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Safeguarding on the sex chat thread on the sex board

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AutumnLeavesFallingIntoPlace · 23/02/2023 07:38

There have been a number of threads about changes to the Sex Board and the standard @MNHQ response is that they're taking feedback on board and ask us to hide the topic, which doesn't answer people's questions. I'd really appreciate some answers specifically about the sex chat thread on the sex board.

The user registration requirement to post on Sex has changed from 3 months to 7 days. It was in place to discourage trolls and predators on the Sex board so it would be helpful to know why that's no longer a concern and 7 days is deemed sufficient.

The sex chat thread exists for users to connect via PM for explicit chat and the thread advises posters they can then move that conversation to platforms like Kik and Telegram. At the moment, MN's advice is to report dodgy PMs; once users move off site this of course no longer applies.

Defence of the sex chat thread seems to be 'it's fine between consenting adults'. MNHQ, please could you tell us what measures you take to ensure participants there are adults? Currently, there is no safety warning and no age verification. How do you intend to keep any underage users from accessing this thread? How can anyone on there know that posters are over 18? You have removed the previously existing safeguards; why is this and will you put any more in place?

There is a risk users might feel safer and more inclined to trust a sex chat hosted by a site like MN; it does feel odd that you haven't made any attempt to counter this by pinning a post reminding users that MN can't vouch for anyone on there, particularly now the three month registration period is gone. Do you intend to do this?

Finally, the thread contains a number of married men who 'aren't getting any at home' and are seeking 'any available female' (direct quotes). Can you confirm this is in the spirit of MN and that you're happy to let it stand?

Thanks, and please don't advise us to hide the sex board again, or even just the sex chat thread, we get that's the MN party line but would really like an answer to the actual questions.

HopeMumsnet · 23/02/2023 09:26

Hi all,
Please be reassured that this is the subject of lively discussion in the office, and we will update as soon as we have a resolution. We are sorry not to have anything to tell you, and we are reading everything you are saying with interest. (And yes, we know, another holding message. Sorry).

LilyMumsnet · 23/02/2023 12:35

Hi all,

Thanks for raising this. Mumsnet is a site for adults - we don't check users' ages but if we believe a poster is underage we'll usually suspend their account.

Posters generally use their own judgement when it comes to what they share with others, either on the boards or by PM. We always advise people to be circumspect with what they share but ultimately it is up to the individual and it always has been. We have both a report and block function on private messages, so if you ever have concerns, you can report or block a user right away.

With regards to the content of these discussions and what is and isn't 'in the spirit', Mumsnet's guiding mission is to make Parents' lives easier - the fact that we allow anonymity means that members can talk about and get input and advice on things they perhaps are unable to in real life. But we recognise that people have very different comfort levels when it comes to discussions about Sex. Please do make use of the 'hide topics' in Active facility (go to MyMumsnet, Settings, Talk Settings, Hide topics) if you don't wish to see these discussions.

As ever, we're more than happy to check things out if you have concerns about any posts or posters - please do use the report function.

We are more than happy to add an advice message to the top of the sex board - we'll action that asap. Thanks again for the input.

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