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Dear MN why do people waste their time on here? Im off, a good New Year to all !

164 replies

NotForMe · 30/12/2006 00:06

Dear MN
This site should be good, but it is full of people who should be getting help in RL.
Parents or carers should be spending time playing with their children instead of typing rubbish on here.
And then COD and all that stuff. Oh my.
I was touched when I joined and helped in the Xmas appeal and it was well planned.
The receiver has been having a hard time, I know and i was happy to give to anyone to make their Xmas abit brighter.
But, but what pisses me off when they then post about expensive gifts they brought for their kids, things I couldnt afford to give my kids this year. Whats all that about? Just didnt think did they!
One good thing has come out of it, and that is this experience has taught me a good lesson for the New Year and that is to hold those who are your friends and family in RL close to you and stop mucking around and wasting your time with people here who are trying to be funny, put you down or just offer rubbish advice.
Its all too much for a simple mum like me. I wish you all good luck in the future, but im off.
Only stayed 3 months, so take this as my notice of leaving.
I hope you all have a better and Happier New Year especially to those who truly deserve it like martianbishop.
Kind regards

OP posts:
Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:25

I x-posted with some of you when I said you'd reinforced her reasons for leaving, so my post wasn't referring to all of you. I just think that people on here can be pretty abrupt which is fine if you've come across each other before, but it can be really off-putting to a newbie.

JoolsToo · 30/12/2006 00:25

Spider solitaire is more entertaining currently ......

JoolsToo · 30/12/2006 00:25

or Free Cell

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/12/2006 00:25

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mysonsmummy · 30/12/2006 00:25

notforme - if thats how the feel then why change your name. confront the person if thats how its making you feel and give them a chance to defend themselves. i would be put out as well if it was me.

twinkle - what do you mean - sorry i dont get what you mean?? thanks

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:26

LOL Hunker. I remember being quite upset by a post of yours on one of my threads a while back, but I've toughened up now and I can take it!

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:27

VVVQV

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:27

Really, Twinklemegan?

Sorry.

I never mean to upset anyone. I just get carried away. I have small demonic creatures living under my fingernails. I try and try not to post when they're at their peak strength, but they overpower me sometimes

hotmulledwinemama · 30/12/2006 00:28

I haven't 'jumped' on nfm.

However, I am going to respond to a post from someone making sweeping statements about parents not some parents not playing with their children etc. Her post is at midnight - not 10 am in the morning - not that it really makes any difference but ykwim.

I am typing rubbish on mnet because my children are asleep! I have been playing with them all day - this is me time!

lemonice · 30/12/2006 00:28

I have left and come back as my old self which is quite weird instead of the people i was in btween

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:30

When I first joined MN I posted some opinions in good faith and it was like jumping into a firepit! In real life people tend to be polite for at least a little while, but on here it's in at the deep end. It's not just this site by the way, but for someone not used to posting on web forums it can come as a shock to the system.

louii · 30/12/2006 00:30

Leave, stay, does anyone really care?

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:30

I love it.

Much better than the how-do-you-do bollocks you have to endure time after time in RL

sandcastles · 30/12/2006 00:31

Maybe she is talking about me, cos it is 11am here in Oz.

I'm not playing with my dd.

That's cos dh has taken her out on her bike so I can have an hour to myself as I play with her all week!

SantasFattymumma · 30/12/2006 00:31

just don't slam the door, my kids are asleep

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:32

It was only because it was a sensitive subject for me Hunker. I've learned my lesson now. Actually, no I haven't. I started a thread on another sensitive subject recently under an alter ego and I still got offended! But that's my fault because I should know what to expect by now!

ledodgychristmasjumper · 30/12/2006 00:33

I don't think I rounded on the Op at all I think I asked a valid question.

mysonsmummy · 30/12/2006 00:34

sorry twinkle - i understand what you meant now (am very new to this)

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:36

But when you are upset at something and stating a view point that you know is going to be unpopular you do feel jumped upon esecially whe you are new even though that may not be the aim of the posters. I think that perhaps if NOTforme had used a different thread title this would have gone down better and perhaps not made daftremrks about people not playing with their children.

SantasFattymumma · 30/12/2006 00:37

twinkle - i was ousted as a troll on one of my first posts...im still here.

you have to learn that your are asking somewhere near 250,000 people their opinion on your situation...people are going to have differing views. if you cannot handle the opinions that don't match your own then dont post.

it gets quite irritating seeing posts like this. if you dont lilke it here then dont post. dont twll us you have been here five miinutes, no one knows you but you have changed your name anyway just so you can flounce...just piss off quietly fgs.

Yes NFM had a valid point about the supposed misplaced generosity and as i states, i can understand her frustration but there is no need to come and post in a way that is bound to offend the majority of this site.

You however Twinkle have posted, got burned and learned to grow and extra layer of hide...you'll fit in well my dear

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:39

I that why I ahve gone up two dress sizes since posting on mumsnet, it isn;t because I eat tool much but all my extra layers of hide I am developing.

idontlikecrusts · 30/12/2006 00:41

Jeezuz! I am paranoid again now.

I've been posting my life's woes on here this week both when the children have been asleep and when I should have been playing with them.

I also posted about presents that were expensive today such as a Gameboy, but that were bought unexpectedly by grandparents.

I'd be pissed off at the suggested insensitivity but maybe you could have taken it up directly with the person involved rather than venting so scathingly on here?

PinkTinsel · 30/12/2006 00:45

agree with idon'tlikecrust, if you have doubts about your receiver why not take it up with them and make sure you know the full story?

also i believe some of the receivers were nominated not because of money troubles but just because they've had a really shitty year and deserved a bit of christmas spirit.

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:48

But surely getting an accusatory email would be quite unpleasant as well. But then again only one perons would have been involved rather than mass paranioa. I am starting to feel paranoid and guilty and I didn't even getany mumsnet gifts.

PinkTinsel · 30/12/2006 00:49

thats what i mean twinset, all the receiver will be feeling pretty shitty and paranoid reading this, even if our lo's didn't get any expensive presents!

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