CAN PEOPLE PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THREAD BEFORE WADING IN WITH BAD ADVICE PLEASE!

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It drives me mad!

some people post something that has happened to them.

people offer advice.

problem often changes midthread because situation is now different and they feel reassured blah blah

or they resurrect a thread from a while ago and the problem is different

some wally doesnt bother to read the thread because they cant be bothered!! and offers more advice about the original problem!

I have seen it happen on so many threads and one poor mumsnetter who had had a terrible time and lost a baby didnt come back because of the insensitivity of another mumsnetter who hadnt read it through.

Rant over.

so if it's 400 posts long, and we haven't got a lot of time - basically you're saying we should just p*ss off then???

I always try to qualify if I don't have time to read whole thread as a lot of people do

"sorry don't have time to read whole thread, apologies if someone has said this..." kind of thing, it seems polite.

Then perhaps it would be wise for these peole to start a new thread when thier situation changes, with a link to the original thread if desired.

Some threads are like reading novels, you just dont have time, and if someone had given wrong advice, I doubt it was intentional.

Ooh grumpy!!

Just spend a few minutes reading it thru and see what the current situation is!

Not difficult is it?

what is the point in typing out the wrong advice because you couldnt be bothered to read the thread.

No need to be huffy!!

wow - you must be a very quick reader if you can read VERY long threads (as many of them are) in just a few minutes!

A skim read is all it takes!

Often I just read the OP's posts.

but you asking everyone to read the whole thread but you just read the OP? now im confused

Huh?

I said skim read.

sometimes I read the OP's posts to see if her situation has changed or if she has taken advice from other MNetters.

I agree that it can take time to read all the posts but if you dont read the thread what is the point in posting?

No, she's saying she reads everything posted by the original poster. I skimread, too, watching out for anything by the OP.

Doesn't she mean she reads all of the OP's posts?

Agree though that you can't possibly read whole threads, well not if you want a life as well!

thank you NQC!

Just recently some MNetters have been upset by well intentioned advice that is completely irrelevant because of the OP's change of circumstances.

I wasnt trying to be nasty, just asking for people to take the time to read threads.

ahh now if everyone only read the OP's posts it would be much easier to read the entire thread - as they'd be much shorter.......long threads tend to be, well.....long, because people comment on other poster's comments - if they only commented on the OP's posts we'd be sorted

you trying to be difficult FA??!!

agree totally. sorry the thread title said to read the whole thread..thats where i got confused. i always read anthing by the OP anyway..i just had visions of reading through 500 plus messages on some threads. it would take forever.

I skim read the whole thread paying more attention to the OP's points.

If she comments that someone has made a good point then I go back to that person and read their great advice!!

and if they made a bad point i go back and look too

me too!!!

and when it goes into a fight I read it twice!!!!

pmsl nothing better than a virtual brawl