Experience register

[ggglimpopo]

As many of you know, I lost my two year daughter to sudden death in childhood, in January this year.

I had some wonderful emails from mumsnetters who had not made 'public' their experiences but came forward to help me whilst I was in the darkest of times.

I have been thinking about this and wondered if we could have a mumsnet 'office' held register - where we could register our experiences and should someone wish for specific help, they could be sent a list of email addresses from those willing to help.

It does not necessarily have to be life threatening topics - but could range from anything such as talipes to heart defects to losing a child.

It would not take away from the board, but I know that some of us have had (unfortunate is an inadequate word here) experiences that are out of the norm and perhaps could help others in their hours of need.

Not very well put but I am surrounded by children just in from school and have been wanting to suggest this for a while and have decided to do it now....

What do you all think?

Thing is though, FMV, this is an idea where many skills and areas of knowledge could be offered - someone else remarked on this .
So, EG, languages, HTML editing, financial or HR expertise. Lots more examples I'm sure.
It's true this marvellous idea arises from living with the most searing of bereavements, but I don't think any poster should feel they have nothing to offer because they have not experienced some great sadness previously.

Excellent idea. I would be happy to contribute .

Eeek Aitch - is that your scary halloween name?!?! It beats all the blood and clowns hands down!

er, I can do child in hosptital with potentially fatal illness (meninigitis), dyslexia, breast feeding, lentil weaving while still wearing make-up and shaving legs, 're-fashioning ' of bits after shitty episiotomy, small-town journalism and general mental health/PND advice.
But there are Mnetters out there who have way more experience and expertise at all of these things. Think I'll stick to cheering you all on

i would like to help too.I have lost a sibling ,had a brother with cancer and have a sister with bipolar.I am mum to two and have three dgc

it does, doesn't it flamey hunni? [leers]

Bumping this brilliant idea and adding my (meagre) contribution.

Iritis/uveitis - eye conditions
Relatives with breast cancer, mastectomy, radiation treatment
Loss of a parent
Burn victims
Severe depression / suicidal thoughts

Working knowledge of banking, infection control, public health

lovely idea.

from a personal perspective, I've experienced the loss of my parents at a young age

I am also a mental health professional, so might be able to help re all sorts of MH issues, in particular hospital treatment/sectioning

And also benefits/housing issues.

hope this might be helpful [smiles]

I'm more than willing to help:
SPD (including after birth)
PND
Trumatic Birth

We think this is a fab idea too - we'll have a think about the best way to implement it - possibly using MyMumsnet but keeping a private list - would be nice to automate it.
We'll get back to you - possibly not for 3 week's though as Tech's in the US.
Thanks for the suggestion ggglimpopo.

Thank you Justine. I was also thinking that it might work on two levels - a 'private list', held by you where the more traumatic or intimate experiences (such as loss of a child, syndromes) could be listed and accessed on contact with mumsnet, and then a second, public list with the more everyday experiences, everything from ability to translate Japanese to cracked nipples.

I can do post-partum haemorrhage

(i can't spell it though, had to look it up )

great idea ggg

oh and Crohn's disease

this is a lovely idea and I would be happy to be on a register for anything that might be useful to someone else. Emigrating to NZ and having big babies maybe

Trying to think what I could contribute.

Well I ahd a parent who was very ill on and off for most of my childhood and teenage years.
Sudden unexpected death of said parent when i was 16
I had PND, and still to a degree have depression
I have Fibromyalgia/chronic pain syndrome

Does that help at all

Glandular Fever with a 1 year old is my other speciality

Brilliant idea ggg, would love to help, but not sure I have any specialisms

What a fantastic idea

Just wondering what I can contribute...

Great idea

Put me down for

Child with severe cerebral palsy

Death of disabled child

Ectopic pregnancy

TracheaOesophagul Fistula

Colon Cancer

Family law questions

Gardening

I can help with

premature birth / neonatal death
assessing behavioural issues / working with the school and making the decision to seek help ... the 18 months up leading up to an ADHD diagnosis (DS now 7)
living with recently diagnoses DP with adult ADHD
the ongoing struggle of maintaining a career and being a mother / the guilt of having a nanny .....
oh, and if you look at the property thread, how NOT to buy a house! or to put a positive spin on things, what to expect of you decide to exchange on your new property before before your chain behind you is ready.

Great idea, I wish I'd had access to this type of help when I lost my first DS. I've wanted to volunteer at UCH but cannot make the commitment they need. (I am also a trained Samaritan)

Good idea!

For me:

Suicide
Mental Health stuff
Miscarriage (missed mc)
Toxic parents

What a lovely idea,

I'd be happy to help with

miscarriage late in pregnancy
and
secondry infertility

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