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Is there a DV policy?

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Battleax · 14/01/2018 17:58

Latest example of everyone going a bit potty;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3139165-My-husband-just-strangled-me-in-front-of-our-kids?pg=1&order=

I know MNHQ have posted on the thread, but there are still posts standing that say "He will definitely kill you" and "He will absolutely kill you". Plus a general air of shouty hysteria.

It's not helpful in a RL domestic violence situation to have people getting over excited like that.

Hopefully OP is long gone and engaging with RL services but I've noticed it's a bit of an escalating trend lately, and it's frankly a bit crap.

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KateMumsnet · 15/01/2018 10:51

Hi Battleax,

Thanks for raising this. As you know, we only see threads when they're reported to us - and in fact we don't often get reports that posters are being advised to take DV more seriously than they should.

We do appreciate, though, that this is a very sensitive area, so we remind people that other posters mightn't be qualified to offer 'official' advice at the top of relationship threads. We also direct them to our domestic violence web guide for useful links to real life support (and sometimes, we'll jump on to post the links ourselves).

As with other topics, we generally find that other Mumsnetters are very quick to chip in where they think OP is being poorly advised - but please, if you feel any individual posts cross the line, do report them to us using the report button. We're always very happy to take a look.

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KateMumsnet · 15/01/2018 11:18

Sorry you found it flippant - it certainly wasn't intended to be. Please do come back if you have suggestions for how MNHQ should deal with situations like this - we'd be very happy to consider them.

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KateMumsnet · 17/01/2018 12:27

Hi all, and thanks for all your thoughts - I'm clear now about what the problem is and can completely see your positions. I think the best thing is if we give it some serious thought here and come back to you in a couple of weeks or so. We've found over time that there are often knock-ons when we make changes and in such a serious area I think we'd feel remiss if we didn't give ourselves time to think them through. We'll also get back in touch with our friends at Refuge and Women's Aid for their thoughts.

Thanks again for your input - I'll come back to this thread to update.

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KateMumsnet · 26/01/2018 15:13

Hi all

Coming back to let you know that we've spoken to Women's Aid who are going to help us put together a page of information about the various things that MNers should be aware of when supporting women to leave - including explaining why it's not always possible or advisable to do so immediately.

Please could you let us know if/when you see this happening again? We'll point people in the direction of the new page once it's live (may take a month or two) but in the meantime, we're happy to make the point that hectoring is not in the spirit. With luck this will diffuse things.

Thanks all for bringing this up - very helpful.
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