hide poster button, impersonally

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RebeccaMumsnet said:

Please do start another thread about the hide poster option, but avoid making it personal.

I would like to be able to hide goady / drum-banging / just plain boring posters. I would not at all mind being hidden by everyone else.

Anyone else have comments they've not made yet on this one?

Not certain how to take, that, Line!

Though I do wonder sometimes if I'm the weirdo in any given dispute...

I was really confused when I first joined MN because I'd never heard of the term 'goady fucker' - & seeing it abbreviated to gf all over the place I thought people were talking about their girlfriends - thought I'd walked into a massive lesbian drama.

Modestine Trolling, goading and sock-puppeting exist and are against Mumsnet Talk Guidelines. They cause distress to vulnerable posters, and I report them frequently. Much more frequently than I used to.

Sophie You were pretty spot on in what you were saying upthread, imho. Not a weirdo

Thank you, Line, that's very kind.

LikeIcan - ha! That's really funny!

LikeICan

It's quite difficult to monitor 'goady fuckerness'. One person's goady fucker is another person's favourite who gets patted on the back every time she 'goads'. It's subjective.

There are some posters whose entire contribution consists of attention seeking threads designed to push posters' buttons. Certain posters start several of these posts a day in AIBU, refuse to accept that they could possibly be BU and they then proceed to be abusive to others who disagree with them. They rarely contribute to other threads and bump their own threads if attention isn't maintained.

They name change after a few days and return to being a goady fucker. Perhaps bumbleymummy you'd like to comment on how a subjective assessment of their behaviour on the part of any reasonable poster would come to the conclusion that this was defensible posting behaviour?

Ilovesooty, but not everyone accused of goadiness is posting like that. Yes, you could call that style goady but on other threads people can be accused of being goady for having a different opinion or for making a one-off smart ass comment amongst loads of others being thrown around on the thread. Some people get away with it and are often admired for 'telling it like it is' or whatever while others will get jumped on.

I really don't understand why adults can't just skip past a poster. If they're being a goady fucker think "goady fucker" and move on. If someone is dominating a thread, hide it, start a new one worded differently. Seriously if an online persona can cause raised blood pressure then you are possibly a touch over invested. In a rl conversation most people are perfectly capable of ignoring someone, why is it so tough here?

I wouldn't want one.
It's silly and pandering imo, and can easily stray into 'mean girls' style bullying (by cliques freezing out certain posters they disagree with).
We're all adults, and perfectly able to ignore posters we don't like/agree with, without needing to have them hidden from our delicate view.

(I haven't read the thread btw, so nothing against any posters who do want one, just wanted to register my opinion if mnhq are seriously considering introducing one).

I'd like it- I doubt I'd use it all that much, but it would certainly be useful for the very annoying blood-pressure raisers who play the guidelines in there favour but add nothing useful. I could see me contributing more on Feminism threads, for example, if I didn't have to read the irritating drivel of some of the goaders.

There are loads of posters who fly just under the radar. They are passive aggressive and know just how to post without getting deleted. I'd like to hide them, it would make MN a much nicer place

wouldn't it be better if mn hq just dealt with the GF?
instead they derail threads. get called on it and then act the victim.
I don't have any one I want to hide, I just ignore them in my head now.

But people get called gf for having opinions contrary to the mumsnet acceptable opinion and are shouted down if they refuse to change their mind or if they dare to restate what they think. Happens all the time on benefits threads or poorly behaved children threads or au pair threads etx.

I see GF as people that start threads about subjects that they know full well will cause a massive bunfight and that generally people on MN have strong opinions about. then they act all innocent.

There should be a bit after you type the OP before 'Post Message' that says 'Are you sure you want to post this?' and give you ten seconds to have a think.

Hi all,

Thanks for this thread, we have had a good look through now and there doesn't seem to be a clear majority on this one. From our perspective here at MNHQ, we can see how a hide poster function could cause lots of trouble with people using it against each other and creating further bad feeling and arguments.

We have and do take action and will continue to against gfs, please keep reporting. It may take a little longer than out and out trolls but we will have a word at the very least when lots of people are being wound up by an individual.

Thanks again

Haha Sparklers I use Preview Post like that.

I have done on a few occassions Patti, and thought 'you know what I don't think I will post that after all'

I like Preview Post, especially when a picture is to be attached. i have nightmares about posting a random picture from the family photo album or something.

Precisely why I dinnae bother with photos. The risk of it all Going Wrong v high

[Imagines what MN Hive Mind would make of our comedy vegetables at Country Shows collection]

I don't think adults should need to hide posters really

It can't be that hard to skip past posts you don't like.

Worra -if posters have personally attacked and name called it's hard to skip over them even if they do get deleted. It would be nice to hide them and not have them pop up on threads you are enjoying. I just can't see how it's any different from the hiding thread option we already have.

Oh, just read back and have seen its a no go