Experience register

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As many of you know, I lost my two year daughter to sudden death in childhood, in January this year.

I had some wonderful emails from mumsnetters who had not made 'public' their experiences but came forward to help me whilst I was in the darkest of times.

I have been thinking about this and wondered if we could have a mumsnet 'office' held register - where we could register our experiences and should someone wish for specific help, they could be sent a list of email addresses from those willing to help.

It does not necessarily have to be life threatening topics - but could range from anything such as talipes to heart defects to losing a child.

It would not take away from the board, but I know that some of us have had (unfortunate is an inadequate word here) experiences that are out of the norm and perhaps could help others in their hours of need.

Not very well put but I am surrounded by children just in from school and have been wanting to suggest this for a while and have decided to do it now....

What do you all think?

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good idea ggg

I think it's a great idea ggg. When my sister made an attempt to take her own life a few years ago I was very grateful for all the posts and thoughts, but as her sister I was experiencing all sorts of thoughts and feelings myself which I didn't know how to deal with. Some sort of register of people with similar experiences who are happy to help or share their experiences would be helpful in such (you're right about the word 'unfortunate') circumstances.

Brilliant idea.

Really good idea

Thank you. I think I remember your sister Aero. How is she now.

Anyone else?

Fantastic idea.

what a great idea ! especially for the traumas that affect a few, but are so hard to deal with, that can only truly be understood by someone who has been through it

losing a child

severe depression/ suicidal thoughts

birth trauma

recurrent miscarriage

all spring to mind right away

I think its a great idea. I was actually pondering something along similar lines about specific MNers who have experience/work in in other areas that people could call on /CAT by name - eg I used to work in health & safety and sometimes stumble upon threads where I can help with advice or legal knowledge. I'd be happy to advise (with all the usual dsiclaimers) if anyone had a query

The NCT and SANDS both do this, what a brilliant idea gggl

I will volunteer for mid-term pregnancy loss - another example of something not much spoken about

Sudden traumatic loss - of a spouse, sibling etc as well as of a child

Excellent idea, ggg

yes please
my brother died suddenly a few months back,i don't know anyone who has similar experiences
and feel pretty isolated at times so losing a sibling would be a useful topic

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great idea, the things I know a bit about are

Suicidal Dh's (severe depression)

Hyperemesis,and also pre-eclampsia / eclampsia and IUGR
ASd's / Sn (although lots of us LOL)

and I am happy to be contacted any time. I'm trying to cut down on Mn time atm (not completely just a little) but am always at the end of an e-mail.

GGG youa re fab. X

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i could do birth trauma/ VBAC as im sure many of the other lovely doulas and midwives on here could

Languages spoken could also be helpful for eg Mners not living in their mother tongue country and needing help with translation

I think it's a wonderful idea. I am blessed not to have anything to contribute, but think I would be very grateful to have the shared experience and wisdom of other MN-ers should I need it.

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please don't

fight it fish

bump for justine et al

gggl I hope you don't mind but I already sent them a link to this because of it being such a terrific idea X

Fabulous idea. I think the NCT does something similar (certainly at a branch level) so it is entirely workable.