Does MN have any standards, limits or rules for what it allows on threads?

[Brainbleachplease]

A couple of years ago a thread on here was deleted and rightly so because it was a thread for women having affairs to support each other. It was deemed not in the spirit of the site.

Yet mumsnet is allowing a long running thread in the sex forum for people to hook up for sex chats. So my question is what are mumsnets rules on threads? Are there no rules? What's the difference between threads like that and fab? Frankly this site must be gold dust for the wank fodder and men who would have to compete and pay on sites like fab.

So my question is mumsnet what are your rules for what is in the spirit of the site. You must have some rules, surely?

Does it ever occur to people like you that mumsnet is not the church or government? They aren’t here to enforce your particular type of morality?

Which is all as well as that thread you’re so gleeful about having deleted was not about women cheating.

I remember it well, the OPs husband knew and they were negotiating non-monogamy. But the homophobia on this site couldn’t let it stand. Couldn’t let those women help each other. Your extreme, blinkered, ‘I don’t like it so I’ll lie to get it deleted and then misrepresent it to take the high-ground’ so-called morality is not good, helpful or kind.

I will give you one tiny bit of credit for seeing that if other threads stand that one should have too.

But otherwise, get off your high horse. You’re one point of view, not the right point of view, just one.

Thé sex threads appearing on the open list are horrid. So are the vibration 😱 ads

Just hide the sex forum - it doesn't need to appear on your feed of active topics.

You just have to report anything you think isn't really on and see if MNHQ agree. That's it really.
There have been some speculation as to why the Sex Topic suddenly got unhidden for those that hid it. Maybe something to do with the MN green vibrator and £££.
You can hide the topic again but still feel that a hook up thread is NITS.

I guess MN's content policy is in the Talk Guidelines. They have a separate policy on trolls and troublemakers (although it only actually mentions trolls). I wonder if the thread you mention about supporting women having affairs was deemed to be a troublemaker thread, given the number of Mumsnetters who have had to deal with infidelity.

It does feel as if MN's content policy could use a refresh, but maybe MN are too busy raking in their new ad revenue to worry about that.

If you are referring to the thread I suspect then you are wrong. It wasn't taken down because it 'wasn't in the spirit' of MN...

It was taken down because a couple of individuals made a targeted attack on the OP and made personal comments about her and other posters that were untrue.

I can't for the life of me see what those people who attacked the thread gained from trying to remove a source of support from other women who wanted a friendly ear or some advice at a difficult point in their lives.

That threads about non-monogamy and non-heterosexual relationships are targeted while many others remain active shows the bias that exists here.

I got the impression one thread was taken down but there’s a new one.

The world is full of people living their lives in very different ways. It follows that everyone is going to find things in here they don’t like. If everyone had everything they didn’t like deleted, there wouldn’t be anything left.

Well I’ve ruined my Sunday looking at the sex chat. Each to their own but god that is hard to read 😳

@Sparklingbrook Perhaps I'm jumping to conclusions about which thread OP is referencing. The one I miss that was shut down was specifically for and about being bisexual and looking at unconventional relationship set ups.

I don't think there was another bisexual women chat/ support thread that stayed up for long. The same people kept jumping on it and getting it shut down as a TAAT or by making personal attacks so we gave up. It ran for several years and was a great source of support and interesting discussion. It wasn't about enabling/ supporting affairs though, that misrepresents the intention behind it.

Did you go on especially so you could be offended and then come here to tell everyone?

'Does it ever occur to people like you that mumsnet is not the church or government? They aren’t here to enforce your particular type of morality?'

Yes there seems quite a few judgey, naive posters who think a site for parents must not host anything sexual. The outrage over an innocuous sex toy has been absolutely ridiculous. Don't some understand sex toys are very mainstream there is nothing discusting about them? Someone on the other thread likened the sex board to red light districts 🤣

There are separate boards for different demand. Even if things pop up in active why the horror? Just ignore it 'oo oo but what if I see anal whilst scrolling waaah!' I mean fgs get a grip.

In answer to your op, yes they have TGs I'm sure you've heard of them.

'Did you go on especially so you could be offended and then come here to tell everyone?'

Yep they read the sex chat then report back to site stuff about how depraved it is .

Does MN allow female only commentors?
Just asking if the topic is women specific.

No, MN has never done that

For parents, by parents.

Though it’d seem there are plenty here who’d claim immaculate conception.

@Janiie not quite - a poster said that it reminded her of her personal experience of having to pass through or wait in red light districts.

Her point was that if you have a designated place where men are encouraged to view and treat women as sex objects, it makes it less safe for all women and it changes the dynamics.

Similarly if you make the sex topic more mainstream, we'll get even more blatantly out-for-sex men joining because of that, and changing the dynamics of mumsnet even more.

Personally I think it's already bloody creepy and occasionally predatory - I'm aware you don't agree, but I feeling sickened by a lot of the mens behaviour on those threads, and I'd rather we didn't open up floodgates to more. There are other places on the internet for that (almost everywhere actually!)

Oh sorry I was thinking you meant the SexChat/hook up thread. That people are thinking is NITS.

And posts like these are why some of us don't want the sex topic in Active or a hook up thread hosted by MN.

'Personally I think it's already bloody creepy and occasionally predatory'

It is well moderated anything 'creepy' or 'predatory' will be deleted.

Adults are allowed to talk about sex. There is a weird pitch fork waving thing going on. Folk need to lighten up, stop trying to shame women and allow other adults to behave as they like. Within TGs.

The remove from active thing fine, push for that if scrolling past 'sex toy' is a problem, but the whole cat's bum faced attitude is crazy.

Ooh, you've made me want to go and look now!
I'll come back and tell you if I also find it hard to swallow..

You might get some tips over there 😉

You can keep telling me that - but just like you think it's fine and there are no problems, I don't think it's fine and can see problems, as can some others.

No pitchforks, no "cats bum face" here, although plenty of

Those who assumed I was talking about a singular OP thread are incorrect. The thread started off as being titled about limerance or something like that and it was mostly OW posting.

It's a hookup for chat thread.