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Is there a "hide/block poster" option?

112 replies

coolbeans · 15/02/2009 13:03

Maybe I'm being a bit dim, but I can't see it. pl. could you point me in the direction if it exists?

If not, wouldn't this be a good idea? Lots of other forums have this function - it's no biggie, it is not as if the other poster knows that you have hidden them.

Have MNHQ looked into this and already dismissed it?

OP posts:

fryalot · 15/02/2009 16:35

flight - have you only flounced 27 times? somehow it seems like more... and I'm glad you're not a twat any more. Didn't like it when you were a twat

Flightattendant27 · 15/02/2009 16:38

Oh tsap

I like you

was it the dm thing?

Fwiw recently I've learned to take a degree of abuse, but only if I know I'm supported. Someone was having a right go at me a few weeks ago (I called her Shouty Kelly cos she used capitals all the time )

and it was so ridiculous I just laughed really - although it was still a bit shocking.

Then fell out with someone regular the other day, nobody stood up for me so I assumed I was persona non grata and left

I spent about 24 hours reading and not posting, feeling rather 'Ha, I don't need MN! I'm SO over MN!' before rushing to rejoin like a wally.

Flightattendant27 · 15/02/2009 16:39

Thanks Squonky. It was getting a bit on Threads I'm On, just glancing at someone's post saying 'I agree flightisatwat' and had to do a double take

Flightattendant27 · 15/02/2009 16:39

Oh and charming

more indeed

littleboyblue · 15/02/2009 16:41

There are 1 or 2 posters on this site that I'm not a huge fan of, 1 or 2 that I've had mini run in's with over one thing or another and I remember who they are and will continue to. I don't however avoid them and if I see a topic I think I can help on or one that I think I can benefit from reading, I still take their views and opinions on board and will also advise in a polite manner if it's their thread.
I can see why a block button may be useful but like others have said, I think we should (whether this is the case or not) all be grown-up enough just ignore and non-comment on those we are not keen on.

fattiemumma · 15/02/2009 16:43

im not thick skinned really. if somene i care for has been upset by me it in turn am upset. but i realise that you aren't real people.
your all figments of my imagination.

i am sitting staring at an empty screen dreaming about reading respsonses from invented people.

fryalot · 15/02/2009 16:43

what you have to remember, flight (and others) is that if you say something contentious, and someone responds with an insult and nobody comes rushing to your rescue, it doesn't mean that everyone hates you.

It means that either everyone reading the thread agrees that you posted something a bit berk-ish or that nobody has noticed.

flight - to prove my point, how long were you a twat before I challenged you to make sure you were you and not someone being nasty?

Flightattendant27 · 15/02/2009 16:50

Lol Squonk. I think it was about an hour so point proved.

Someone else commented on it as well which was nice despite the fact they later transpired to be possibly trollish...still no idea who they were.

Sometimes I wonder if people see you as a really strong poster who is not afraid to be challenging or challenged - therefore they don't feel the need to stick up for you iyswim?

Thanks for caring Squonk. XxXxX

Simplysally · 15/02/2009 16:50

I'm about as thick-skinned as a wet piece of paper but equally I am one of those people where the red mist descends too quickly . I try to live and let live on here,think twice before posting, after having my hands chopped off once or twice by someone more bolshy wiser than me as I hate the faff of name-changing or rejoining after a flounce.

I can go a few days without MNing as well but I always come back for more .

fryalot · 15/02/2009 16:55

you may have a point there, flight. If people recognise your name, you are an "established" poster.

Established = thick skinned and able to look after oneself.

I wonder if people are less willing to jump to the defence of someone that they perceive as being "strong"

TrillianAstra · 15/02/2009 16:59

Good point squonk.

If the thread title said 'someone I know is being bullied here' then of course I would rush over to defend, but usually it looks more like 'thread that I'm probably not interested in' so I miss it and they go undefended. It doesn't mean you have no friends, just that your friends are either busy or just not on that thread.

mshadowsisfab · 15/02/2009 17:53

AnyFuckerForAShiteSoppyCard · 15/02/2009 18:05

I have had a couple of minor disagreements on here and indulged in a bit of mutual mudslinging with one or two people.

I have actually forgotten who they are. I don't have a head for names tbh.

I name changed once because (with drink ) I posted something really stupidly offensive and very out of character and didn't want it to stay with me.

But I still couldn't tell you who else it involved.

I have a vague memory of who I seem to connect with, and always look at their posts but thats about it really (and even that changes on a regular basis).

Hence, I don't feel a need for an ignore button for individuals.

alicecrail · 15/02/2009 18:06

I may be a bit thick, but what does it mean if it has "message deleted" on a post. Is it because its agressive or offensive or something?

BoysAreLikeZombies · 15/02/2009 18:06

message deleted by mumsnet

fryalot · 15/02/2009 18:08

alice - there are various reasons for asking for a post to be deleted.

It could be that the post was offensive, or personally attacking another poster.

It could be that the poster had inadvertently given out some personal information that she then regretted.

It could be that the poster had left MN and asked for every post of theirs to be deleted.

Probably another few reasons as well, but that's all I can think of at the moment.

fryalot · 15/02/2009 18:09

oh, very funny boys

twat

mollyroger · 15/02/2009 18:09

BoysAreLikeZombies deleted by mollyroger.

mollyroger · 15/02/2009 18:10

see ladies, that's the way to do it. No need for a special hide/block poster facility...

alicecrail · 15/02/2009 18:11

Thanks squonk (thinks perhaps i will be remembered as the thick one)

Blu · 15/02/2009 18:14

Mumsnet works becuase it becomes a community. It works when people discuss, listen and think. Abusive posts can be deleted, surely everyone else can handle things they don't agree with or people they don't get on with with some adult behaviour?

A button like that would just enable people to mouth off and take the attitude 'if you don't like me, block me...wha'ever'. Not constructive. An open board means people have to get on with each other.

Other boards are stalked by aggressive posters who treat internet ciomunication like a cyber war (IME). I can see why they would want a facility to ignore certain posters...but MN isn't like that. Ever. er, is it?

BoysAreLikeZombies · 15/02/2009 18:19

good fun girls