Making Adoption board "opt in"

[JamHoneyMarmite]

I know we've asked eleventy billion times before, but please? Please could we make the adoption board an "opt in" like the SN area? I would love it to be welcoming for adopters, prospective adopters, adoptees, birth families, and all open-minded curious folk - but I would also love it not to get bombarded by "I haven't adopted but you're doing it wrong" posts just because it shows up in Active convos.

So, I don't ask this with much hope after the other times people have asked, but pleeeeeease?

That's brilliant - thanks, MNHQ!

I agree with the suggestion to moving it out of 'Becoming a Parent' - and moving Fostering as well makes sense.

Is it worth also having a discussion about whether posts in adoption are automatically deleted after a specified time period (as happens with _Chat)? One of my concerns about regularly posting on the Adoption board is how easy it is for people to build up a picture of a posters identity over time. Given the real security risks some posters in Adoption are facing, having your posts exist indefinitely is a concern. I know NCing and changing details help over come this, but with the small number of posters and people having identifiable posting styles and issues it's still a concern for me (I may be alone in this ofc).

I appreciate that making every thread have a limited lifespan may not be suitable, but if there were to be sections, one that does would be fantastic.

Brilliant, thanks MNHQ!!

I am an adopter who started a thread a few years ago about some really tough stuff that I was struggling with about my adopted DD and got a flaming for being uncaring and heartless amongst other things. I can now come back and feel less judged as a crap parent! Some things only another adopter could possibly understand and I would value a place where i can say exactly what I feel.

Yes, I totally support this and have found the thread to be very supportive in the past.
Some people are also afraid of posting sometimes or a bit cautious as they think it's only for adoptive parents. They are soon welcomed though and I think a designated topic would help to encourage this.

I haven't seen any but the posts mentioned above "doing it all wrong' coming from those with no experience must be so frustrating.

Thanks MN - much appreciated.

One of the nicest things that has come out of this thread is some old names popping back up and searching for their old threads to remind myself who their DC@s are etc then wasting a whole pile of time reading through things I'd forgotten about.

So thanks for that too.

Great news, thanks MN towers

Thanks MN