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"boomer" thread 2 💥

174 replies

IClaudine · 03/09/2023 08:21

A thread for people who want to combat ageism on the site, because MNHQ can't be bothered to.

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TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 14:04

I've just reported as many of the ageist generalisations made by one particular poster, and also the personal attacks made on @IClaudine by them and another poster.

IClaudine · 04/09/2023 14:07

Thanks. I will probably get deleted too for telling someone to eff off!

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BIWI · 04/09/2023 14:08

OK. <girds loins>. Off I go ...

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 14:43

IClaudine · 04/09/2023 14:07

Thanks. I will probably get deleted too for telling someone to eff off!

You have 😂 but that's taking one for the team and at least the ageist poster attacking you was also deleted.

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 15:34

@YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet

Thank you for coming back to us.

While you're talking about it at MN Towers, can you put these two questions on the table?

  1. Why does MN accept generalisations (which by definition are untruths as any generalisation is) about a whole group of people ONLY if that whole group of people are defined by being born within a certain period?

You would, quite rightly, be quick to delete any poster claiming that "the Irish are all X" or "the disabled are all Y" "those on benefits are all "Z" etc. Why not "the elderly are all XYZ"?

  1. You've been told and shown that the word "boomer" itself is derogatory and offensive and has been judged to be so by bodies such as Ofcom, schools, universities etc.

Yet "boomer" which is NEVER used as a synonym of "someone born in the baby boomer generation" (and please, let's not pretend it ever does) is allowed to stand. And when reported, rarely deleted.

I have no doubt whatsoever that within a very short space of time linguistically (in society at large) (without anyone having to subjectively analyse whether the user means to personally attack or not) the term will be deemed to be as offensive as N, sp*, and many others that decent people would rightly not accept. (Whether the term is being used to attack an individual or generalise about a demographic group)

Would MN not consider that leading the way by saying "actually no, we're not going to let you denigrate an entire generation by allowing offensive language to be used against them" might be a good thing?

PhilMitchellsleatherbomber · 04/09/2023 17:10

Here’s another delightful thread with derogatory comments on the looks of women aged 50, it has treats like this She's in her 50s and OP is in her 30s. Unless he has a grandma fetish (possible I suppose) I doubt he would be feeling jealous and deprived of the sight of some wrinkly legs that all the other lucky beach goers were being treated to.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4887422-husbands-colleague-leg-pic?page=15&reply=128940679

Page 15 | Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic. | Mumsnet

DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His resp...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4887422-husbands-colleague-leg-pic?page=15&reply=128940679

IClaudine · 04/09/2023 17:32

Honestly. It is every where on this site. I really didn't realise how bad it is.

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 04/09/2023 17:39

IClaudine · 04/09/2023 17:32

Honestly. It is every where on this site. I really didn't realise how bad it is.

Once you are attuned to it you can't not see it. It's especially bad the last week or so.

Jojoanna · 04/09/2023 18:03

I just read a thread where anyone over 50 is decrepit apparently

BIWI · 04/09/2023 18:05

Can you link, @Jojoanna, please?

AutumnCrow · 04/09/2023 18:30

From the Royal Family board just now:

Some old Sloaney shagger as Queen is peak cringe

Republican sentiments = crack on

Ageist crap = why the need? Your argument(s) should be good enough to stand alone

Maireas · 04/09/2023 18:42

@AutumnCrow good grief, misogynistic and ageist. I once reported a post on that board that referred to Camilla as "the old bag on the throne". If you can't formulate a republican argument, being offensive isn't an alternative.

Jojoanna · 04/09/2023 19:34

It's the thread regarding a picture of a leg

BIWI · 04/09/2023 20:19

Jojoanna · 04/09/2023 19:34

It's the thread regarding a picture of a leg

Can you link to it, please. @Jojoanna?

IClaudine · 04/09/2023 20:29

I hope MNHQ is taking note of all the shit we have to put up with.

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Maireas · 04/09/2023 20:31

Dear lord, I hope so too.

BIWI · 04/09/2023 20:32

This is a great reply though:

LuciaPillson · Today 20:16

sparkleshin · Today 19:55

shes in her 50's her sex drive is probably non existent
Sadly, this is 100% true. It is a scientific fact that at 49 3/4 the vajayjay snaps shut and the clitoris drops off.

NGL, I was a little sad when it happened to me. I had to do a ceremonial burning of all my sex toys, in a forest clearing at midnight under a full moon. I was skyclad and ululated fervently at the memory of all that I had lost. All the wolves of the forest howled along with me (this is the woodland version of "and then everyone clapped").

😁

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 20:38

😂 when we become famous because we made HQ stop tolerating ageism, we can have an annual award and call it the Lucia Pillson award.

Parent & Child space thread (of the day- obviously as there seems to be one daily) about to start filling up with anecdotes about random oldies shouting at mothers in the car park. BlossomToes is handling them for now. ❤️

Maireas · 04/09/2023 20:39

Brilliant, @BIWI 😂

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/09/2023 20:44

Glad you a here.

Maireas · 04/09/2023 20:47

Oh my goodness, @TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon ... I love Lucia! ❤️ She's brilliant!

Maireas · 04/09/2023 20:48

What thread is that? We may need to support Blossomtoes.

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/09/2023 20:57

The 'mother and baby' parking thread has taken a bizarre turn.