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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

OP posts:
Aitchiswaitingforalegalopinion · 16/08/2009 09:15

the bonkers thing is, if something comes up in the news, say Angelina runs off with a lifeguard, and there isn't anything that relevant in terms of 'omg my wife just ran off with someone' then as it stands LH could just post her own OP and use that and the replies it gets. lololol.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2009 09:17

I am personally wondering at the term 'fair use' along with the very clear disclaimer on the front page saying that all posts are copyright MN, for use in books and such. By coming here and 'mining' our words, aren't they, actually, breaking copyright?

There seems to be a contradiction there to me.

Although, I must say I am in no way shape or form worried about privacy. I never name change, no matter what I post, because I truly believe there is no privacy left in the world, so why bother? And because if certain people I know do read this? I hope I can shock the sh*t out of them.

Have a great holiday Justine!!

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 09:19

Sorry, Justine, I missed the additional post where you said that you are going to ask them to stop.

It really wasn't clear in your initial post that this was the case- which was actually the whole crux of the issue for some!!

I'll wait and see waht happens, but if the DM do stop, do you have any plans to use this idea of LH's and court other publications?

stuffitlllama · 16/08/2009 09:41

it's disrespectful to assume that most people would "like the same gig" as it implies that it's disliked because of jealousy

rather than thinking "more publicity is good publicity" the lawyers should have been brought in the first day .. or were they? did I miss that?

PrincessToadstool · 16/08/2009 10:05

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daftpunk · 16/08/2009 10:09

i wish all the people moaning about this would shut up. MNHQ have given a perfectly reasonable explanation which should be comprehendable to the most people, it doesn't seem to have been written in code.

any business would love a weekly colume in the daily mail, it's national exposure and has very few negatives.

MN needs fresh faces and opinions, the problem some mumsnetters have is they think they own the place...well sorry, you don't, and tbh..if i was in charge i'd tell all the moaning whinging bores to naff off.

this is a website open to anyone, if all you want to talk about is lemon drizzle cake and 10 ways to clean a kettle...join the womens institute.

amidaiwish · 16/08/2009 10:13

I like the idea posted above that searching by username is limited to the past week.

Maybe this could exclude "myself" so you can find old posts/threads you remembered.

Does anyone see any reason why you would want to search by someone's username for the past months/years (unless you were stalking/checking them out?!)

if you did have a valid reason to search for somebody then you'd have to remember the topic/key words (which you should be able to do) and then find their username within the thread.

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 10:13

I wish people who don't agree with me would just go away and shut up......

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 10:16

I can assure you dp that plenty of businesses/institutions would not love a "free weekly column in the Daily Mail".

NonGratisAnusDailyMail · 16/08/2009 10:22

Cor blimey, if all the people who disagreed with DP shut up and went away, MN would be a very quiet place indeed

Thanks for the update Justine & have a great holiday

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 10:30

i have no problem with people disagreeing with me, and i'm sure i'm a pita to MNHQ, but they run this place and they should be allowed to make business decisions with out all this hassle....fgs, it's a colume in the daily mail...i wouldn't want mn having anything to do with promoting pornography or stuff like that, but if they did, i wouldn't spend three days posting about it..i'd just leave,...quietly,..no fuss.

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 10:34

Ohhh, Dp, my dear,
the issue isn't the DM, it is the fact that if MN sanction this relationship without understanding their legal position in it (and now maybe they do, but they didn't on friday) then that leaves the door open for any journalist to take stuff and print it.

It could end up in porno monthly- ie the DV threads, ie real life women being beaten recounting how it happened- their sotries could end up in some very dodgy, barely legal publications for funa nd amusement.

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 10:35

But they haven't made a business decision to tie in with a column in the DM, dp. I'm really surprised that this vital aspect of the issue has passed you by. The copy has been lifted, without permission, and reproduced verbatim, infringing MN's copywright.

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 10:38

And some of us want to leave.
And we want to take our posts too as we feel that there has been a massive chamge in use of our posts since we signed up....

and there is to be/has been a change in the terms and conditions under which we agree to post

and Mn have not confirmed if this means that our old posts are involved in the New Terms and Conditions...

and what it all menas now MN have stated that they will court more and more media involveement/reporting/lobbying around and presumibly IN the site itself...

but hey ho- lets just have a fight about the DM - it's easier...

TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 16/08/2009 10:38

"last thing I (or any sane person) would want to do would be to threaten the Daily Mail"

No shit!
As Rafi said, you already have arrangements in place for payment from those who wish to make media requests. Pointing that out extremely politely might be the best approach. And expecting them to ignore that anyway.

And if we didn't gain any eyeballs from the article then that pretty much blows the 'all publicity is good publicity' argument out of the water. DP.

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 10:38

oopsagain....i understand what you're saying, .....but let me tell you something, sickos who get off on talking to women about DV are called trolls....we get them here.

StinkyFart · 16/08/2009 10:42

no no DP

what oops is saying is not that trolls will come here to troll, but that posts about DV will be lifted and published elsewhere, for the delectation of said sickos

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 10:47

no, DP, clearly you don't understand.
But i have a lunch to attend...

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 10:49

SF;...do you honestly think that will happen ?....because i don't. sickos want their fun "live".. they want to talk to women, that's why you have to be careful about what you say and how much info you give

i could go and name-change, start a thread in relationships about DV and have 10 women talking to me within minutes...that's what sickos want.

teafortwo · 16/08/2009 10:57

I think MN itself has become a bit of a (minor) sleb! Like with all slebs MN needs to carefully think about how to handle 'the press'.

Given the Daily Mail and everything it stands for I can't see how this particular feature can be a good thing. Surely the threads featured, comments made and quotes used are unlikely to benefit mn or posters and are highly likely to be twisted and cause real embarrassment and offense.

Having said this - If I (wishful thinking) or any other mner were to be quoted saying something particularly witty or enlightening on a news or more likely comment worthy, well researched and insighful Observer feature written by a reporter I respect and enjoy reading say off the top of my head - Mariella Frosrupp, Barbara Ellen, Miranda Sawyer... or Katheryn Flett (who on the side I would like to mention led me to mn with a hilerious one liner suggesting she was mumsnetting while her child was busy downing bleech - I googled immediately!!!) I, like (I think) many mners (bites lip - am I right?), would be very proud and I can really see that mn would benefit highly from being used as a serious and respected reference point.

I have a feeling this is going to be very complicated for MNHQ legally... like Billy Bragg, I think, once sung - "Could it be an infridgement of the freedom of the press to print pictures of women in states of undress" - good luck and go for it!!!

StinkyFart · 16/08/2009 11:05

DP it may well not happen, but the wholesale lifting of threads by the DM, without permission being sought, has possibly set a precedent.

V worrying for some, though not all.

A different viewpoint to yours, that's all.

Clear as mud I am rubbish at explaining stuff.

beanieb · 16/08/2009 11:31

"Blimey - my longest post EVER and I still can't through...[sic]

We plan to ask the Daily Mail to stop running this column as they are running it

(Sorry if I didn't make that clear)"

it wasn't clear to me, but perhaps I did skim read a bit. Thanks for Clarifying it.

"So we would like to enter a dialogue with them during which we explain that the column they're running isn't working for us and we'd like them to stop"

will this ocnversation take place before everyone goes on holiay or are they going to pull it straight away until that conversation takes place?

"I am thinking it's a little ironic that Leah Hardy is quite happy to use our usernames in a paper but she is not willing to out herself, if she had any balls she would be explaining herself instead of hiding. Is she posting on other threads whilst this is going on?"

couldn't agree more

I still think the fact that this respected mumsnetter has used these threads is a bit Icky, specially as we don't know who the respected mumsnetter is.

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail · 16/08/2009 11:34

don't have time to read the essay in the OP yet - just getting on this so I can find it again

RafiToreTheDMUpForCatLitter · 16/08/2009 11:36

Ummmmm.

Probably doesn't have a profile.... I guess if she was posting in SN about her son it would make her too easy to identify.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 11:52

OK, thanks MN- interesting.

For me (I know you all know I am formerly Peachy through my fabbo typing LOL- an example of how identifiable some people can be obv) I don't feel I can post in SN any more, my situation with my boys doesn't work without a back story, neither being typial and I can't use my back story any more.

I will continue with MN but in a bland fashion. There's just not much I an post in any other way. Uness of course DP is on a thread in which ase I feel morally obliged to pile in. Could we perhaps have a function that brings that up so I don't have to trawl? ( at DP)

I've been here in one membership or another since 2001, to say that the sit ahsnt changed since then as some people have done is ludicrous. The DM wasn't interested in us way back then. However I just don't feel MN can meet my needs any more which of course is my decision, and I will pull back massively now. I've been trying to get hwlp for a problem on another thread and whilst netters have been fa, the truth is I can't gice enough info to really explain.

I wish you all luck though, I will stay in the postnatal area and no doubt pop by when I have a lonely evening.

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