MNHQ, you don’t seem to have realised how confronting, loaded and unpleasant it is for most women to be unexpectedly faced with sexual comments and discussion.
We are not prudes, most of us here I expect enjoy sex and masturbation - on our own terms and at our own chosen time and with adults we select. The vast majority of women though will have a visceral reaction when unexpectedly and unwantedly we see or experience sexual behaviours. For most of our evolutionary history, unknown men displaying sudden, unexpected sexual behaviours means we need to be alert to the prospect of rape. Even now, going about your business and suddenly being exposed to something sexual - being flashed/groped/leered at, dealing with sexual comments - will be a degrading, frightening experience.
I know that words on the screen is not the same and I am not at all blaming the users of the Sex topic. But scrolling down Active, looking at thread titles and suddenly seeing a message about a sexy massage, rimming, anal sex etc etc has the SAME EFFECT on women as a man sidling up to them and hissing j there ear. It’s horrible. It’s discomfiting and it’s very dislocating to your sense of safety.
There does not exist a time or a world where a woman scrolling through a parenting site is going to
welcome suddenly reading about sex. She may seek it out at certain times of her choosing but essentially women are hardwired to be wary, disgusted, and scared when unexpectedly and unwantedly exposed to sexual content. You won’t change that because you want to flog a vibrator and you absolutely need to sort it out.