Just had box set ruined by a thread title- can we have a bit more curtesy please

[Carmenandgetit]

So I have been watching a programme on box set and when it started on TV I stopped going on any websites that may give it away before I watch it. Only for me to see a spoiler in active thread as a title.

Have some consideration for other people please - there are plenty of threads on the programme that do not have spoilers in then title.

So cheers to whoever started the thread - I don't know who as am not opening it.

don't know how this can be stopped from happening again. Just wanted to vent really

MumOnTheRun. There is no rule. There is a polite request and there is common sense. I assume that people who work/have children/don't have that channel/are busy that night probably don't watch it immediately. The point isn't that there's a temporal rule but that in this case, it's only been 12 hours and common sense dictates that lots of people won't have seen it yet.

wannabe, lots of people (including me) posted 'contains spoilers, can you get it amended, have you alerted hq?' It wasn't pages of personal attacks. There were about 15 responses and they read as 'thanks a fucking bunch that's really bad form' mostly which was a reaction to the spoiler, not an attack on the op really. Some people said 'I've reported this to get it amended' and some people answered the op's question. It wasn't an outright bunfight or personal attack though there were some totally unwarranted responses.

There's absolutely no reason for a lot of the vitriol on this thread either. Telling the op to get a fucking grip or that she's pathetic? Really? For a polite request? It goes both ways. It's nothing to do with the question being asked. Individual people are responsible for their own fuckwittery. This doesn't detract from the actual thing the op is suggesting.

As I said in my post above, MNHQ say in the deletion message that it was deleted because of spoilers. The op of the thread also wanted it deleted because she'd realised her mistake. The personal attacks were just another reason why.

We can nitpick over personal attacks for hours if you want but we're all agreeing surely? They're never warranted. They're ridiculous and inappropriate. Right, so what about agreeing to put spoilers in the thread instead of in the title? Anybody want to talk about that? I mean it's a tiny thing and it's been politely requested. MNHQ actively encourage it and it makes you a thoughtful user of the forum. Nobody want to discuss that? Or do they just want to criticise other people for being different or argue over whether personal attacks are warranted when nobody has even said they are?

I said nearly everyone Furiosa. You don't know who lives, do you?

They didn't delete the thread because of the spoiler, they deleted it because it was full of gratuitously nasty attacks on the OP for spoiling.

limitedperiodonly hardly anyone?

It's a zombie programme, nobody died!

That was my point Wannabe, over the FC thing. It's just another example of people doing things differently but believing they're right and arguing over it. I've been on those threads this week. The key point is that you have a choice about whether you deliberately negatively impact somebody else's life. You can do things your own way, you can believe what you want, you can quibble over the word spoiler. However, if you know it's likely that you're ruining a surprise for somebody and you have a choice over whether to do that but do it anyway, it says everything about you and nothing about whether believing in FC is acceptable or similar.

And at no point did I say believing in FC is the same as a spoiler debate. I was illustrating a point about difference and choice but again you can quibble all you like over the semantics of that whilst ignoring what is a simple, polite request which actually doesn't negatively impact other users at all.

Anyway, I really am going out.

The OP is on The Walking Dead thread in Telly Addicts so surely she must be used to gratuitously nasty attacks.

Just before I go. The thread deletion message:

"
AIBU? : [Title removed by MNHQ due to spoiler. Thread removed] 1 message.
Thread deleted

    Message from MNHQ: HUGE THE WALKING DEAD SPOILER <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Angry" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/angry-BLHnmhGV.png">

    We'll get in touch with the OP (we're coming for you, jaxswagger)"

It was deleted for various reasons.

Again, for the last time, nobody is defending personal attacks.

Hi all - apologies if the deletion message didn't fully explain the situation.
It was a failure at being lighthearted

We'll edit it now to include the information about personal attacks.

"It's a zombie programme, nobody died!"

Yes they did, that's the whole point of zombies.

I got the joke in the deletion message CountBecula.

I missed the gratuitously nasty attacks because I instantly reported the thread title and by the time I went back to pile in in a shuffling, snarling way, you'd deleted the thread.

I was prim rather than abusive in my report

It's the head ghoul in me.

Context for the joke in the deletion message:

Bum posted the same link twice, doh! The second one should be

Usual not everyone can watch a programme when it first airs surely you're intelligent enough to know that?

Agree with ShowOfHands

SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed

Doh! I totally didn't notice the the "coming to get you" reference in the original deletion message. Well done for pointing it out.

Good god, them in MNHQ are sharp aren't they?

MN, I got the joke in the deletion message. It was funny.

Once again, to everybody else, I apologize for the spoiler in the title. It wasn't till I pressed on the 'post message' icon that I realized what I'd done and that the message title in itself was one HUGE spoiler.

A case of act in haste, repent at leisure?

I liked the deletion message before they changed it

Awww jaxswagger I felt really bad for you.

I've PM'd the answer to your question though.

Hey usual they escaped! To the ........COUNTRY

SPOILERS!!!!

The country isn't safe. Look at what happened to Ed and Amy and the whole farm business.

I don't watch the programme and neither did I see the thread but I don't see why anyone would disagree that it's just common sense and courtesy not to give away the key points of a programme in a thread title be it the X factor/Bake Off/Apprentice winner or the murderer in a crime thriller.

OF course people are invested in shows they like, even if you aren't personally it sure doesn't take much thought to see that other people might be.

I'm only on Season 5. If I want to be on social media sites I have to run the risk of spoilers and suck it up if they appear.
Same with any series we watch.

I've been mulling this over all day and now I'm wondering if rich bastards who pay for TV shows before they go on Freeview deserve to have it spoiled and then be mocked for their disappointment.

In fact spoiling the show and rejoicing in subscribers' dismay could be considered a noble political act.