01

It is brill

KingCnutBoredOfDMButWontLetGo · 17/08/2009 23:02

LH is her real name Leah Hardy I think... it is her MN name no-one can link to IYSWIM.

daftpunk · 17/08/2009 23:04

therev;

do you like their stuff..?

minutes to midnight is a brilliant album..

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 17/08/2009 23:17

Give up.
Going to bed to dream of Hawaii, night all

Slips garland round thread

Timeformeplease · 17/08/2009 23:22

Been trying to get peace (and laptop from dh )to post an interesting and intelligent opinion on these threads for a few days! Now it seems there doesn't seem much point since it has deteriorated into a slanging match? Feel we have lost focus here - look at the thread name !

Off to lie down in a dark room now and recover from thread catch up...

Oh wait, wait... have just had a lightbulb above the head moment tho - why am I against DM printing actual thread transcripts? If MIL does indeed read one of my AIBU then two options - she reads and amends her awful ways, or, she realises it is me and never speaks to me again - either way RESULT

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 17/08/2009 23:26

LOL

Therevchasesducks · 17/08/2009 23:30

i do DP

hambler · 17/08/2009 23:36

Nancy66 , I am always happy to bring a little laughter into anyone's day , but before you start calling people stupid , perhaps I should rephrase my previous post which caused you such mirth.

A great many people absolutely DO think journalists are "scum of the earth" and if you are not aware of this you are deluded. (are you perhaps a journalist yourself?)

I think this view is more then a tad simplistic but I understand why people do not consider journalists in general to be trustworthy .(see also estate agents, bankers)

The DM mumsnet stuff does nothing to help the public perception of journalists.

I hope this wordier variation makes more sense to you (why use ten words when you can say the same thing in 200, eh?) and you don't feel the need to hurl insults.

EachPeachPearMum · 17/08/2009 23:49

daftpunk... who on earth doesn't know who daftpunk (the band) are? seriously?
I thought they were pretty well known!

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