Experience register

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As many of you know, I lost my two year daughter to sudden death in childhood, in January this year.

I had some wonderful emails from mumsnetters who had not made 'public' their experiences but came forward to help me whilst I was in the darkest of times.

I have been thinking about this and wondered if we could have a mumsnet 'office' held register - where we could register our experiences and should someone wish for specific help, they could be sent a list of email addresses from those willing to help.

It does not necessarily have to be life threatening topics - but could range from anything such as talipes to heart defects to losing a child.

It would not take away from the board, but I know that some of us have had (unfortunate is an inadequate word here) experiences that are out of the norm and perhaps could help others in their hours of need.

Not very well put but I am surrounded by children just in from school and have been wanting to suggest this for a while and have decided to do it now....

What do you all think?

Hi GGG
We think it's a lovely idea,. Can we give it some thought as to how best to work it?
Thanks MNHQ

Fab idea.

great idea quad G!

It's not an experience, but I have sometimes been able to help people a bit off-board with more complex genetics issues. I'd be happy to do what I can along those lines.

you are lovely women

Thats a great idea GGG

I'll do it

Can it be 'happier' events too?

I can do homebirth, birth in USA, vaginal breech, extended breastfeeding and tandem nursing.

oh, I'll do this. I can offer:

• near-native German/experience of living in Germany

-repeated (but not 'recurrent') first-trimester miscarriage

• moving from mixed feeding to exclusive bf; extended bf, and (it seems atm - only 2 weeks in) tandem bf too

• difficulties with parents

• anxiety and OCD

I can offer

• bleeding in pregnancy
• c-section
• vbac
• knocked knees (ds1 not me!)
• nightmare children chucking toys around at 5.45 on Friday afternoon!
• studying with the OU

Hope it helps

I think that is a brilliant idea ggg.

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I can offer antenatal depression (well experience of, I can't actually offer it, that would be very mean!)

Oh are we supposed to say what we can do?

I have knowledge / experience of:

miscarriage
depression
alcohol/drug addicition
ASD/ADHD
Emotional/behaviour difficulties in children
Anger management (adults and children)
Special educational needs - statementing etc
Studying with the OU

I can do translation (French/English, Engish/French), and can try to give info to people moving to non-Paris France (IYSWIM...!)
I've never posted about it here, but would also be happy to give moral support to mothers with reflux babies, after suffering in solitude.

This is what makes MN so great. even if reading this thread brought tears to my eyes.

Sorry ggg - was doing the teatime thing. My sister is quite well now, and pretty happy tbh, but it's always there, in the back of my mind and the minds of all those close to her that depression is likely to recur at times throughout her life. We are constantly on the lookout for early warning signs, which are easy to spot in hindsight, but like a lot of people who suffer with depression, she's very good at hiding things.

Anyway, I digress from the question. I do really think this is a good idea and it looks as if there are many mners willing to offer their experiences, so that's a good start. I'm sure MNHQ will come up with some genius plan to implement it and get it off the ground.

Christie

I have lost a twin too. My baby is now 2 but I think about his brother all the time.

It is hard isn't it? Mine is only 2 and he had real struggles through the stress of losing his twin and a traumatic delivery, but after cranio osteopth treatment he is now a real cheeky little monkey and absolutely fine. Every where I look, though, there seems to be twins.

Bumping GGG's excellent idea

you beautiful beautiful woman, GGG.

I only wish so many of you didn't have such experiences to contribute IFKWIM...

I am rather humbled by the fact I have nowt to offer.

i can do ectopic pregnacies treated with metho and surgery. and i can smell a misdiagnosed EP on these boards... bloody doctors.

I think this is a lovely lovely idea. Can't really contribute much, but things I might be able to help with are
homebirths
breastfeeding problems, weight loss
eating disorders

What a fantastic idea, GGG

I can offer support on:

repeated 1st trimester miscarriages

AND/PND and living with a depressive illness.

coping with a relative with a terminal illness.

I'm also a structural engineer by profession so can answer any queries on those lines or at least point people in the right direction.