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Dear MN why do people waste their time on here? Im off, a good New Year to all !

164 replies

NotForMe · 30/12/2006 00:06

Dear MN
This site should be good, but it is full of people who should be getting help in RL.
Parents or carers should be spending time playing with their children instead of typing rubbish on here.
And then COD and all that stuff. Oh my.
I was touched when I joined and helped in the Xmas appeal and it was well planned.
The receiver has been having a hard time, I know and i was happy to give to anyone to make their Xmas abit brighter.
But, but what pisses me off when they then post about expensive gifts they brought for their kids, things I couldnt afford to give my kids this year. Whats all that about? Just didnt think did they!
One good thing has come out of it, and that is this experience has taught me a good lesson for the New Year and that is to hold those who are your friends and family in RL close to you and stop mucking around and wasting your time with people here who are trying to be funny, put you down or just offer rubbish advice.
Its all too much for a simple mum like me. I wish you all good luck in the future, but im off.
Only stayed 3 months, so take this as my notice of leaving.
I hope you all have a better and Happier New Year especially to those who truly deserve it like martianbishop.
Kind regards

OP posts:
idontlikecrusts · 30/12/2006 00:50

lol twinset and your paranoia!

Well the email doesn't have to be accusatory either does it.

Franny has been here for more than 3 months hasn't she? Please say yes. I am sure she has but paranoia is paranoia afterall!

PinkTinsel · 30/12/2006 00:54

lol, she has IDLC hope all mine have..... i posted about owning a dyson earlier and it's freaking me out now that i'm this posters receiver........ (my old hoover was about to blow up and we got child benefit money and i figured a clean house was of benefit to my babies just in case you were wondering)

idontlikecrusts · 30/12/2006 01:00

Rofl about the Dyson. I've been drinking expensive Champagne too and posted about it (again not bought by me) tonight.

I may never speak of any future wealth without fear!

PinkTinsel · 30/12/2006 01:03

snap IDLC, am going to be justifying every expensive thing i mention on MN now

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2006 01:08

Haha!

That's the funniest OP I've read in ages!

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 01:10

Bye!

Can you leave the wine for the rest of us?

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 01:14

I got some good stuff for Xmas this year. As gifts.

I write crackin' thank you notes!

But nah, 'twasn't me. Didn't go hog wild w/spending and haven't got any savings - although, I did buy the girls some Premium Bonds w/the money the ILs gave 'em, b/c the draws you get entered into are GREAT!

Mainly that whole practice of paying you early for Xmas just BLOWS! Then you're six weeks till your next cheque.

Take it from me, that blows worse than that storm out there.

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2006 01:18

Sorry, just reads the rest of the thread.

Can we p;ease just stop getting all hyper sensitive about 'receiving' posters. Wasn't the defining element in the whole 'she who must not be named' debacle the savage sense of humour and irony??

This isn't a BBC forum - thank fuck - where this post would be pulled for using the fuck work, FFS!

Yes, people log on to connect, but if it's not for them then there are plenty of other forums where they will fit in and self censor to their hearts content!

Thank fuck for mumsnet - for parents of stronger constitutions!

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2006 01:21

Hijack alert -

Expat, please forgive me for not sending you an xmas card..I was part of a ruse to get your address to send said gifts. Hope you and the girls got some noce ones and forgive me...!

Thanks for the fotie though

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 01:22

I re-read, too, MT.

Great post.

Sorry about my earlier one.

I post at my job b/c it's boring and no one cares that I post all day as long as I pick up the phone when it rings, greet people when they come in nicely and do their photocopying.

And I post in the evenings after my children go to bed b/c my husband works pretty much every evening and weekends, too, but I can't go out b/c someone has to stay w/the children.

Now 'The Fast and the Furious' is on and damn, say what you like about mah boy Vin Diesel, but damn he is mighty fine!

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 01:23

I sussed that out when I got the package, MT!

I stand properly rumbled .

Did you get my card, though? I was going to have DD1 'sign' it, too, but she was in one of her Scottish girl moods .

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2006 01:25

Yes, I got it thanks! x

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 01:27

Mmmm, Vin Diesel . . .

Michelle Rodriguez had an affair w/Kylie's boyfriend, Olivier Martinez. I'm sure Kylie's a nice person and all, but I can sort of see why Olivier might go w/Michelle.

She's got to be at least 4 inches taller than Kylie .

happybebe · 30/12/2006 13:23

I think i too would feel a little upset at spending money on a gift for someone who says they are hard done by and then posts all the expensive presents their kids got. I am hard done by lol but i still know that my parents will spend a fortune on my kids despite that and so would not suggest my kids would be getting conkers and oranges for christmas!

With regards to RL, I own a parenting site and am on there frequently...when my kids are not asleep but contrary to a lot of peoples beliefs, kids dont need to be played with all day long, unless you want to end up having to do that for the rest of their childhood! a good 30 mins play in my eyes every couple of hours is a lot better than half hearted all day playing when you cant think of anymore stupid faces to pull and if you hear that stupid play mobile go off one more time you will throw it out the window.

This is RL in my opinion, so its the internet, but its real people in their RL that are posting about it and getting help and support that maybe arent on tap in thir RL.

Whats the big deal?? Most people know on here i am an avid she who must not be named mum, and have defended her, been attacked many a time, but i still come on here and still enjoy it...thicker skins for all!

SchneeBallFight · 30/12/2006 13:33

'This site should be good, but it is full of people who should be getting help in RL.'

I would never have gotten help in RL (for PND) if it hadnt been for MN. I live in the middle of nowhere, my friends have moved to the city and my mum is dead - sometimes I need to talk to someone and MN is always here.

nutcracker · 30/12/2006 13:35

I didn't see anyone suggesting that their kids were getting conkers and oranges.

Tortington · 30/12/2006 13:43

i thnk it rather depends on what you take or give to mumsnet.

i am sorry you have found it to be dissapointing and feel slighted with regards to your contribution.

there are a couple of people on mn who need serious real life help and refuse to go and get itbecuase this is easier. however i would bet my arse that there are tens more that have found courage through mumsnet to go on and make thier lives happier. and there are somepeople who use it as a great support for the mundanities that you wouldnt bore your worse aunt with.

today i have seen

advice for someone who wants to start their own business.

a thread about saddam hussain that has made me think about my own views on him and his execution with some very illuminating and intelligent posts.

support thread for a mnetter who has a husband in prison.

the lighter/darker side of ear piercing

home ed - debate/debacle.

a woman who is in an abusive relationship who is getting support regarding housing /social services.

its what you give and take to mumsnet which makes it. i am sure we all have mumsnetters we avoid or dont respond to. as we have had advce we take or leave.

BeetrootsResolution · 30/12/2006 13:47

7 kids upstairs playing playstation, reading books, shooting with toy guns - darn it I should be playing scrabble with them rather than discussing 9/11.

motherinfurrierfestivefrock · 30/12/2006 13:49

But the people on MN are real. I've met loads of them. Lovely, they are.

myrrhthamoo · 30/12/2006 13:51

I just don't get why you have to change your name to say you are leaving? Bizarre!

myrrhthamoo · 30/12/2006 13:51

You haven't met me, MI. I'm a figment of my own imagination.

sunnywong · 30/12/2006 13:51
WideWebWitch · 30/12/2006 13:52

yes, the impact is lost somewhat if we don't know who you are!

I have a dh who has taken one child out and an ex dh who is playing on the Wii with the other so I'm here.

glitterfairyrenewed · 30/12/2006 13:52

MN has kept me sane through a divorce with an abusive and controlling man. It has provided me with advice, friendships and a space for calm, reason and fun. Sometimes there is nothing going on and the conversations are dull and boring but that is like real life imo.

Each to their own but why flounce off leaving messages like this?

Pinkchampagne · 30/12/2006 13:52

I second what SchneeBallFight said about being encouraged to seek more RL support because of MN! The support from posters on MN has helped me make all kinds of moves that I may have avoided or put off otherwise! It is also good to be able to talk about things at any time of day or night, you know there will always be someone around on MN!
I am sorry you feel put out that your receiver appeared to splash out on expensive gifts after you donating a gift to them, but like others have said, some people were nominated because they have had a tough year & could do with a little something to lift their spirits a bit.
I did not nominate myself for the appeal, but did offer to donate something, so was very shocked to receive an e mail saying I had been nominated by someone to receive something.
I was sent a present for each of my boys & a little something for myself by two lovely, genorous MN'ers & I am so grateful to them both - it was a really lovely suprise.
I did feel a bit bad though, as I was not nominated because I couldn't afford Christmas, more that I have had a bit of a bad year.
I didn't spend a fortune on my boys for Christmas, but I got them what they wanted.
I am sorry you feel this way about things, but MN really is a great place.
I shall now go down to my abandoned children!

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