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No sex board on active. Please comment if you agree.

318 replies

Swimswam · 23/02/2023 15:01

I really wish the sex board wasn’t on active. It changes the whole tone of the Mumsnet board when you click on Active. And not in a good way.
If you agree please reply to this post.

OP posts:
GoAgainstNicki · 23/02/2023 17:05

@musicalgymball but that really isn’t true at all is it? Many women post and comment on the sex boards. My experience on there has never been ‘it’s just men.’

If you don’t want to see it (which is completely your choice) why not hide it? Why does there need to be multiple threads saying the same thing when MN clearly don’t seem to be interested in the feedback

musicalgymball · 23/02/2023 17:05

It should at least be hidden by default

IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 23/02/2023 17:07

Agree completely. Also there's something really off about repeatedly marketing sex toys to brand new mums (oh wait I mean uterus havers).

Grubby and insidious. 🤮

cunderthunt1 · 23/02/2023 17:08

I agree

NotAdultingToday · 23/02/2023 17:08

I agree

nowtygaffer · 23/02/2023 17:08

I agree

SirChenjins · 23/02/2023 17:08

I agree

Totallyaddictedtoshoes · 23/02/2023 17:09

I agree

Clymene · 23/02/2023 17:09

I agree

MermaidEyes · 23/02/2023 17:09

JazzyGeoff · 23/02/2023 16:27

Agree.

I actually think a sex topic, on a chat board primarily aimed at women and used by women is a great idea for a useful resource for questions about all things sex; before kids, after kids, peri and post menopausal etc as well as just wanting other women's frank and open opinions on general filth.

I've looked at the current Sex board- it's not that. It seems to be a hang out for men, mainly.

This is my issue. Don't really care about the sex board either way but there's no way I'd ever post on there for advice because it's dominated by men. I can't imagine trying something new in bed and Dh says Wow, that was amazing, where did you learn that, and I
reply Oh I was just chatting to Bernard on Mumsnet and he suggested you might like it 😬

Magenta82 · 23/02/2023 17:09

I agree, there are some topics that cause people to be uncomfortable but most people are interested in it fair to expect them to take personal responsibility to avoid these topics. On the other hand some topics make lots of people uncomfortable and some people very upset, it is fair to expect the people who are interested in these things to have to seek them out.

SalviaOfficinalis · 23/02/2023 17:11

IWannaBeInTheRoomWhereItHappens · 23/02/2023 17:07

Agree completely. Also there's something really off about repeatedly marketing sex toys to brand new mums (oh wait I mean uterus havers).

Grubby and insidious. 🤮

Agree. They’ve changed the title of the ad to “reconnect with yourself after birth” or something. It sounds like you should jump off your hospital bed and get ready to be a sexual being again immediately. Icky.

SlowlyRetreatMyDear · 23/02/2023 17:15

Completely agree

Plus the other thread which MNHQ have commented on highlights the concerns of reducing the time on MN from 3 months to 7 days to be able to post. It just feels sleazy and trashy now rather than good advice and conversation.

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 23/02/2023 17:16

CatNamedEaster · 23/02/2023 15:56

Agree....and yes HQ I know "you can hide the topic, you know", but it's not that simple, it feels like a general push to sexualise the site and make it more of a place that looks like it's being run by men who think "this is what we want women to be interested in", eg promoting vibrators to women who have just given birth.

I was trying to work out exactly what feels wrong - and think that Cat is right. It does feel like a male approach.

Passmeaplacard · 23/02/2023 17:17

Fully agree OP

WoodTrees · 23/02/2023 17:17

Agree

PacificallyRequested · 23/02/2023 17:18

I agree, take it out of Active!
I'm not always logged in so hiding it won't work for me.

learning2fly · 23/02/2023 17:18

Agree

Pyjamageddon · 23/02/2023 17:19

Agree

HaroldTheStallion · 23/02/2023 17:19

I agree

Woopdee · 23/02/2023 17:20

Agree.

I don't mind the sex board in general, I like to have a look over there sometimes. But I don't want to see BLOW JOBS! and ANAL? while enjoying my morning cup of tea.

NoSquirrels · 23/02/2023 17:21

Agree. Don’t want to have to hide it, I think (for many reasons, all of which MNHQ are aware of as they’ve been articulated well by others) that Sex should be one of the boards that doesn’t appear in Active. There are other boards this applies to - the issue is they’re not being monetised so it doesn’t cost MN to keep them off Active.

Itgoesalittlesomethinglikethis · 23/02/2023 17:24

I agree.
I do use that board when I need to but I will go and find it. I don't like scrolling active and seeing words like squirting and anal help.

CoorieInByTheFire · 23/02/2023 17:25

I also agree.

I hid it along with everything else I’m not interested in, but weirdly the sex topic is the only one that won’t stay hidden. I don’t want to see it in Active, or anywhere else, and I don’t want adverts for toys either. Keep them in the sex topic and keep the sex topic off Active.

It would be really nice to have one part of the internet that isn’t overrun with men perving and patronising, so if there was an account age limit please reinstate that, and discourage them from posting. I thought this would be a safe space for women, boy was I ever wrong.

BadAmbassador · 23/02/2023 17:25

I agree