If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies, please do it here so folks can hide this if they want to.

[LittleDonkeyCarrieMaryMumsnet]

Well hopefully the title says it all. There's been a suggestion, and we agree, that as we did with Baby P and the Mc Canns we just have one thread where anyone who feels they still have anything to add on this subject can post and those who'd rather move on can hide it away.

It feels strange to put this thread in site stuff as we are definitely not wanting to encourage further discussion of Moldies (we have presents to wrap too you know ) but we weren't sure where else to put it.

We will delete any new Moldies threads that are started, so please feel free to report them in case we miss any (what with wrapping the presents and all...)

And if you do want to carry on the discussion please remember that Mumsnet's here to make everyone's lives easier and not the reverse, and that Christmas is a time of goodwill to all mumsnetters past, present and future

Thanks,
MNHQ

hmmmm...clubs...haven't thought it through properly.

Maybe you could apply to join a 'club'(MNHQ would allow this if no reason not to, no blackballing) and that would be a 'closed forum' where you could maintain your identity, but on the genertal active convo board it's anonnimity all the way.

Convinced you???

I know many, even most, peopel like MN because they chat to eopel they feel they know and develop thier own persona, so it would never really work, but equally I like MN (sometimes) for the intersting discussion, helpfukl advise, amusing banter etc but intensly dislike any signs of clubiness, in group/out group stuff, which was always around before but seems to have strangeky disappeared just lately.

Oh well problem solved maybe.

Just wanted to say namechanging really works for me. I remember when I first joined someone (vvq I think) said to me 'you won't make friends like that on here' at the time I was quite puzzled and replied 'I'm not here to make friends' and I'm not. I like expressing my views then when I'm bored and it'dsrepetive I wander off. I have rl friends I don't need or want virtual ones. There are many women on her I get the impression I'd like alot in rl and if they lived next door we would be friends, but I don't have a need to be a thier Mn friend.

I'm sorry this is now sounding disparaging to those who do take alot from having friensd on here and it's not meant to, I was just saying MN works for differnt poele in difernt way, and for me name changing makes it work.

So don't ban it. Try it!!! Liberate yourself

Tim the hungry Christmas cake 'feeeed meeee'

Colbeck

I am with you completely.

I don't namechange once a month but force myself to do so fairly frequently. If you want to post personal stuff on here it seems crazy not to, it's a public forum absolutely anyone can read.

Of course it's harder to make "friends" that way. That's the compromise for maintaining anonymity. And these friendships are clearly hugely important to very many mnetters. Sometimes I feel sad at missing out on them but when I do, I call a rl friend and get my priorities straight.

I can see if you've never namechanged and become "famous" here, the prospect of becoming just one of the hoi polloi again would be unthinkable even if you were being stalked/hounded. So this whole hoo ha was inevitable, though why the oldies had to use a mn style board rather than msn/facebook/ email, where a blackballing system would have been less rigorous, is a bit odd. I guess memories of the mn format was just too strong to abandon. What is hilarious about all this is the sense of importance of the moldies. A handful were brilliant posters, but most were simply average, they'd just been here a long time and "knew" each other. There are loads of people posting right now who are just as witty/succinct/erudite/kind as they were and no doubt still are. Mn will continue just as Justine said and the majority of its users will never even know this spat took place.

Off to namechange now

loved your posts throughout, Colbeck. I see your point. Who were you before, if you don't mind telling?

I see your point and know what you mean about not being here to make friends. It isn't a disparaging thing. I do appreciate that some people have invested a lot of emotion into the relationships they made with online friends and it is what has hurt them. I empathise with their hurt as I've worn those shoes before so I know the fit.

Before MN I learnt not to take online personae too seriously (mine included). i view MN as a place to pick up info on all sorts and challenge or expand my points of view as there are all sorts of intelligent people on here and a place to idly people watch.

all in all, MN has given me more than I have given her. I believe anyway.

Juju, excellent, a like minded soul.

We can be virtual friends!!! very briefly, till we name change again.

Damn you're changing already, it was so good while it lasted.

God I missed all this too. Has this just happened in the last few weeks?

• mumofbaby - you'll end up like me!

Now I know I'm hungover - just listening to music and 'unchained melody' came on and I thought - 'oooh what a nice song'

btw I was iowhatsoccurring.

Wow...nearly 100 pages...holy cow, lol!

I am not around alot of the time, I keep leaving and then just drop by again occasionally with a new name so I'm sure you won't know me.

lately I've been Annthecat, lavendersbluedillydilly and Communion.

My original and most well incarnation was a couple of years ago as SmileysPeople, who lasted a few months but was not a popular girl with mnay of the now Moldies, strangly. But I wouldn't expect anyone to remember.

I'm off again soon, hopefully today, as too much time is being devoted.

Sahll I post in Flouncers corner??I've never done that!!!

nah, I'm not flouncing, just doing other stuff, I'll be back.

Do you???

I am strangely pleased!

But as I said she wasn't a poplular girl

ALTHOUGH much of what I said years ago has been proved true through Moldiegate

pmsl NL at gran's cake monster

jujumaman, i'm not sure I like your inference that wanting to be part of something on here means one has wonky priorities

My priorities are straight as a rule I'll have you know....to MN as much as possible and neglect my children, house and RL mates

actually, that pesky RL interfered again just then in the form of hungry children.....what next, cleaning them and their clothes

I remember smileyspeople....or at least I think I do, lol

oh, and smileyspeople was posting when I first joined MN, but I stuck to AN mostly in them days as I was too scared of all the regulars

I think you make some excellent points there, Colbeck, particularly about paying attention to what's said, rather than who's said it.

The only downfall is that if you know who's said something, you know if it's said with humour/experience of subject matter/anger/what have you, so you can read between the lines a bit. But an interesting idea to ponder though.

I feel all warm and snuggly that SmileysPeople is remembered, and releived no one can remember anything I said.

I'm not off just yet, I've just remembered an inporatnt question I need answering in Style and Beauty, then I'll go. This is where MN excells.

lou reckon it'll be after wine o clock, that maternal witching hour of 4pm, the countdown to bedtime, the stress of cranky little children, bored and hungry...
That's ruckus time...