is there a moldies part three?

[Tortington]

just wondering, as i can't find it.

nah, man. i'm telling you if 6 years of me telling you about my daughter becomming deaf, my husnamd being a prick, my eldest sons miriad of problems. etc.

i think this is a two way street here my 'friends'

there is a belittling of peoples feelings and strngth of feeling on this subjct

pronouncing 'tis only the internet'

tis only the internet , why run away set up your own secret forum, appoint a tech even and invite everyone.

internet friends are pretend then why - i need somewhere to talk to cod and twiglett and the rest.

a fish and a marmite pretzel

or does that do a disservice to the yers andhelp and advice that somepeople have listening to others problems and advising on it

this is out of order stuff fio - please don't patronise me by trying to defend the fact that a secret forum was set up with well known mumsnet members that was kept a secret. polls and lists of who should be members were discussed and voted on

so please do not dare to boil this down to a single issue of my friendships.

it is one of a few issues that this whole horrid affair.

constant simplifying of my feelings of 'not real' internet friendships - when those same people run off and create a bloody forum for the same thing...give me strength.

so excuse the fuck out of me if i am genuinley upset that people who have seen me through 6 years of my and my families life, do something like this schoolground elitist stunt of picking who is the best for the netball team.

take your netball team and shove it

the greatest insult is to try and defend it - becuase you can't.

you have all done something spectacularly mean and spiteful, and if your answer to that is a metaphoric 'fuck you' thats like the shit cherry on top of shit pie

if non of you ( i have thus far counted ONE!) have the humilty to say - what we did was spectaculary mean and hurtful, you have a right to be upset and sound off about it...i completely understand, then best be rid of behave in this unspeakable manner towards others

you wouldn't accept if from your children.

well, I've not posted before on this as it all blew up just as I went on xmas break. But let me put myself firmly in the 'its just not cricket' camp.
I'm one of those who has been here a long time but doesn't have much 'presence' and tbh, I'm happy with that. I don't want to create RL friendships from MN because to me, part of the point is about discussing things that you wouldn't say to people if they 'really' knew you. (like, nerdy databases for keeping tabs of finances )
So, yes, I do miss some familiar names (and had been wondering where they had gone, until it all became horribly clear), and it does leave a nasty playground exclusion type of feeling, but you know, I think there will still be a few people around here to share holiday tips and recipes with . There are lots of names disappeared from when I first started, some have namechanged and some now gone to moldies, but I guess that's life.

Anyway I know I'm about 10 days too late with this but just wanted to say my piece...

Fio, so, how would you have felt if you were excluded?

Can I just point out that the Twig post is totally irrelevant to the whole argument anyway as she was objecting at the time to a live chatroom, which is a completely different entity to a forum.

lol SaintGeorge

Hi there, my post repeating Carrie's post (!) wasn't in response to any particular post/poster - it was just an [unsuccessful] attempt to pour oil on troubled waters and possibly head off another retreading of the same ground.

geraldine,

How much longer can one use the festive smileys?

Well, I did toy with getting BigTech to remove them before Twelfth Night, but thought better of it! So they'll be here until tomorrow, Jan 6th.

lol rev....

As i said in my 'infamous' quote used by the DM, i personally, am glad about Moldies, as i think that cliquey feeling has gone from MN

I remember when i first started posting on MN, there were a lot of prolific posters who would shout you down for being meek and mild, and asking(in their opinion) stupid questions that had already been asked before, becuase you werent allowed to repeat questions that might have already been discussed, oh no, you would get told off or [yawn] or [boring] or

I realised that to survive on here, i would have to namechange and have more of a 'i dont give a shit who you are, i will say what i like' attitude, which is why i came up with VinegerTits, it made me feel i could 'tongue lash' my way through the cliqueyness without being flamed, and you know what it worked.

That feeling has gone now, i really feel it is a much calmer, nicer place to post

That is not a personal attack on Moldies btw, but i just feel there are some posters who are better off there, bigger fish in a smaller pond iykwim. Having said that there are a lot of posters who have gone that i miss, i used to enjoy reading their posts, like kewcumber and colditz, those people who made vaulable contributions with their wisdom, and didnt just flame people for their stupidity.

Flightattendant - your quotes where interesting and, imho, fit in well with the debate.

Custardo - it's not fair on you. I think you deserve some answers.

I think the name should change from moldie to othersiter or whatever. Not all oldies are moldies.

Agree with you vtits - I find it much more reasonable. The moldies aspect explains why some threads just went crazy and there were many insults & much awfulness.

I would like to thank Geraldine for deleting all my posts. I'm sure I was being paranoid, but I have posted a lot of personal information on here in the past. I am still going to be here (for those of you who have asked on MN or via email) but may have a different name in future posts.

This whole debacle has taught me a big lesson - no more personal posts. Oh yes, no bad swearing or papers will quote you, despite the majority of your posts being supportive .

Finally, this whole thing is now just getting on my nerves in a big way. I miss all the old posters on here. I don't think they made the place bitchy - there has been a fair amount of bitching in the last two weeks without them. OK, so some found them overbearing, but I didn't. I'm big and ugly enough to stand up for myself.

That is not to say that new posters won't come along with personalities just as big and funny to fill the gap. So, while some of us continue to vent their spleen and get some weird kudos for doing so from the new 'gang', I would urge the site to become its calm and serene self again soon.

Like Soupy, until it does, I will be posting no more. I'm sure that won't worry a lot of you, but it WILL worry me.

Happy New Year!

is tomorrow the 12th night

this is a parenting forum...do you join and fall in love with everyone? i can see how the moldies thing has annoyed people...but no one that has anything to do with that site has come out looking that good (imo)..

they are trying to recreate the past...you can't...times change, people move on....and as for a small site being safer (and i'd hardly call 150 small) would you walk into a room with 150 people and complain about the size of your patners dick? no, so i can't see how you would discuss really personal stuff even on the moldies site..

time to move on...it's a new year...let's forget about it.

fio, I shan't be searching your posts, unless you get misquoted by a few people and there is a WRONG WORD in it and in that case sorry but i shan't be rsponsible for my actions

responsible, Flight

dior I saw all your posts had gone - I was searching for something innocuous like advice about kitchen appliances and found a thread that was practically all deleted posts - you, cod, someone else I think - it made me very sad that such harmless (but useful!) threads had been decimated...
I'm also sad if Soupy has gone.

But I think I'm going to revise my opinion of myself - its not so much that I don't have much of a presence, I have realised I am in fact invisible