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Dodgy private message

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UxmalFan · 08/01/2026 15:38

I've had a private message from user bengrime wanting to talk to me about AI. It looks AI generated as it calls me Uxmal (first part of username UxmalFan, but no human being would assume that was my name).
The message is:
'Hi Uxmal,
I saw your post last month in AIBU about AI.
I'm an AI engineer moving to independent research to help parents (past work with Oxford/NHS). I'm focused on practical guidance: protecting our kids' data, understanding AI risks at school, and preparing them for an AI-driven job market.
If you'd find this helpful, I'm happy to answer any concerns you have. Would you also be open to a brief 15-minute chat to share your perspective? This would be absolutely anonymous. Your insights would be invaluable.
If so, I can send a calendar link or we can call, whichever works best for you.
Thanks for your time,
Ben Grime
07455 767076
Also on Linkedin (the bald one!)'

I'm not going to reply and it has not done me any harm, I'm just reporting in case this kind of approach is not allowed.

OP posts:
GetThatCatOfMyTreadmill · 08/01/2026 15:41

I got it too

LilyMumsnet · 08/01/2026 15:42

Hi OP

It's not allowed and we'll locate and get rid of it now.

Just so you know, you can report private messages to us directly by using the report button!

UxmalFan · 08/01/2026 15:44

LilyMumsnet · 08/01/2026 15:42

Hi OP

It's not allowed and we'll locate and get rid of it now.

Just so you know, you can report private messages to us directly by using the report button!

Will do. I wasn't sure if it was against guidelines or not.

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Snowingtoday · 08/01/2026 15:47

Yes I got the message too but it's not obvious at all how to report a private message.

Pancakeflipper · 08/01/2026 15:49

How weird to mention he's the bald one.

UxmalFan · 08/01/2026 16:53

Pancakeflipper · 08/01/2026 15:49

How weird to mention he's the bald one.

Yes! It makes sense once you look for him on Linkedin because there are two people with the same name and extra hair.

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MerryTricious · 08/01/2026 17:01

Thanks OP, I had one too but it was deleted so I couldn't see what it was about.

rhabarbarmarmelade · 08/01/2026 17:11

Me too. But it is deleted

RaininSummer · 08/01/2026 17:24

I have that too but couldn't actually open messages anyway.

elfies · 08/01/2026 17:26

I had one from Bengrime too , but its been deleted before I had chance to open it ................

ParmaVioletTea · 08/01/2026 17:35

I go it too. Was going to check him on LinkedIn but decline his request anyway. I like to keep (the shreds of) my anonymity.

Helpmefindmysoul · 08/01/2026 18:00

Same! It said the message had been deleted at the users request. I have no idea what it was about.

WonderfulSmith · 08/01/2026 21:41

Me too but it was deleted. Oh, and while you’re there HQ can you sort out reading massages on the phone? It doesn’t really work.

JustWantsSomeSleep · 10/01/2026 08:56

Well I’m glad you posted about this as I had a deleted PM from this user and was starting to worry.

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