Suggestion for an ESBNA board

[Rainraingoawaydontcomeback]

As this has become an ever increasing issue and people don’t know where to post about it I was wondering if there would be enough people interested in making a specific board for support.

Hi OP

Thanks so much for the suggestion - we'll keep an eye on the level of interest expressed on this thread.

I'm interested in what it is, so I'm off to Google!

I'm interested in what it is, so I'm off to Google!

Great idea-I'd be interested. (I'm assuming you mean Emotionally Based School Avoidance?) Currently I have limited help from the school, and any help I've had has happened because I've asked for it. Unfortunately I've already had a meeting about my child being 'persistently absent'. I was fuming when I got the letter and it's not lead to any greater support. Luckily there's been less viruses this term.

I feel that I won't be alone in being stuck between trying to find support that actually helps and absence procedures that amount to some sort of HR attendance management process for kids. The language used in the DFE 'working together to improve attendance' document is dreadful. It talks about making home (their safe space) less attractive/comfortable for our children as if that's all we need to do (less screens and they'll be running up that hill to school.I don't think so.)

I'd really be interested in hearing from people that have found something that actually helps their child attend school and about how people are experiencing the attendance processes? I'm so tired of the argument every morning.

I'm interested. Not only is my son experiencing this for the last 18 months but I have gone out into the community and ended up starting a parent support group in my local area for this (we have around 10 members) and I am actively meeting with professionals to spread awareness and support. Still battling for my son too.

(Sorry, posted this under your original message rather than on here)

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5297998-ebsa-support-thread-2?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share
There already is a support thread (and a previous thread started by Brambley Hedge that filled all 1000 messages). I set up and run the EHCP support threads on here and I have found three things: a) posters don't always know how to name what they are going through so may not know what EBSA means as it's not a term in everyday use, although becoming more common; and b) posters will start their own threads anyway, which is understandable if you don't want to trawl through 1000s of messages; and c) people going through this stuff don't have a lot of time to reply to others, so ironically you can get more helpful advice off the specialist threads due to traffic, as long as you're up for ignoring the unhelpful messages from people with no experience!
Mumsnet could help maybe by sticking support threads to the top of the sections so they don't get lost.

I’d have loved one when my dd was like this. She’s 19 now and back in education. (Hurrah although it’s touch and go)

It might stop all the arseholes coming on and saying ‘my child has never been allowed to skip school’ or ‘force them in’

It would be a really useful topic

Agreed. If I hear the phrase "tough love" one more time I will explode. Tough love for ASD and PTSD does not work!

It is so predictable isn't it? Along with people who have drunk the mainstream media Kool Aid so to speak and think neurodiversity is made up etc etc.

I sometimes feel I live in a parallel universe...

Thank you. I will take a look.

oh yes, just send her in the panic attacks and weight loss will stop when she is back in school aling with ‘it’s my job to get her ready for high school were adjustments won’t be in place’ from the SENCO.

Fuck me.

The send her in when having panic attacks and weight loss was from a member of SLT who wanted to increase her part time ours after i had said her weight has now dropped by 10% - paeds say she need to refered to CAHMS (who still say they can’t help). The specialist autism teacher from the LEA was in the meeting and set them straight. She recommended another reduction to timetable.

SENCO went from she doesn’t need an ECHP to saying they can’t meet needs.