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Somebody just called me angry... I guess I am

94 replies

dejags · 16/10/2006 07:58

I am ashamed to say that over the past couple of months I have let a website actually make me angry.

This'll be my last post so if anybody cares - here's why:

The sanctimonious, dare I say it "holier than thou" attitude of so many posters on this forum is just more than I can stomach for a minute longer. Don't eat this, don't feed your baby this way, I am so bloody marvellous - my God there are a lot of members on MN who should be awarded multiple gold threads.

I am also sick to DEATH of the BF vs FF debate. It has now become so boring I think if I have to read one more evangelical thread about the subject I'll expire - or at least the part of my brain capable of processing new information will.

I think now I am into my third pregnancy the more experienced parent in me is finding the whining, witchhunts and general crappy atmosphere a waste of time.

I shan't be logging on anymore. Au-revoir MN.

dejags
x

OP posts:
bctmum · 16/10/2006 12:29

what happened?

I must be in another mnet world

SoupDragon · 16/10/2006 12:33

I'm with Franny. The whining about how MN has changed blahblahblah is what p*sses me off the most.

Blu · 16/10/2006 12:40

"Diversity is what makes the world go round!"

Absolutely true...but I'm not sure if that is always reflected in the way diverse experiences of the world are receivfed and commented on on MN! But that's something we can negotiate and encourage around, isn't it?

Hey ho - Dejags - I didn't know you were pg again! Fantastic!" I remember you being in a panic about the birth of your last baby because some neighbour who was your back-up childcare went out on the razz in an irresponsible binge on your due date! Congratulations!

LIZS · 16/10/2006 12:40

Agree MN has evolved over the past few years and will continue to do so, and that is what makes it interesting. There are some topics I'm tired of and generally avoid, mainly as my kids are a bit older too and my experience less relevant, but others are just starting out.

Sorry you feel this way Dejags.

SoupDragon · 16/10/2006 12:41

Something else I don't get is why people (not just dejags ) start threads saying "Im going and this is why..." Do they think everyone will sit up and go "Oh my! That's right! let's stop immediately!". If you want to go, just go. Whenever Ive been bored/p-ed off I just disappear for a week or so with no fuss.

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:42

I'm not saying nobody should mention if they are unhappy about something, or think that something should change, but it's the general non-specific whinging about holier than thou types, dumbing down, smugness, etc etc that gets me. If something upsets you on a thread it is best dealt with directly on that thread or in private with the person who offended you.

If you don't like things round here, do something constructive to try to change it, or leave.

And if you want to leave, just go. Threads like this do nothing for morale and I can't honestly see what purpose they achieve unless the OP is hoping for a stream of "Oh don't go" comments, or is thinking that their departure will teach us all a good old lesson and that once they have gone we will see the error of our ways.

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:43

Cross posts Soupy. We are not normally so in accord, I don't think? Long may it last.

diNOLOOKINGOVERYOURSHOULDERsau · 16/10/2006 12:44

Oh congrats dejags, I didn't know you were pg again either! Hope that you come back after a break.

diNOLOOKINGOVERYOURSHOULDERsau · 16/10/2006 12:45

Well, that's us told, Franny .

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:48

Thanks for answering btw Vanilla, I just didn't recognise your name and your post seemed very, "robust" shall we say. I thought you were perhaps a regular who was using a pseudonym to get at dejags, sorry.

BATtymumma · 16/10/2006 12:48

I can understand to a certain extent where dejags is coming from.

I have found myself getting wound up by threads on here recently in a way that i never thught possible on an internet forum.

buti have no other life, so i guess ill stay

diNOLOOKINGOVERYOURSHOULDERsau · 16/10/2006 12:49

I'm the same, BATty...

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:49

Dino, good.

Next please

moondog · 16/10/2006 12:50

See you in oooh...a week or two then Dejags.
Byeeeeeeee

CarolinahowlingattheMoon · 16/10/2006 12:53

yeah, ks, what happened to mods?

is the site too big for them now?

we could have them in parallel with the Report this Post thing - they did a different job.

cod · 16/10/2006 12:54

Message withdrawn

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:55

Yes don't slam the revolving door on your way out

(sorry actually dejags I feel I am being quite rude to you in particular, but I am just a bit hacked off with the moaning round here in general. I hope you enjoy your MN break if you choose to continue it and hope your pregnancy goes well also)

cod · 16/10/2006 12:55

Message withdrawn

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 12:55

meringues??

Now you are going too far, fishy

harpsichordcarrion · 16/10/2006 12:56

actually I have been thinking about it all morning and I think more and more that mods would be a good idea.
I might start a thread....

cod · 16/10/2006 12:56

Message withdrawn

diNOLOOKINGOVERYOURSHOULDERsau · 16/10/2006 12:59

What! Need mods? With Franny doing such a sterling job here? Tsk!

SoMuchToBats · 16/10/2006 13:00

If we didn't have men on the site, cod, there might not be so many scandals where everyone shags everyone!!

diNOLOOKINGOVERYOURSHOULDERsau · 16/10/2006 13:01

Or at least they wouldn't be so likely to result in pregnancies...

FrannyandZooey · 16/10/2006 13:01

most of us "breastfeeding militants" spend a lot of our time helping women in need, you know

If there wasn't such a crappy breastfeedig culture, or lack of one, in the UK there would be no need for us "breastfeeding militants" to be trying to help women out, in our spare time, for nothing

HC is a ruddy antenatal teacher and you would think she must know the best places for women to get help and support with breastfeeding. A colleague of hers was having a problem feeding her baby at the weekend and who did HC suggest she phone for help - a midwife? her doctor? ANYBODY who is being paid to look after women and babies and might actually be expected to be able to help with a feeding problem? No, she got her to phone me. Now that is sad.

Trying to help other women breastfeed tend to make you feel fairly militant about the things hindering them, IME. If you don't feel the same way, fine, but don't throw insults at those of us who do, please

(and I don't really mean you particularly cod, I have been simmering about this all morning)