I've found this whole mouldies thing really unseemly, and I can't think of too many people who come out of it well. As (mostly) an outsider, I do have a couple of observations though. Unlike most, I've been on both sides of the fence for this type of thing in the past. In a previous net-life, I started a splinter forum (after a usenet group) that was unabashedly selective given a large number of trolls - and one person who was being deliberately cruel to a person I respect.
Because of this, I do have sympathy for the mouldies in what they were trying to do. Trolls are annoying, and once a forum reaches a particular level of maturity, it's inevitable that some of those who were originally there will feel that it's changed and they should move on. (Whether they changed or mumsnet did is moot.) That's what the mouldies did; ironically, that's all that Justine(?) accused them of - and I don't think incorrectly.
One big differences was that I tried to at least be upfront about it, and engage honestly and without name-calling. In one case, I had a 90 minute phone call to Australia to a vulnerable person I'd excluded on the basis that he was a complete loose cannon. (In hindsight, I'm pretty sure he was bipolar, and I probably didn't do him any good whilst trying to protect someone else.)
It doesn't appear to me that the mouldies were particularly upfront. Before anyone attacks those who are in here (except in the brief flame-outbreaks like yesterday) PLEASE think about what they're doing. Many of them will be trying to assuage feelings - they don't want to have hurt people and probably were very uncomfortable about elements of the mouldies site. Why would people have nearly given the game away previously (and highlighted it!) if they weren't uncomfortable and didn't want more disclosure to happen.
Don't kick those brave and honest enough to come in now and actually engage. Instead, why not ask them what they were thinking.
Finally, in response to yesterday's thread - if RevJustAbout doesn't exist then she's a very good liar and I've got more problems than any of you. To restate what a few other people have already acknowledged (including DIOR) she did not say what was attributed to her. The post in question was:
[By ReinDIORdroppings on Fri 19-Dec-08 22:40:40
Can I just say that I am totally fucked off at not being invited to the 'other' forum. If that makes me a saddo, I can live with that. Sad is better than being not good enough to be part of the cool gang. I have been missing loads of posters who used to make me laugh.
Oh, and I want one of those badges that say I-have-been-here-forever-therefore-it-is-due-to-me-that-you-make-a-living-and-you-should-bow-at-my-f eet' mentioned by Rev. ]
I can't for the life of me work out how they attributed this post to my wife, particularly given that she's referred to in the second - and previously uncited - paragraph!
Merry Christmas