Is there a DV policy?

[Battleax]

Latest example of everyone going a bit potty;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3139165-My-husband-just-strangled-me-in-front-of-our-kids?pg=1&order=

I know MNHQ have posted on the thread, but there are still posts standing that say "He will definitely kill you" and "He will absolutely kill you". Plus a general air of shouty hysteria.

It's not helpful in a RL domestic violence situation to have people getting over excited like that.

Hopefully OP is long gone and engaging with RL services but I've noticed it's a bit of an escalating trend lately, and it's frankly a bit crap.

I do think though that the police in different areas react differently and where it might be better in one town to phone the police and seek a restraining order it might not in a different one.

In addition each situation is individual and therefore real life information is far more valuable.

These are very tricky situations and the difference between supporting and advising isn't always clear.

I do think there are times/ situations when run for your life is unfortunately the best advice.

I am not sure if that all makes sense outside of my head.

In my area, the police remove the aggressor either to another address or the cells depending on the aggressors behaviour and history.

They work with the charity Staying Put to try and help victims stay in the home, changing locks etc, making vulnerable persons reports to SS if necessary.

They have connections with Women's Aid and Rape crisis.

I naively thought this was a UK wide approach - it isn't but it should be as it's actually more economically viable in a time of budget cuts.

Hi all

Coming back to let you know that we've spoken to Women's Aid who are going to help us put together a page of information about the various things that MNers should be aware of when supporting women to leave - including explaining why it's not always possible or advisable to do so immediately.

Please could you let us know if/when you see this happening again? We'll point people in the direction of the new page once it's live (may take a month or two) but in the meantime, we're happy to make the point that hectoring is not in the spirit. With luck this will diffuse things.

Thanks all for bringing this up - very helpful.
MNHQ

That's fabulous. Thanks. Will do

Thank you.

That's great! Thank you.

Good response MN towers .

And well done Battleax for raising the issue.

all round

That's great, thank you

I'm so glad you've talked to the people who really know about this.

Mumsnet exists because it gives support. Women who are struggling ask each other for information. ..

Information is power 😀