MN is so hostile towards new posters

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Why? and why do people think this is acceptable?

MN is what you make of it.

The term self fulfilling prophesy springs to mind.

often hostile to those of us that have been here for years too if you look .

As OMDB says - make of it what you want.......

I've been here a year and have never felt hostility. Can you be more specific - I'm not doubting you, btw!

I've never noticed any hostility. I've been ignored thousands of times, but I wouldn't call that hostility.

I know it can happen, but also I've seen "Hello I'm new" threads where people have been warmly welcomed. And some people arrive, and become well-known and "in" very soon.

MN is cliquey and there are in-jokes - I think that's inevitable when a forum is as successful and well-loved as MN. I don't think that's rude or unacceptable in itself, just that some newbies may find it intimidating but such is life. I still feel fairly new myself after 2 years.

lol! well yes - it is hostile full stop....but why new posters especially?

I'm new too so know what you mean. Just keep posting though and you soon start having a larf. Some people on MN are hostile to EVERYONE not just new posters!!!

Don't really think it is. If you post aggressively, you get a predictably agressive response. If you post politely you usually get a polite response. There are of course some exceptions where a particular issue just winds people up the wrong way, but these are the exceptions.

I have been here for year and still get ignored tis not just newbies, its just mumsnet....lots of weirdos

Depends what threads you post on and what you say, and how busy they are and all sorts of things.
You need a thicker skin and don't take things to heart. Most MNers are nice.

I didn't feel hostility when I joined either. Yes I didn't get the jokes occasionally but soon got into searching messages to find out what they were about and I sometimes got ignored but as in rl I assumed if I joined in and made an effort people would get to know me and that would change and it did. In rl if I met a new group of friends whose group had been established for a while I wouldn't expect to feel part of the group straight away so why would I on here?

Also if you're new, you might think it's hostility when it's actually jokey. eg Cod is famous for being abrasive, others may have a sweary rant, but it's not actually being cruel or unpleasant as it may at first seem. People who know each other well here can't tread on eggshells all the time.

...or even inflammatory Platino!!

You could always post on the threadkillers thread. It's for posters who always get ignored or kill threads stone dead whenever they post something... It's dead cliquey now too just like all the other threads.... tee hee

but just because you don't get a personal response to a post doesn't actually mean you are being ignored!

I do think it's rare that anyone os openly hostile towards anyone just because they're new tohugh.

It isn't. Unless they post twaddle and especially offensive twaddle. Ignoring isn't hostility.

I really don't think it is hostile, towards new posters or anyone else. Yes, rants and rows happen, there are misunderstandings and disagreements, but the joy if that you can just walk away if you get fed up. I haven't been here too long, but have found it fun and friendly, and when I get annoyed, I wander off for a while. It's much better than RL in that respect - if I were to bump into any of you in the street, I wouldn't know, so I wouldn't be uncomfortable.

Not hostile to newbies. Just like rl.. some people nice, some people show offs, some people aggressive, some people gentle. Some people blank people they don't know. But not hostile specifically to newbies.

And sometimes the board moves so fast that posts get lost from active conversations within seconds - it's not so much ignoring as never seeing in the first place.

am new, been on bed rest due to pg complications, have just battered on in giving opinions and advice and chat where I felt I wanted to and whether or not it was needed

take what you need, comment where you want to and if you don't get something just ask

simple

Yeah if you do what Dixie did it throws people and they think you've been here forever.

dizzy is very helpful on toddler style ideas! I didn't know you were on bed rest. Hope all is going as well as possible.

True - had no idea dizzy was new!